Years ago I had the same problem. Although I had 4 boys, ones his and ones mine both 10 and our 2 year old and infant. My girlfriend came over because I was pulling my hair out. She promptly took all my glass figurines of the shelf and placed them in a towel and put them in a box and handed them to me to put away for now. Unless it was hanging on the wall, all my pictures were boxed up and anything that had to be moved to clean was removed. She brought a timer with her and handed it to me. She announced you have 5 minutes to pick up this room today. You will be cleaning each room in this manner. I was dumbfounded. When I got to the last room, she said I had 30 minutes to clean it. She said tomorrow, I will start in this room I just cleaned and that you should start with a different room each time so that by the time the week ends, you've cycled through all of them evenly. Then she got out the dust rag and the vacuum and without all the clutter, it was a breeze to dust and polish and vacuum. She dumped cleaner in the toilet and said I could scrub the toilet when I used it next and that I could scrub the shower when I got in it to bathe, and clean the sink when I brushed my teeth. She showed me how to put yesterdays newspaper on the floor in front of the stove before I cooked so after dinner all I had to do was roll up the paper and dispose of it. I learned how to wash and put away what I had finished using in the kitchen the very minute it was no longer needed. I would line up all the ingredients prior to beginning the meal so that there were fewer last minute changes. The 10 year olds took turns emptying the dishwasher first thing in the morning. She forbide me to even wash a dish; they dishwasher will do a good job and if not, then you can clean the item. I learn how to have a clean home by 9 am every morning. Believe me, your children will never notice the dust and they are only little once. Get rid of the clutter is the secret. Having a place for everything and everything in it's place is a time saver and a stress reducer. Hey, if you just gotta spend time cleaning, get up real early and clean before you child wakes up and take a nap when he does so you can still have time for hubby once you child is in bed.
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Life is too short and you must live life to the fullest. Carpe Diem! Good Luck! F.