Need Help in Diaper Problem with 15 Month Old

Hi S.. I don't know if I will much help but I used to change my youngest standing up when she got older. It was easier and she wouldn't cry either. I think he may be getting ready to explore the potty. May be if you put him in big boy pants and show him the potty, maybe this will help him not dread getting changed. I hope this helps. Good luck!! J. A.

Toddlers are real quirky. They are beginning to develop a self identity. You do what you have to to get by. He may feel like he is being"put down to stay" with being laid down momentarily. Try giving him a new neat toy that does something neat, or an m&m, if reward doesn't work, you're stuck for awhile. This too will change.

My first question would be, is he ready for potty training? If nothing leads you to think so, then here are two sugguestions.
When I changed my babies (6 of them) it was a chance to grab a hug and kiss. twice. :) Yes, sometimes I was more rushed then others and so this did not always happen. I guess I would wonder, what is the approach of whoever is changing him? Do they feel it's just a chore and are quickly trying to get it done? With my boys, I had one song that I would sing to them every time I changed them. It was a fun song (at the time one of The Wiggles songs) and they thought that was great.
The other suggestion is, is he just trying to have control he shouldn't have? It is not always the easiest thing to change a child standing up. He may just need a consistent firm "no, your not standing, I am changing your diaper laying down" and laying him down. Boys are awesome, but sometimes can be more defiant then the girls (I have found). We definitely needed a "stronger arm" with the boys then we did the girls.
Hope this helps!

I went through that with my little man at about the same age. It was a power struggle for sure! Kicking and screaming. I think it's just that they're really active at that age and don't want to have to stop to do it! It will pass, I'm certain it will. From the time mine started to crawl, then walk, and discover - there were certain 'touch points' where he needed control. Just figure out what can make it quick and painless for everyone and roll with it, eventually he'll move past it - or at least mine did! Good luck!

I agree with Sarah F, this is a control issue. What I do with my 19 month old son...
I physically lie him on the floor, with his head toward my left side, and I put my left leg across his torso. He gets mad and I ask him to "hold this for me" and give him something to mess with. Usually still mad, but a bit of distraction and I have control over his twisting body with my leg. I can get the diaper change done. Usually there is lots of yelling and complaining. He just wants to be running around and playing.
Diaper changes that are minimally disgusting are a point where I don't let him have control- they are too important to me. He gets to exert his ideas in many other situations!

When my boys were young they cried because they did not want to lay down and stop what they were doing. Is this an all the time thing? If it is has he been in contact with any new caregivers?

When I worked at a daycare center years ago we had a little boy who was always fine with diaper changes. His parents took a vacation and his grandparents took care of him during that time. Apparently the grandfather would yell at him everytime he had to have a change but if the grandmother would change him standing up, grandpa did not realize it and no yelling. It was a weird situation but he never wanted to lay down for quite a while.

It's normal. My son would run away screaming and have to be physically restrained by one person while the other changed his diaper. You'd have thought we were torturing him. We sang songs, made faces, gave him things to distract him but nothing worked. He did this until he was 2 1/2 when we potty trained him. It was exhausting for us so I'm glad it's in the past.

I have 3 children and all 3 went through a phase when I had to let them stand for diaper changes. At 15 months they are more mobile than they used to be and like to have freedom and independence. This is a completely normal phase!

There is no traumatic experience that would cause this. To be honest, it will probably get worse. My daughter is 19 months old and kicks and cries and all that. Distraction is your best option but that won't always work.

My 18 month old son just started doing the same thing during the last few days. I distract him with a toy or turn on a cartoon for a few minutes to keep him from crying.

My son is 19 months old and we started having that problem around that age. We got the book early start potty training and got started. We are well on our way to being diaper free. The earlier the better in my book.

not overly uncommon, but ... if he is willing to do that, start with the potty. It sounds like he is ready! Good luck and God Bless.

Totally normal. Mine did it too. You would think someone was murdering him the way he would carry on. By that age the "hold this" didn't work so well with mine, but I did it a little earlier on. At that age I just had to fight it out with him. I would also pin him down like someone else. It was awful. Once he started talking a lot he would still fight diaper changes, but by being silly. Running away and yelling "stinker" and giggling. Mine grew out of it though, and is pretty good again. I started explaining to him that I HAD to to keep him clean, and that I would be super fast and he could get right back up to play. I would also count to "time" myself. Before long, my son could count to ten, so that was a plus. Good luck!

He must've had some traumatic experience with laying down to have his diaper changed (like he laid on something sharp, got stung by a bee, someone yelled at him or something). Might anyone remember such an incident? Maybe putting him on a bed or some place different than usual might help while soothing him all the time, "It's OK, we need to lay down here."

Good luck and God bless! Merry Christmas!

My oldest son did this too. I used the Pampers Easy Ups for a little while so I could change him quickly while standing up and just made him lie down when he was dirty. He outgrew it after a while and I switched back to regular diapers.

My son started doing that around 18 months. I was told by a lady who had a 2 year old that her son did that and it was a sign that he's ready to start potty training. My son is almost 2 now and about to start potty training soon. He still cries when I change him. If I give him a toy and distract him, then there is no crying. So to me it's natural thing kids go through.

Normal. My son did that when he was about 18 months old. My second child, I changed her pamper standing up from about 1 year old until potty trained. Even the poppies (wiping is a little messy) but they usually stand still. They usually do not like lying down. I have a 1-year-old now and she does the same thing. I change her standing up unless she is sleepy. Good luck. Do the standing changing and then after a while they will get used to it. Good luck.

Is it possible that he had diaper rash recently? I only ask because my son would freak out for a few days when I went to change his diaper after he had a diaper rash which was very painful to him. So, after that he was afraid of it hurting agan even thought there was no rash anymore. He got over in a couple days. Just a thought...

MANIPULATION!! He cries, you stop, he gets what he wants...Or maybe it's time for potty training.