Newborn Problem!!

Have you thought about investing in a co-sleeper bassenet? They are adjustable hieght and are open on one side so you can be close to baby without him being in bed with you. My second child wouldn't sleep in hers either but that was eight yrs ago and the co-sleeper was not out yet. I knew from experience I could not get her use to sleeping in bed with me or it would never end. I was able to get her to sleep in one of those viberating baby seats which I placed on the floor near my bed. If she was fussy I was a reach away to touch her or gently bounce her. It is a more affordable option if you cannot afford to invest in a co-sleeper.

I am not sure if this is what you are looking for...sounds like you want more space in the bed, but for a little while I used a "Snuggle Nest" which is a small baby bed that safely lets the baby sleep in-between you two. My baby was really small though and I imagine that it would not work much after a few months. Mine loved her bassinet b/c it had a little attachment that made small vibrations and I think they sell them seperately. (I got mine at Babies R Us)
Hope this gives you some ideas.

My daughter didn't sleep unless touching me or my husband until we discovered swaddling. The first seven weeks of her life she slept in our bed and then, with swaddling, we were able to get her to sleep in her crib. Read Happiest Baby on The Block to learn how to swaddle correctly. I also recommend the Miracle Blanket. It was great!

For naps during the day, you can babywear also. See website www.thrivingbabies.com. Lots of good info.

Good Luck,P.

Wow..My husband and I had the same problem with our little girl.. We stayed on the couch with her till she was 2 months them moved her into her crib. You might was to try a different cushion in the bassinet.. and good luck.

There's a difference between having the baby in bed with you and having the baby in a co-sleeper (which is like a crib but attached to the bed, with no rail between you and the baby). Personally I would much prefer the second because studies show that babies are more likely to die from SIDS if they actually sleep in the bed with you. I know many people choose the option, but I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with it.

Here's one of the most popular manufacturers of cosleepers:

http://armsreach.com/

C. - I can so relate - I had one of those armsreach co-sleepers that attaches to the bed - but that still wasn't close enough for my daughter! I finally just gave in and read up on safe co-sleeping and that is what we are still doing a year and a half later. We are one of the only countries in the world that views that as a "bad" thing. When I was still trying to get her to sleep seperately - swaddeling worked wonders - that would keep her sleeping for a few hours at a time without me next to her - I guess because she felt secure. Good luck - and whatever you decide to do just remember that you have to do what works the best for your situation - so you can get some rest.

I had a similar problem with my son. Both my kids slept better next to me (I have a newborn too:). I would have to make sure he was asleep before I put him down. When they get a little older you sometimes have to let them fuss but when they're new I feel it's best to keep them content. A friend also said to put a my shirt in the bassinet with him, but I never tried it. I hope you find something that works for you! My daughter (3 wks) is better about but it was rough with my son at first. Good luck:)

Give your baby the babies magic tea and hope he'll start with normal sleeping anywhere. The tea is totally organic and safe for babies.

My son was born Sept 7th and for the first couple of weeks, he would only fall asleep in the bed with me and my husband (after the middle-of-the-night feedings he would happily go into his bassinet). I figured that since he was only days to weeks old, he needed his Mommy and it was awful to hear him cry when all he wanted was to be touching me. My daughter was always content in the bassinet and I joke with my husband that our 3.5 week old has slept with us more times that our 2.5 yo! These past few nights he has actually fallen asleep in his bassinet, so maybe he just needed that time to adjust to the outside world. I’m not really for co-sleeping, but I’m not going to begrudge my poor baby the comfort of sleeping with his Mommy when that’s all he needed to sleep...which means we sleep...which means happier parents!

Congratulations!

I have a daughter born 07/07/07 and she is the same. She sleeps in bed with my husband and I - Our older daughter did the same and eventually we just put her into a crib when she started to sleep soundly through the night.

Some people are against co-sleeping but it works for us.

Good Luck!

Hi C.,

Congratulations on your little boy. Sorry about the problem your having, have you considered buying one of those bassinets that pulls right up next to the bed so he can be close to you. Or even letting him sleep in the bed with you with one of those protectors around him. I found my son slept better with us most of the time. I know everyone warns against it but if its means everyone gets a nights sleep personally I think its worth it..... good luck.

Our youngest son did this. We had a beautiful cosleeper baby blue bassinet. Looked brand new when he went from it to his crib too. LOL. Our pediatrician suggested we do this: For sleepy time, put him in his infant carrier, and place the infant carrier into the bassinet. It snuggles around them a bit more, plus they're in a more babylike position of kind of being up more. Worked like a charm! But was only way he ever slept in it!

I would recommend co-sleeping. I know it is a controversial topic and everyone has their own opinion. If you are open to the idea, it made all the difference for me. My son never slept in his crib except for naps. It made nighttime nursing a breeze, and I actually got some rest. New mommies never get enough of that! Good luck.
If you are curious but don't know much about co-sleeping, there are a couple books out there on it; but it is also in most (if not all) attachment parenting literature as well.

Swaddling worked for us!!!

Congrats on your new baby!! We used a snugglenest and LOVED it!! It's safer for when they're that little and now she just sleeps with us. I totally can relate to the couch thing as that's what we used to do after the snugglenest phase for a while because mine has a severe case of GERD (acid reflux) and as soon as we'd lay her down, she'd gag, etc. So we had to take turns sleeping propped up on the couch for a couple of months, but then went on vacation in July and just slept with her in the bed and have been doing it ever since - back in our own bed, together!! :) So I'd get the snugglenest asap and get back in bed together (or a co-sleeper bassinet that comes up to your bed). I just sold my snugglenest on ebay or else I'd have given it to you...sorry! Good luck and enjoy your new baby!!

Congratulations!!!!!

Both of our kids slept with us too. We all seemed to get more sleep when we were together.

I bought one of those bed rails and put up on my side of the bed. I did not put the baby between us because I've heard over and over that Dads will not wake up as easily as Mom does. There were nights my dh didn't even hear her crying. So we both felt more comfortable with me in the middle. It was just a pain to crawl out of bed when I needed to.

I never had one, but I've heard cosleepers are really nice. I know Babies R Us has them. It slides right up against your bed and is the same level. There's no rail between you and the baby. So they're close, but they're not right in the bed with you.

L.