Hi M., I'm so sorry your lttle one is going through this. If you are concerned about the advice you are getting from the doctor and derm, don't hesitate to get a second, even a third opinion. Sometimes we don't want to step on our doctors toes, but if your gut is telling you this procedure may not be best, follow your mind. I have never experienced this in my children however, I subscribe to this magazine called "Babytalk", and it featured an article about a mother who's son experienced the same thing your son is going through. The advice they gave was:
1.) Stay sane about staying clean- a lot of people think you have to be dirty to get an infection, true keeping clean does cut down on germ causing bacteria, however there is no need to get "Monk" syndrome. A few simple rules- if anyone touches your son, they should first wash their hands for 20 seconds (sing your abc's while washing) with soap or use a hand sanitizer containing at least 60% alchohol. Wipe down hard surfaces-cart handles, fast-food tables, and other shared surfaces.
2.) Take care of yourself-as mothers we tend to do for everyone and forget ourselves, don't ignore your needs. Getting enough rest, proper nutrition, and excercise will build your immunity, building your own body's defenses against infections that could be passed on to your son.
3.) Be diligent about your sons vaccines- immunizations against viral diseases will reduce your baby's chance of getting secondary baacterial infections while his immune system is weakened. The same applies for you.
4.)Avoid pressuring your child's doctor for antibiotics- we don't like to see our little ones in pain, so often we may pressure our doctors into prescribing our little ones antibiotics to treat viral infections that are not neccessary. This only adds to more drug resistence strains of viral infections.
5.)Get confirmation- always insist your doctor confirms his/her diagnosis with a culture.
6.) Follow instructions carefully-follow prescribed doses carefully. Some parents tend to stop giving the recommended doses when they see an improvement in their child, don't do fall into this trap. This will only allow the strain to get stronger and adapt to the point that it too will become drug resistent. (these suggestions were outlined from the magazine "Babytalk" May 2008)
As I mentioned earlier,although I have never experienced this with my daughters, I have noticed that natural products such as Cod Liver oil, and Infant's Probiotics, have worked wonders to give my girls a measure of health(since they are natural products,that work with your body by building up it's immunity naturaly). Even the cleaning products I use are natural to prevent any preventable toxins in the air at home (if the natural cleaning products are too expensive, do what our grandmothers, and mothers used to do - clean with baking soda and vinegar). Another thought, ask your child's doctor and derm if bathing your son in a bath mixed with part baking soda/part hydrogen peroxide will help too. (baking soda is a natural skin softner, and hydrogen peroxide is good for killing bacteria).