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Hang in there K. - and try not to get worked up over the responses on here. We all live and learn, that's called life. Like I said I had the same thing happen, actually he was on YouTube when I thought he was playing his video game. Well now I know, and my ds is not allowed on YouTube without supervision anymore. If you're going to post on here you have to realize there will be some answers that are more judgy than helpful. A tougher skin is helpful on an online forum :) Hope you have a great day.

Don't take parenting classes or apologize!!! A 4 year old glancing youtube is far from criminal :)

You have nothing to apologize for. First of all, live and learn, right? Second, many, many, many of us learn things about technology only after our kids come across something we'd rather them not see. I'm the idiot mom who downloaded a game onto the IPad (because my 9 year old asked) that was rated 18+. I didn't even see the rating until several months later when he asked me to download an update. Ug!

Youtube is a huge challenge because once a video is completed, another one loads. If you are not standing right there to monitor, you might miss it. The video that loads next is usually based on your previous browsing. ie, what kids of videos to you tend to watch? Because I've watched videos about the Star Wars movie, Gilmore Girls, Harry Potter ajnd The Hunger Games, those are the videos that are more likely to load next. My boys have watched videos about Minecraft, so those are also likely to load.

I'm sure there are parental settings, but I haven't explored them at all. I rarely let them watch youtube for many reasons, so when they are allowed, they are very highly monitored.

Honestly, I don't think youtube is to blame for your situation. I think your daughter is just going through an "extra needy" phase. When pressed for an answer, kids will come up with something, whether it's strongly related or not. She might honestly have those fears now and then, but I doubt that's really the problem. I also don't think even she really knows why she's being extra clingy. Kids just are sometimes.

Here's what I would do. I would hang in there!!! I would schedule some alone time for myself ... use my husband or my parents or my brother or a sitter. But I would take a night off or an afternoon off. But show her as much extra love and attention as you can. Right now, that's probably going to be the most helpful thing that you can do. If she feels that you are showing her lots of love and attention, she will begin to feel more secure and will slowing stop being so clingy.

I think lots of extra cuddles and mommy love will go a long way!

K., you actually can say this on the same question by using the "So What Happened" feature.

I would recommend that you talk to your daughter's pediatrician and ask for a counselor to work with her. It might NOT really be about the dolls. It could be something else. Children can't always tell us why they feel the way they do, so they sometimes tell us other things. I would recommend getting her some help.

And by the way, sometimes things like this just happen, and it's not always someone's "fault".

I sincerely do not believe that you need to apologize or take classes (I mean, lots of classes are beneficial, but it doesn't sound like you need a class to correct any parenting mistake or fault).

The teacher, in my opinion, was wrong to suggest to 4 year olds that they view a youtube video. How could that teacher know if the child would be supervised or that the parents understand youtube? How could the teacher know that the child's parents would simply say "oh, good, little Esmerelda is watching a video her teacher suggested. I'm going to use this time for a coffee break, or to vacuum upstairs", never imagining that Esmerelda is staying on youtube and is now watching a video that is completely inappropriate. Or maybe the child is unsupervised altogether, and types in the wrong address? Not all parents are vigilant or knowledgeable and the teacher should not have suggested youtube to children of that age. Plus there are often ad banners at the bottom of youtube videos that young children (or parents who aren't very familiar with computers) may not know how to get rid of or block or dismiss. The ad banners are very often from car dealers or other innocuous sites, but around Halloween, lots of cheap car dealers or furniture stores dress up their ads for the holiday; "don't get sucked by those vampires at the big box stores! Get our spooooooky deals that you'll scream about" with blood dripping down the ad.

I once made my daughter a sensory "sweet dreams" cloth after an upsetting incident. I bought a very soft square of cloth (a good quality face cloth would do, or a nice handkerchief, or a small square of soft fabric), and sprayed it lightly with my favorite perfume (a scent my daughter liked on me and was familiar with). It was something she could touch and smell, and for awhile she kept it under her pillow and she'd pull it out and smell it if she felt upset. I think sometimes kids need a little tangible reminder that they're safe. Make the cloth small enough to tuck into her waistband at home, or in a pocket.

I hope you'll just chalk this up to a good lesson learned all around, and not really view this as a mistake.

I think it's easier for us if you post this sort of comment either in the "So What Happened" section or as an "ETA" edit after the original question. That way people don't have to jump back and forth to read all the responses.

I'm sure your daughter will grow out of this. Try not to give her too much attention on the subject. She doesn't have the vocabulary to tell you what's going on. She might not go to her room but if you put all her fun toys in there and draw the line at her following you to certain places, it will get better. What you do is less important than how consistently you do it. Good luck.

I understand where you are coming from. I let my daughter watch youtube kids to watch My Little Pony. After the cartoon went off there was an option to watch a horse give birth to a pony. Thankfully she showed it to me and we watched it together. I told her I was proud of her for showing me what appeared on the screen. She can only watch for 30 mins after homework but she has watch while we're together.

Forget what was already done and move forward. Looks like something is going on but we can't guess. If I were you, I'd go and talk to someone. Perhaps the school psychologist at the public school she will be attending next year? They can provide you with good solutions. Your pediatrician can help a lot, too.