My Son Goes with His Grandparents Every Other Weekend.

I really don't see why this could be a problem. I think it's wonderful! You say he enjoys it and they enjoy it. As long as everyone is having fun, I think it's a good thing. Why in the world, would you be wrong for it?

I don't have that problem...my Inlaws, who live 10 minutes away from us, have never asked in 17 years to bring any of my kids over...
I think it is great, creates wonderful memories...:)
You are very lucky....

I think it is a perfect situation with a little baby at home you get the time you need he get the time to be just him. I would not feel bad I wish my parents would have helped out more they see my kids on birthdays and christmas

Yes. You are an absolutely terrible person for encouraging / allowing your child to love and form deep bonds with other people, and for other people to love and form deep bonds with him. And that those people be family, (grandparents for heaven sake!), just compounds the problem. Please. Keep your child away from anyone who would enrich his life, and NEVER allow yourself to trust that the heart is limitless. Same token, what on earth are you thinking to find balance in your own life???

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You're doin' just fine mama. Don't try and fix what isn't broken. Revel in your gifts.

Lose the mommy guilt! What you have is an amazing gift for both of you! This allows your son to get some one on one time that's probably sorely missing with a new baby and you get a rest. That's amazing! I wish I could have had anything close to that. We only have 1 but we only got to go on a date at best once a month until our DD was 18 mths and my in-laws moved 3 hrs away. Enjoy this and thank them....don't let the guilt eat at you.

H.

You really answered your own question. He loves going over there and they love having him. What is the problem. I have my granddaughter every weekend and on Wednesday so she can go to church with me and have time with her father who stays with me. You are not a bad mother. I went and spent the whole summer with my grandparents (my dads parents) every year until I was about 13, after that it was cut down to about a month and I wouldn't trade that time with them for anything in the world. I learned how to cook, , and garden from my grandmother and fix things from my grandfather. As I got older I even drove them around and helped them out. I am who I am because of the time I spent with them learning. My mother and I had a great relationship and when she passed my grandmother cried like she had lost her own child and not a daughter in law. Even though my parent divorced my grandmother never stopped loving my mother. Your son will benefit from this time with his grandparents. they will teach him things about life that you won't even think about. Enjoy and stop worring about it. It is a win win situation.

I think if they are offering to take your son and he enjoys it, let him go. I remember all the times I had at my grandparents house when I was younger and how much fun it was. Those memories are still with me today. My older son asks to go by his grandparents house all the time and whenever they are willing to take him, I let him go. He enjoys the alone time and attention he gets there.

I was with my grandma all the time!! Not because my parents would "ship" me over there, because I wanted to be there and she would ask for me to come over. We lived across the street from her so it was easy to be there. My grandma and I have such a strong bond with each other its amazing! After we moved 6 hours away when I was 8, Im not sure who it crushed more.. me or her! But I would spend all summer with her until I was 18. Then after I had my son we would still drive down and stay weeks at a time together. Now at 33 Im lost with out her after loosing her 2 years ago. But the memories and the bond we have will last a life time. Im thankful for letting my parents be with her as much as I was. Also, my older brother is the same with my grandma on the other side. Now my oldest is as close to my parents as I was with mine and its a blessing knowing how wonderful my grandparents were to me and seeing that in my son and parents :)

As long as it doesn't become going over an expected thing and stays a willing thing on both ends keep it up! Your son will thank you someday!

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why would you feel guilty over this?? Seriously you are having him watched by people that love him, you are getting grown up time so you can focus on him when he is there and he likes it there. NOTHING to guilt yourself over. Anyone who says otherwise is jealous.

It is a well documented anthropolgically studied fact that children who have a relationship with their grandmother do better in life.
Look it up on the net.
Good thing they love your child so much. I hope they will love your second child as well.

what could possibly wrong with loving helpful grandparents developing a close strong relationship with their grandson AND allowing you some one on one time with the baby? i would assume that you are also getting a little one on one with your 2 year old, right?
so many posts on this site are about horrible depressing circumstances where grandparents are overbearing, distant or just cut off from their grandkids due to personality conflicts with parents.
what a lucky little fellow this one is!
:) khairete
S.

If you enjoy it, your parents enjoy it, and your son enjoys it, keep it up! I think it's fantastic that you can have some time to breathe! Like someone else said, lose the mommy guilt! This situation is fine!

Shoot I wish my grandchildren lived close enough for me to have them come and spend a weekend at my house whenever we wanted to be together!!! You go for it J.!! What a wonderful gift for your parents AND for your son...there is nothing more wonderful than the bond between grandparents and their grandchildren. Think of the wonderful memories that your son is going to have of the time spent with his grandparents. Mhy parents are both gone now but it warms my heart to hear my grown daughters reminiscing about the times they spent with my folks...and I am happily making memories with my own 2 grandsons...good for all of us!!

If it works for you and allows you time to get things done and also spend alone time with your baby, good for you! lucky for you! are you also giving him 1 on 1 time though? Eventually things will have to change so enjoy all the help you get :) Dont guilt yourself or questions it if things are going smoothly.

It is great that your parents are willing and able to help out. This relationship is good for your parents and your son. It is not too much if it works for everyone involved. Don't let anyone, including yourself, make you feel guilty. Please don't take away his special time with his grandparents, because you feel guilty. He is getting a lot of love and attention without the baby around. I am sure he loves spending time with them. You will be a better mother to both of your kids.

