Need Advice - Senatobia, MS

My parents divorced when I was 10 and I will definitely say that the best thing you can do for her is let her know it IS NOT HER FAULT. Adults just make mistakes sometimes that can't be fixed. Make sure she knows you both love her and want to spend time with her. Let him see her as much as they both want. Also try to do things as a family. Even though you are not technically a family anymore, you are both still her parents. This is only the beginning for her of a life of trying to "split" her time between parents.
Try to be as understanding as you can and hopefully he will as well that she didn't ask for "divorced parents" and you both may have to swallow you pride for her sometimes.
I will keep you all in my prayers. May God bless you and your daughter.

Well, to be honest with you it is going to be really tough, but it is going to take time. I just went through the same thing 2 years ago when my daughter was 9, and she was a daddy's girl. She is 11 now, and she still has a hard time, but it has gotten better. You just have to show your child that even though mommy and daddy are living apart we still love you, and that will never change. Another thing is to pray. I don't know what your religious background is, but praying really helps.

My husband and I have been seperated since April. My son is 4 also. I could not afford the mortgage on my own and ended up moving in with my girlfriend. We have been there since October. He asked just the other day if Mommy and Daddy were ever going to live in the old house again. I am always honest with him. I told him that Mommy and Daddy would not be going back to the old house. And the next question was why. I told him that Mommy and Daddy just did not work out together. He is still not completely okay with everything. But my ex-husband and I have a good relationship. My son knows he can call his Daddy whenever he wants. He also sees him every weekend. We never fight in front of him. If either one of us has an issue we talk about it when my son is not around. It makes it a lot easier on him. We also try our best to pick him up at each others house. It doesn't always work out that way, but I think he helps my son deal with it a little better. So my advice, be as honest as possible without bashing each other. My ex was not around for a few months, I told my son that his Daddy had to take a job out of state. I hope you get some good advice. If you ever need someone to talk to just email me. Good Luck! It is not easy being a single parent, but just remember to breath and try to find some Mommy time if you can.

My oldest daughter had just turned 5 when my ex-husband and I separated, and my baby was 2 1/2. It was hard on them, but I think we have done as well as possible. We never spoke ill of each other in front of the kids, and we let them call the other parent whenever they were not with them. I told their teachers so they could get extra attention and understanding at school. We constantly reassured them we both loved them and no one had done anything wrong. We even sit together at school events. Sometimes I just held them while they cried and I told them i wished it was different also. It has now been a year and a half and I think they have a healthy attitude about it all. I am still asked sometimes about getting back together, but they are happy kids who know they are very loved. i remember it being very hard, especially the first few months. Being a single mom is hard, even worse in the midst of dealing with your own feelings of loss. Feel free to email anytime if you ever need to talk.

I learned when my parents divorced when I was in my late 20's after 26 years of marriage that it is hard on children no matter what the age. I also know from my own expereince after going through a divorce with my chidren's father after 15 years of marriage is all you can do is show them that you love them...BOTH of you! Both parents have to show the child that you love them and that this in no way has anything to do with them and certainly not thier fault being they tend to think it is thier fault or has something to do with them. And there is certainly nothing wrong with professional counseling at any age!

Good luck to you and your child!

With my 3 year old I have done a lot of cuddling and talking with her. They need a lot of extra reassurance that everything is going to be okay. It's been about 6 months since I've separated from my ex and my 3 year old is doing a lot better. The first month or so was rough, but the cuddling and holding helped her through it. Good luck, I hope I was able to help!

The biggest thing is to make sure she understands that it has nothing to do with her and that it was because the two of you could not get along. Let her talk about her feelings with you and make sure you don't say anything negative about her father. That is a hard thing to do but you don't want to turn her against her father, she is probably already angry because he has moved out.

My husband and I also seperated for awhile and it was very hard on my daughter. Is your husband taking time to see your child. If he is than just reassure him that he will see his dad (on the specified days) and that you both really love him and just want to make sure that he is happy. Talk to him and see if he has any questions but never never put down your husband cause he needs to make that opinion himself. My husband and I also tried to take our daughter out to eat together. You have to try and keep your composure and see your ex but it will be worth it for your son.

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Talk to your child's pediatrician. He/she may be able to give you information about free counseling services available in your area. I was a single mother for 5 years. I was divorced when my daughter was 1-year-old. The biggest thing that helped me was to ask for help and information, and take it when it is offerred. Good luck, and I will be thinking of you. Don't forget to take care of yourself too because that will help your child more than anything else.