S.H.
This is a real marital problem
The addition of more pets, is just him being a total jerk.
He doesn't even listen to you.
This is a marriage problem.
And he is hardly, ever, home.
The home, is just his weekend "hotel."
And who knows what his life is like. Really.
No one really knows, because he is never home.
He is a "commuter." To his home.
Not a resident... in his home.
The home... is actually just a storage place and a repository for his things.... but he hardly ever lives there.
And he never takes care of things, at home. Not his pets, not his child, not his Wife.
He is a jerk.
He must be having a nice life, living in hotels.
And, at the hotel and his home, he has maids doing his cleaning and laundry, and a cook making his food, and all his collection of things/pets, are being cared for by his Wife.
He is not a participant, in his own family or home.
He is treating everyone in his home, as a "doormat." Except for his pets.
The pets are like royalty.
He has a family, child, and a Wife. Does he know that?
If that were my Husband... I would be way BEYOND, the level of being nice. I would not be, nice anymore.
And, I would give my Husband an earful.
A BIG... earful and tell him my POINTED opinions... without even hinting at it.
Time to be, point blank blunt.