If you read my other request, you will see that my 16 yr old sister is dropping out of high school due to her Extreme psycho social anxiety ( I saw your the eyes roll) It's serious, she had to be hospitalize for it and transferred to a special school with therapy to function with more then 5 people around her.
Anyways, My Dad is pissed! He's not talking to anyone, he leaves the room with we walk in the door. He get upset and says horrible things. My mom has had enough and we spent yesterday in richardson looking at the most filthy places because that is in her price range. She can't afford much without my dad, she's also talking my three youngest siblings with her. She's looking for a job up here too! She wants to find a front desk night shift at a hotel so she sleep when the kids are at school and be home with them in the evenings.
I need help dealing with this... I'm not sure she can do it. I don't know how much help I can be, I don't have alot of money to give them. I've been looking on the internet for Jobs for her but I'm having trouble finding an 3 bd rm apartment or rent home for $800 a month. She wants to be close to me but I live in a nice part of richardson and there is nothing in that price range.
Lexy (16 yr old sister) dropped out. She will be taking the GED and hopefully starting college soon. She had been dealing with her anxiety and she's on different meds, some make her sick, some make things better and a few really messed her head up!!
Dad is getting over it but still throws it in my Mom's face. Everyone but me throws it in her face and says she is a bad mother. (which is really causing depression for my mom)
My Mom isn't leaving my dad but they are going to move and downsize their house so the two older girls will move out (22 yrs and 18 yrs old). They are the ones making things rocky now. Blah, so that is what is happening now. It could change in a second but thank you so much for all the support ladies.
Make sure your mom files for child support as soon as she leaves. Until the child support is started apply for help through Texas Health and Human Services. Don't be embarassed to seek help there temporarily. That is what it is there for. Good luck. :)
It is a difficult situation I sure. I am sorry to hear that it has split your family up. Some people in stressful situations can't handle things. They go off the deep end and attack people they love instead of saying 'hey, I feel helpless and hopeless will you help me' and that sounds like your father. Your mother sounds like someone in a difficult situation that looks for the nearest exit instead of standing up and pushing back. Not saying either is bad. Just be there for both of them and hopefully they will all cool down and work it all out. My parents react in a similar way with hardships...I just reminded them that in a bad situation it is best to stick together...after all isn't that one of the reason we elect to get married to have someone stick with us through even the uglist of times? Anyway, help for your mom should be easy to find. There is health and human services they offer emergency low income help, medical, food stamps, etc. It is a great outlet, as well as life saver, for people who need it. There are a bunch of income based housing (they do run credit checks and background checks as well) that are great places to live. There is one in Dallas (border of dallas and mesquite) called Rosemont at Sierra Vista. They aren't too far from Richardson and they have 3 bedroom townhomes ranging from the 700s to 900s depending on your income. Being she doesn't have much I am sure it will be 700s. Also I am sure if you look around there are others as well. Best of luck. Keep your head up, everyone hits rocky times what matters is how we handle them that makes us great people. :)
I work at a hotel in Dallas and they are looking for Front Desk Agents. Let me know if your are interested.
~R.
P.S. Sorry about the other stuff that is going on in your life.
Theres an apartment complex in Mckinney off of Skyline and 380 that are tax credit apartments. You can get a 3bd 2 bath for 714.00 A month. I dont know if Mckinney is to far. I lived there and just finally moved into a house.
V.,
This is such a hard thing to deal with, for all of you! Your sister's anxiety is very real, whether or not it makes sense to your dad. On the other hand, it sounds like he must feel completely overwhelmed, and your mom is just stuck in the middle of all this. Your whole family needs help to learn how to deal with this, because anytime a member develops a problem, if affects everyone.
I sincerely hope your mom doesn't leave your dad. That will only cause more problems than it solves. It could also lead to more anxiety for your sister, as well as new problems for the other siblings. The best thing your parents could demonstrate to the kids is that when we have problems, we don't act ugly (like dad) or leave (like mom). We stay together and work together to find out how to deal with it.
Your sister needs a boundary set with school, even with this anxiety. She needs to know that, in order to learn to cope with her problem rather than let it become an excuse not to deal with life, she HAS to go to school! She will get support there...if it really is too hard, encourage your parents to look into alternate schools or private schools.
I think the other issue is, it gets expensive to deal well with these new sets of challenges. There should be counseling agencies that either offer help at no charge or on a sliding scale...call around. There also may be a church school or something that would offer a scholarship and be the right kind of setting for your sister. Bottom line, it will take some hard work and effort to find the right answers for everyone. But even though rolling eyes and leaving seems like an easier answer right now, it will only create much harder issues in the long term. Encourage your mom to think of all the kids and realize she would be better off finding a way to engage dad in the process rather than leave. I wish all of you the best; this is such a difficult thing for all of you...and especially your dear mom. God bless you!
Mental illness/disorders are VERY real. I personally have very high anxiety. There is such a stigma that goes along with being dianosed with ANY sort of mental illness/disorder. We are not all like Jack Nicholson in "One Flew Over The Cookoo Nest."
Maybe, you could find a counseler that you are comfortable with, that can give you advice. One of these days people will stand up and pay attention to the mentally ill. It is a real crises.
Take care of yourself and you will be more helpfull to everyone else. That is the ONLY advise I can offer.
Hopefully your Mom and Dad can come together on this for everyone's sake.
