Need Potty-training Help!!!

I think the baby is confused. You will have to stick with the pull ups and underwear. You can get the potty that make noise that might help her a lot. Don't give up you have to keep working with her, she will finally get potty train.

I know that she is showing interest; but the worst thing you can do is to push her. I pushed on the potty training with the my first one and it set us back months. Also just because the real underwear get's pooped in doesn't; mean you have to throw them out, I toss them in the wash with the towels and or sheets after I have spot treated them and I used to have my kids stand by me as I dumped the poop in the toilet and I would tell them that the poppy goes bye-bye in toilet. My youngest is four and has been potty trained for about a year now, she still sometimes has accident's on the floor, it will happen until they get more in sync with the signals their body is telling them. I forgot to mention that I used a lot of rewards; by youngest favorite candy is lolly pops and she would get one if she went poopy or peepee in the potty.

I feel your pain! My daughter had a setback when starting potty training too. After one Friday of her going in six pairs of panties, I put her back in diapers and made all of the potty training aids disappear. This was very frustrating to me because I knew that she had the ability to go potty. A few weeks ago she asked to go tinkle again, we got the potty stuff out and even got a baby doll potty (Target carries just a potty so you don't have to shell out the money to get the doll that actually tinkles - and you have less mess!). The doll potty was actually a great bonus because DD makes sure her favorite baby doll doesn't have any accidents in her panties - yes I made her baby a few pairs of panties. Both times potty training we gave our daughter lots of positive praise and M&Ms (one or two) for going potty. I do not know what if any of this will help with your daughter's success at potty training but know that you are not alone! Tons of parents have setbacks and difficulties. Good luck!

I have 5 children and everyone of them have been different. One thing I dont believe in is going back and forth between underwear and pampers/pullups. I feel like it confuses them. So she may be confused about what she is supposed to be doing. Keep going- dont give up. She will get the hang of it. We all had to go through it; some just easier than others. Good luck and God Bless!

I tend to agree with your husband that the best way to move is forward. Understand that potty training can be messy and you are not the first mother to be frustrated -- I feel your pain! My opinion is to get rid of the pull ups and have her naked at home and in regular underwear when out. I think Sears even has training underwear which has extra layers, and you can add the old fashioned plastic panty over those. Consistency is the key, and pull ups aren't that different from diapers. As far as pooping on the potty, what finally got my younger son to go on the potty (instead of timing his poopy during nap when he did have on a diaper) was a reward of Smarties! It only took a few days of seeing his older brother get this treat for him to think that it would be nice to poop on the potty if only to get the treat! THree weeks is not that long for training, but it is far enough into it that it seems your daughter knows what needs to be done. When she was naked, you say she went on the potty occasionally -- wonderful!!! Reward her with kisses, tell her "aren't you proud of yourself," regularly (wake up, after breakfast, before lunch...) tell her it's potty time and ask her what book she wants to read (or something to make it HER choice) while on the potty. Encourage and reward every little thing. It's a lot of work!!! It takes time, but you will get through it. You've already started, you may as well follow through because you'll have to do it sooner or later, so it may as well be sooner. (Plus it's easier now when the weather's warm!)

E.,
We went through the same thing with our daughter. What worked for us --- a couple of things...
We kept a jar of M&Ms or some kind of treats near the potty and a jar with a slightly larger treats for poop rewards. When ever she would achieve one (#1) was easy, we she would wash her hands and get to pick a treat.. We even had a song and a dance. She would always ask about the larger treat which was also there but we would always say were saving it for the 'big deal'.. The key seemed to observing their habits/behavior before they would 'go'. My son would hide somewhere. Whenever he tried to hide - I'd take him to the potty. Couple of times of him hiding and me finding him and encouraging him to go potty and he was there.
Also, what also worked for my daughter - we let her pick out her own 'big girl panties' - and we constantly reminded her not 'to poop on - then it was Barnie, "Barnies head".
For what ever reason that worked... along with the other stuff worked, but mostly consistency. Hang it there! Eventually they'll get it...My daughter was a little over a year, but my son was closer to 2.5yrs.

My two oldest are boys and I waited until 2.5yo to train them and they were trained in a week with underwear day and night. So, now I have a 3.5yo girl that we are still working on. It's different for each child. Boy, have I figured that one out. She isn't totally interested in it. Even though some people say that it will take a week...yes, it does for some. But I understand now, that it will take much longer for other kids. It will take months for this one. I waited until 3yo for this one because at 2yo and even 2.5yo, she was peeing in her underwear and could care less if she was wet, etc. We are still working on it and it's hit and miss in pullups. We got tired of washing the underwear and the areas where she went...too much work...it shouldn't be that way. If they aren't ready, they aren't ready, no matter what you do. I'd just try to get her to go without frustration. If frustration is there, I'd wait a while.

