Hi Mommas--
I am in desperate need of your advice. I have this wonderful guy friend of mine that I need help with. Just to give you all a bit of background information on this guy, we grew up together since early elementary school, since around 3rd grade and we are both 25 now! We have been great friends throughout the years and once we graduated kinda fell apart we both went opposite directions. And I was involved ibn a relationship in which I now have a beautiful baby girl!! And he was also in a serious relationship, well he ended his relationship and I ended my relationship about the time I realized I was pregnant and my daughter's biological father had him sign over his rights. So he is not in the picture at all. We somewhat liked each other in high school but never got together b/c everybody just kept pushing us together and we did just the opposite. Now that we are older and a bit wiser we have been talking and we just picked up where we left off. There is definitely something there between us so I don't know if this will be the definiing moment to take our friendship to the enxt level. Anyways Mark and I started talking again almost 3 months ago, so we decided that for Christmas we would exchange Christmas gifts. Well he has everything you can ask for, he is into electronics, movies, clothes, sports, just about your typical guy. But he has EVERYTHING, so he is extremely hard to shop for. Even though I have known him forever and I know what he likes, its still making this very difficult. I want to give him something great that he is going to enjoy, memorable, and remember I gave it to him and I dont wnat him to take it back to the store bc he didn't like it!!! I have done a bit of searching online and cannot find anything really that he would like. So I am hoping that some of you can give me some ideas about what to get him for Christmas this year. Oh and I forgot to mention that he is in LOVE with my daughter, she has only seen him once, bc I am a bit leery about introducing guys to her mainly bc she doesn't have a daddy. And I don't want her getting too attached to anybody just bc if it doesn't work out then she is going to be hurt as well. So I thought maybe getting a picture of her and framing it and giving it to him, but I am not sure if that is too cheesy or what. And since we are just friends at the moment I am not sure if that is going overboard? Any suggestions or info you can give me would be great!! TIA
Thank you all to everybody who gave me great gift ideas for my guy!!! I really appreciate all the wonderful advice!! I am happy to report that things are looking up in the romance side of things and will keep you all posted!! thanks again!
I'd say go for something more simple. Make a homemade coupon book with some coupons for great stuff:
A homecooked meal- all men love this
A free car wash
A walk in the park
A movie
anything you know he likes.
I wouldn't do the family photos just yet..
Hope that helps. I have a template if you need one.
I don't know how much money you want to spend but...you could buy him a flight on an old war plane from Cavanaugh Museum in Addison.
You've already been given some great gift ideas. I was just going to suggest going to www.gifts.com. You can pick his personality and it will suggest gifts...when hubby and I tried it on each other it was pretty accurate.
Is he an avid golfer? If so........full fees for him and a guest to play a round of golf?
Hello A.,
I was thinking maybe one of those digital photo frames, it will hold lots of different images. You cold put some pictures of you and your daughter, he will always know who it came from! I think it is a great idea. Good luck!
K.
What about a digital keychain that shows pictures, you could upload pics of when ya'll were growing up if you have any...or if you are willing...one when you were younger...LOL If you have a lot of pictures, you could create one of those books...I use heritage makers through www.scraplessbooking.com They also have those new Zunes out right now....that are fairly new...I know my Brother In Law had to have one....they show videos and music, I think my sister found one online somewhere for $119. The keychain or book would be less money. :-) GL
M.
hey!
ok...first, i wouldn't give him a pix of your daughter. that is the most precious thing to you and i feel that is something you should share with someone you are going to marry...not after her meeting him once! you sound like the sparks are flying right now...how about giving him a romantic evening...get a hotel room, sexy outfit, wine, etc..you get the pix! you can even get festive with one of those sexy santa outfits:)
I don't know if this is helpful or not but you can decide that-lol. Sounds like you guys will end up together! One year for Christmas I made a scrapbook-like the nice but cheap books that say scarpbook on outside but have nice pages inside you can paste pics too. Well I selected pics of me to put in there-maybe some of you two together when you were younger and some of you and your lil girl and suff like that. I taped or pasted those on pages and cut out words from magazines like "cute, love" sayings or comics or something like that-maybe teams he likes or something and put those around pics that went with the sayings. Then I wrote a note to him on last page-saying how much he means to me. It is something money can't buy and it is the thought of the gift that will mean the most. It will show him you put your heart into it.
How about a gag gift? His own personal washer and dryer. What you do is get the biggest box you can find, and at the top of all the packing, have a note to say (or put it in the card if he'll open it first), "Enclosed are your own personal washer and dryer. Enjoy!" or something like that.
Then you go down to the hardware store and get the biggest washer you can find. I mean, the kind in the nut and bolt section. Then you get a cloth and run it through the washer and hide it amongst all the packing in the box.
If he really has everything, this will probably give him a good laugh and that's better than something else he doesn't really need. :)
I don't know about the frame with your DD's picture in it just yet. What about tickets to a sporting event or concert. A mixed CD of his favorite songs or songs from your HS years. Maybe a frame of you two from your younger year. How about a chair massager?
Good Luck
What about just going out and doing something together? Maybe you could get tickets to a concert or a show, some type of event, an amusement park, or a trip if you can afford it! Even something that involves your daughter if you feel comfortable with it. That way you all have the great memories from it and it's not just another 'thing' to add to everything he already has. Good luck!
What about something personalized? What is his favorite sports team? You could get a fleece blanket with his favorite team on it and have it personalized with maybe a nickname you used to call him in school.
Before my husband and I got married, when we were just friends, I got him a lighter engraved with his initials and he loved it but he is a smoker.
I think the picture frame is a little much if you are just friends.
Maybe a pic of you and your daughter doing something silly together like an amusement park or birthday party with an attatched gift of time ie a homecooked meal or a dinner out. Or if he enjoys a particular thing like golf get him a date with a pro to get some pointers.
I think the picture idea is a wonderful one. Why not give him a picture of you and your daughter together. That way he has one of the both of you. Put it in a nice frame and I think it will be perfect. Not cheesy at all. A.
Maybe you could make him a photo book of photos of you two through the years. I made one for my dh through Shutterfly a couple of years ago and he still says it is one of his most prized possesions. It is easy to do and I put funny quotes under the photos that I found online. You could also include a cd with "your" songs through the years. Contact me if you want me to e-mail you a copy of the one I made for dh for an example.
Hope this helps,
Pam
Having your picture made with your daughter would make a nice gift. Don't make it an 11 x 14, though. A simple 5 x 7 in a plain frame would probably suffice. You can also add something scrumptious to eat if you are into baking. I don't know a man that doesn't like to eat.
How about tickets to a Spurs game or a concert? Then you can make it a date.
Nice leather gloves are always nice too, but not practical in Texas...
I've seen this great digital picture frame - you can download photos and they automatically rotate through a digital album. Maybe you can gather a bunch of pictures of the two of you throughout the years and upload them on to the frame, with a couple recent pictures of you and your daughter as well. I Googled Digital Picture Frame, and a bunch of sites came up - Circuit City, Ritz Camera, Amazon.com:
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=digital+picture+...
A couple of my co-workers have it, and I think it's a great idea.
Good luck with this budding romance - I've known my hubby since I was 12!
I would buy him a nice shirt or a CD that he wants, putting your child in a frame and giving it to him is a little much, especially since the child is not his, if it was his child then it would be a different situation.
Maybe if things are still going great and good at Valentines' Day, do a picture of you and your daughter "together" in a frame.