If you are concerned, make sure to spend some alone time with your son as well, even if it is just five minutes a day. Tell him it is his special time with you. Be kind to yourself and enjoy your new baby who needs you 24/7 right now.

Good luck.

My kids spend the night at my parents house all the time, at least one night every other weekend or so. I feel really lucky that they live so close and have a great relationship with my kids! Plus it gives my husband and I some quality couple time. If your son is happy and your parents are happy and YOU are happy, I don't see why the problem is!

Ok, so obviously some jealous person who has nothing better to do with their lives decided to really hurt you and tell you that you aren't a good mom because your baby is happy, your family is happy, you're happy and I'm sure he or she is not not not happy and therefore must tear you down in order to build himself up. Please ignore these people. However, I must admit my own envy-I would have loved a life like yours and cannot wait for one of my children to have some of their own! Hopefully they would be as open to me caring for their children as you are about your parents. What a lucky you!

it is fantastic that your parents are able to spend so much time with your son! My parents live 4 hours away and they only get to see my son every couple of months and my father-in-law lives 20 minutes away and unless we go over there or if we specifically state a time and day he won't come over to our place. I grew up going over to my grandparents all of the time and wish my children could have the same experience. I am a strong believer that not only parents but extended family raise a child.

how could it be wrong? it's a win-win situation! i am in a similar one, by the way, my mom takes my son quite a bit. A. you get a bit of a break, but even more importantly, B. HE gets to spend some great quality time bonding with his grandparents! how on earth could that be bad??

I used to spend as many weekends with my grandmother as possible as a kid, not because I didnt love my mother, but because I really loved my grandmother. Now that we live 3 1/2 hours apart, I still call her at least once a week. If your parents were saying you were a bad mom and needed your kids taken away, that would be one thing. I see no reason not to let them take him every other weekend if he and they have a good time and want to.

Sounds like you can use the break and it allows you to spend time with your 1 month old. That is a good thing! Its great that your parents are so interested and involved, and I think with a new baby, its also great for your son to get some special time with his grandparents. It all sounds good, relax!

If he's happy, and they're happy to have him, I don't see what the big deal is. Now, if you were saying that you send him there just so you can "do your own thing" and they're having a problem with your choices, then that would be a different story. From what you say though, it seems like everyone involved is benefitting from the situation.

My baby goes over to her grandparents a lot! Heres my situation...
My parents are dead, my SO's (father of my child) parents are alive. Where we used to live was literally 5 minutes away from them, and now were about 30 minutes from them.
At first we were over there all the time because we lived so close. Now, she will usually take her over night atleast once every three weeks, but sometimes, she wants her over night one night a week. In addition to the overnighters, she will happily take her for a few hours any other day of the week. A good example would be my MIL hasn't seen her since last thursday, called and asked if we would drop her off tomorrow, and wants her to spend the night sunday.
My inlaws are pretty healthy 70+ year olds. Both retired. The only other grandchild lives 4 hours away. They don't have a lot to do and love watching her. I don't take advantage of it at all, but I feel like with my parents being dead, and them being in their 70's how much time do they realy have together? I want them to spend as much time as possible.
I have gotten comments about her "always" being over there. Or "wow you drop her off a lot." I know I am lucky to have that much help. They want to take her, she loves them, they all have bonds with her, I don't take advantage and ALWAYS ask, so whats the prob? I just keep thinking that my parents aren't here to bond with her, and maybe by the time we have another child my inlaws wont be able to care for them. My first will get as much grandparent time as her grandparents want. =)

I think that's wonderful that he gets to bond with them so much! My daughter sees my parents a lot too. Most of the time it's the 2 of us spending a couple nights with them on weekends, and sometimes she will go by herself. She loves it! For a while we were going almost every weekend haha

I grew up with one set of grandparents living 15 minutes from us. Another set lived 10-12 hours away, and then moved to 2 hours away. Sad thing is, we saw the ones farther away more often that the ones 15 minutes away!

Go for it, as long as he doesn't come home full of sweets, presents or bad attitude ;)

I think that is wonderful! My parent's used to have my grandma watch us every Saturday night and she'd return Sunday morning to take us to Sunday school. My boys love spending time with my in-laws and frequently go there. I wish my one set on parents lived closer and that the other set that does would take them more. The bond they form is a forever bond and one that I would never trade! Keep them involved as much as you and they both would like and the children will thrive.

As long as everyone is on the same page with what goals and boundaries you have in your homes I think it is just fine as well! You are absolutely not a bad mom for giving him time with his grandparents! Just be sure to give him the time he needs with mama and dad too. Yay for devoted grandparents!!

I'm a Grandma and I'll tell you, no one loves your kids more than Grandma (execpt of course for the parents). I truly enjoy spending time with each child and sharing "life" with them. This is a good thing! Sounds like your parents are the same. You are a great Mom to share your children with them. They will learn so much. The more love they get, the better!!! Be thankful you have such wonderful parents! Relax and enjoy your time with the new baby!

as long as all parties want it this way, no way! My daughter constantly asks to see her grandparents, but ends up seeing them about once a week, which usually involves spending the night. But her grandparents always ask when she is coming over next.