I would put her back in diapers. It doesn't sound like she is quite ready and there is nothing wrong with that. She is still pretty young. Try again in a few months and stick with big girl underwear then. You will be surprised at the difference it makes. Going back to diapers is fine since it makes her feel comfortable and since she is having so many accidents you don't want her to be confused. Try again in a few months.

She might need incentive to go…a treat of some kind. My daughter is 26 months old and has been completely potty trained for several months. We used a combination of methods, partially Dr. Phil’s and also several other ideas borrowed while searching for info on the internet. By the way my daughter is not a laid back easy going kid. We have found that verbal explanation of what she can and can’t do with extreme consistency of consequences has worked wonders with her. They comprehend so much more than we give them credit for.
About a month out we started with this …tell her she is going to be a big girl soon and big girls only go on the potty. We watched a video called potty time, at first I thought it was worthless and she was not getting anything from it but she did. Then we went shopping and I told her she would get a treat each time she went potty as a big girl. She picked M&M’s over anything food or non food related. We are pretty strict on sugar so this is really a treat for her. Next she got to pick her magic big girl panties that would transform her from baby girl to big girl and we put them away when we got home since they were magic. Then we pulled the potty from the bathroom into the den and she was allowed to play with it and get comfortable with it. I never pressed her to use it but praised her heavily if she did and gave her treats. We also brought out the magic underwear to look at and talk about over the month but never put them on. She was getting very excited about becoming a big girl. We did this for about one month and set a date for our potty training in one day.

On the day, we pulled out a potty time baby doll and she used the potty like Dr. Phil recommends (party and all). We watched potty time again and pulled the rugs up and explained furniture was off limits for the day. We pulled off her diaper and put on the magic panties. She ate salty foods and drank a lot of water and lemonade so we’d have more opportunity to go. She was also in charge of cleaning up accidents and taking any soiled panties to the laundry room and putting them in a basket. After a half day of accidents she got it. Important…after each accident she immediately was put on the potty 10 times off, on, off, on…I read it trains the muscles for memory recognition. The next day we moved the potty to the bathroom. The M&M’s were doled out for every success and she would be so excited every time she went and came running from the bathroom saying “I did it! M&M’s!”
We hit a bump in the road about a month in when she developed hard stools. She started holding them in and crying it hurt too bad to go. We used Miralax to soften the stool and upped the treats to M&M’s and little wrapped presents from the dollar store. Cured that problem pretty fast.
I also watched a little boy who is a couple months older than my child. I used these methods modified for him and he was doing very well at my home but his mother didn’t feel he was ready yet because he gave her a hard time at home about it. She didn’t follow through at home so it never worked but I am pretty sure it would have with consistency. By the way, we stopped with the M&M’s after she was confident with her ability and she did not revert back.
Take whatever you will for my advice…hopefully you can pull something that helps you out. Good Luck!

I'm a huge fan of positive reinforcement! Saw this on an old Dr. Phil episode and thought is was great.
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/264

Good luck!

I agree with Laura B. Just because she turned two, that doesn't mean that she is ready for potty training. I used an article that said toddlers weren't ready for potty training until they tried to pick up things larger than themselves.
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Hi there let me tell you about my experience, I started training my son when he was 2 and it took forever it is never to late to go back to diapers, that is what the ped. told me to do and when my son was ready he would let me know and sure enough about 6 months later my son went to the potty and he is now 6 and I have no problems she is still very young just try it and see what happens don't get stressed out over it I thought I would be chaning my sons diaper until he was 18, but it all happened in time just beleive in her and yourself and it will happen when she is ready:)

I would let her lead on this one--don't push it too much. She's awfully young to be totally potty trained, so you probably WILL have a one step forward, two steps back scenario for a while. Just go with it--if she wants undies, let her wear them. If she wants pull ups sometimes, that's okay. She'll do it eventually. It takes a lot of kids a looong time to be okay with pooping on the potty--not sure why--it must feel wierd or something. Good luck--don't stress over it!

Hang in There!!! I had a hard time with my son,same thing,wee wee no poopy.His daughter on the other hand was a breeze.We put cloth training pants on with a pair of rubber pants when she went in them she did not like the felling and started using the potty.Do not throw away cloth training pants when they have an accident,turn them inside out in the toilet and flush the waste while rinsing the pants out,then wash with laundry.I am going throuhg this right now with granddaughter #2,she just turned two,she will poop in potty and not pee.They are all different SO HANG IN THERE!DO NOT GO BACK TO DIAPERS it is to confusing for the kids.Good Luck