Need Advise on My Son and Daycare

He could just be board. My "baby"who is now 5 was throwing fits, hitting and biting at daycare at 3 and 4. So much so that I thought they were going to kick him out of daycare. When he was 4, I quit my job and we enrolled him in the local school pre-k program. He was the model child and the teacher never had any problems with him.

Sometimes these daycare centers don't challenge the kids enough and do more babysitting than anything. I think you have a very bright child who is bored at the daycare center. He seems to simply have outgrown it.

Hope this helps!

Bored Bored Bored!!! And probably too comfortable in the enviroment, for the last 9 months the daycare has 'labeled' your son, and he can feel it. My not KNOW it be he can sense something. That is why he does not want to be there. Based on the kids in his class is he an older 3? If so that will have a huge impact on his behavior. My son, stated school yesterday, and he is an older 5. I had to take him out of d/c in March for the same reason. He was bored, with the older kids he did great, but since there were so many younger 5's he was ahead of them and did not feel challanged at all. Make a change now since your son is showing all the signs and having the issues. The day care will understand and probably be happy about your decision...but not to your face. Good Luck

Three is the time when autism, which Asberger's is merely one point on that spectrum, does begin to show itself. The child could also have something else going on or could just be a strong-willed child. ADD/ADHD is another possibility but three is really too young to diagnose that. What you can do is start googling autism, ADD/ADHD, but please bear in mind that everything you describe is age appropriate and he may be just more determined to make himself heard. Separation anxiety, biting, most kids go through these phases and without proper transitioning, not wanting to switch from one task to another is really just flat out normal.

There is a woman that offices out of our church with Presbyterian Children's Homes. These folks work with a wide array of families with about a gazillion different needs and she consequently knows probably more about potential resources for parents, particularly in Tarrant County, than most people working in the field. Drop me a note and I can hook you up with her.

I would agree that the pediatrician is one of the first things I would do, find out what she thinks and what kind of testing and evaluating she could do and go from there.

Talk to your pediatrician. She can determine whether he is just strong-willed or in need of psychiatric testing. Remember, he is only three. A little play therapy wouldn't hurt. Ask your pediatrician to recommend someone. Call Lena Pope Home ###-###-#### or The Parenting Center ###-###-####. It sounds to me like he is bored and by this time already labeled as a bad kid. I would take him out. It is too bad you can't stay home for awhile with him. He is only little once and sounds like he needs some extra TLC. There is bound to be someone out there that can keep him stimulated.
Consider yourself lucky...you have a very special little boy on your hands. This is the time when he is transformed from a blank slate to a young man. Take care of him. I say this because my son went through the same thing.

If you really think that it is Aspergers, which I would not unless there are other issues you are not putting in your post, then you would talk to your pediatrician. They can refer you to someplace like the Child Study Center in Ft. Worth. Once he turns 3, you can have him evaluated by your local school district, they can determine if he is eligible for special services. But, you can NOT trust them to come up with the right answer. If it really is Aspergers, they could try to deny it.

Margie in Mansfield is great! So, is F.E.A.T. of North Texas!They are both good resources that can help you figure out if he really does need some extra help.

I have a friend that has a son with Asperger's Syndrome. I will forward your question to her. She has formed a group in Mansfield. Her name is Margie. ____@____.com

You can get your dr. to give you a referral to the Child Study Center in Ft. Worth. It is part of the Cook Children's Hospital system. They would be able to help. Don't give up trying to find out because he obviously is crying out for help, but does not know how to ask for it.

I am by no means an expert, but having taught several Asperger's children, what you describe doesn't sound like it. He sounds like a boy within normal (just not the best,lol) behavioral limits. Maybe you should change daycares. It kind of sounds like he may have realized that they have negative feelings towards him there. Maybe he is being treated like a "bad" kid? Maybe not. It is just something to consider. Btw, keep working on his behavior with him. Maybe he is bored or needs to find somewhere where there is a better outlet for his energy and more patient folks who won't have labeled him as "bad" Good luck momma, I know it is hard when your kiddo is having these types of issues.

i would say that some of that is normal behavior for an almost 3 yr old...that is how they learn...also i would question whether or not the other kids are being that way with him or are they mean to him and he is acting out and getting into trouble because that just happens to be when the teacher happened to see him?... not every child is the same and some children develope a little differently on a social level...that does not mean that something is wrong with him...i would do some further research in the daycare setting and see what you come up with especially if he is not like that other places.

Your baby sounds bored. I would try a different setting for him before I labeled him as having something wrong. I also live right by 820/20. My daughter will be 3 in september and she attends a wonderful school about 5 min away. They will tell you It is not daycare because that is what I thought at first. School starts at 8:15, they wear little uniforms, and its only 300 a month, much cheaper than daycare. It is wonderful and the children learn and are well behaved. The kids don't have time to get bored because once they reach a certain age and master certain skills they move on to the next class. They go up to pre-K. Also it is run by two women who are nurses so if there is something wrong they would probably catch on to it. Give me a call if you want the info. They are enrolling now but there are limited spots so hurry. ###-###-####