G.H.
When you feel these times of "nuttyness" remember that you won't have him forever. He has noone now but you kids. Shame on you if you can't spare a25 minute ride one way once a week to them man that worked, paid the bills, and IS lonely without having a companion. Men are too proud to admit they NEED anything. Have you not figured that out by your husband yet? I understand both sides of the situation...I've been on both ends. When you're older you'll understand how he feels when your kids are not there for you when you want them. You're not the only one in this situation. I bet 95% of families deal with this situation. Maybe thru church or VFW tye places, he'll get envolved with a widow and they'll have lots in common. A companion is exactly what he needs, you're right. Help him to get to that place so some of that burdensome feeling leaves you because you know he's being loved and cared for by someone else. Sorry if I sound a little rough but I'm in the same situation so I understand completely. If you need any questions answered, write me back..I'll be happy to help if I can. My spouse passed 12 years ago. I and your dad will never get over it. We have no "kids" to keep us busy so our minds don't runamuck all day unless our kids are around us.