Hi J.,
The areas you are looking in are commonly known as "The West Side" due to the fact that they are West of Detroit.
We recently bought a house in Novi and LOVE it! I grew up in Sterling Heights MI (east side) then moved out of state with my hubby for 7 years. We came back for his job at the Detroit Metro Airport. We live close to highways, shopping, and dining. I love my neighborhood (turtle creek sub at 9 and meadowbrook). All of my neighbors so far have been wonderful. They even brought over some baked goods when they came by to introduce themselves. I didn't even get that kind of greeting in Kentucky and the south is a very polite place!
Our kids go to Village Oaks Elementary. Last year they were in Catholic school and we were very unhappy there. Since we made the switch things have been so much better and I love the school. I haven't met a parent that I didn't like, and so far all of the students I have met seem to be well rounded and polite. The school as a whole has a huge sense of community. Parents are encouraged to be involved and there are always activities going on for the whole family to enjoy. Those who are unable to volunteer aren't judged and there are plenty of other ways for them to help out and get involved even if they can't physically be at the school
Novi has one of the top school districts in Michigan, with small class sizes as well. We are going through budget issues but so is everyone else. I would not let budget issues deter you from Novi.
We rented an apartment in Northville last year which is also a very nice area...it's just around the corner from our house!
My hubby works with a few people who live in Brighton and they say it is beautiful. It's a farther drive to the airport but they still love it. You can also get more house and land out that way as well. Novi has high taxes and unless you have a BIG budget you will likely have a smaller yard and or a smaller house. Our lot is a good size and we got the house for around $230,000 or $225,000. But that was last year and home prices I believe have fallen since then.
Go to www.schooldigger.com if you want to check out other cities schools.
If you are planning to move to the East side of Detroit, you have some options as well. I find the traffic to be heavier out that way and to me it's not as pretty as the West side unless you go farther North like 26 mile and up. I believe that's New Baltimore, Chesterfield, Romeo, Lake Orion etc. I would try to stay away from Warren, Southern Sterling Heights, and Centerline.
As for a Church...Our church is Church of the Holy Family on Meadowbrook. There is also St. James on 10 mile road. These are both catholic churches. I do not know about other or non denominational churches but there are plenty around and they all look nice.
Wixom, Walled Lake, and Commerce are all nice cities. I have been to all of them and it's really pretty. They are all close to each other and to Novi and Northville. Plymouth is just south of Northville and it's nice there too.
I would try to stay away from Dearborn, Westland, and Southfield. Farmington Hills is nice. We were looking there first. However, it depends on where in the city you are looking. For me, the city seems to be falling down hill. There is also Farmington, which is nice too. My preschooler actually goes to school in Farmington and will be attending Village Oaks in Novi next school year. There is a part of Farmington just across the border of Novi that's nice. There are also parts of Livonia that are nice with nice schools, West of Farmington Road and North of Five Mile. I have heard not so good things about Livonia schools, but their highschool (Stevenson) is supposed to be wonderful.
This is probably getting longer than you hoped. Good luck in your house hunt and welcome to Michigan!!!
Feel free to send me a message if you have any more questions...you can be as candid as you like I don't offend easily. I know sometimes in looking for a home people can get pretty specific in what they are looking for.