Normal Boy Behavior

I have only read a couple of the responses but my thought on it is yes I would be a little upset if I had a daughter and that happend and I would be very upset if it was my son who did it. I do have a 6 year old boy and he has never done that but I have a 3 year old nephew who is so proud of his pee pee and wants to show people and I know that he is not abused in anyway. Yes I would address the mother about it for the fact that she should be aware of it, but to some of the responses have you ever thought that when the little boy said don't tell because he would get in trouble for the fact that the parents knows he is doing it and trying to break him from it so yeah he knows he would get in trouble. I don't know all of the situation so that is why I say I would say something to the mother so if something is happening that should not be happening she is aware that you know he is showing it. I also know that my sister would be devestated if people thought she was abusing her son. She knows he does it and he gets in big trouble when he does it. As far as the boys will be boys yes they will and that is I think part of it but it is us that has to teach them what is appropriate and what is not. Boys and Girls are very different not just in the body parts either. Hope this helps and Good Luck!

I have 2 sons, my sister has 3 sons, and pretty much everyone I know has sons.

None of these boys including my brother as a child or my husband and his brothers did anything like this when they were young. The fact that they were scared about being told on is not a good sign as well.

About 50% of children are molested either by relatives or children their same age (that are usually molested by relatives... it is a vicious cycle.) I would also be worried about this and hopefully those boys are safe. I would definately talk to the mother, if anything else suspicous happens, I would contact cps.

I know that you have gotten lots of responses but here's mine. My DS, who turns 3 this week, has just been potty-trained for the last couple of months and he is absolutely obsessed with his pee-pee! I think he has finally realized what has been under that diaper for the past two years and can't keep his hands off of it-this IS NOT something my husband walks/sits around doing and he is not around other men so it is something he is doing on his own. He loves to take his underware off and play with it-it's embarassing especially when we don't know he has taken them off and then he bends over or something and we see all his treasure. We always tell him, go put your underware on right now-noone else needs to see that and it is private. We never laugh and we don't make a big deal out of it-his two sisters sure don't, they are disgusted and tell him the same thing. All this to say-he NEVER has showed it to someone or asked them to look at, it is his own fascination. I don't know if it's the fact that they are two brothers so they encourage one another but I would be ticked if a little boy showed himself to one of my daughters-this is not boys being boys IMO. THere is an issue here and I would say something to the Mom b/c I also would be ticked if I found out that my Son HAD shown a little girl his privates! HTH

It doesn't sound normal to me. I have 2 boys. They don't show off their pee-pee. And, for sure they don't show it to their friends. The fact that they told your daughter that she would get in trouble if they told is weird. Be careful. Something is not right. Always trust your Mommy instinct!! I would never leave your children alone with them. AT ALL!! OMG how scarry! I usually try to cut out those friendships. It is just not worth it. However, this little boy might need help.

This is called a RED FLAG.And you being uncomfortable is your feeling that this is not normal.The boys will be boys is just an excuse for her to hide behind because of embarassment.

I would not be concerned for the boys at all NOR do I think they are being molested because of this incident! It isn't 100 % normal behavior for a boy to be so excrete with his pee pee but it's not out of the ordinary either. They're still so young to truly understand right and wrong about their private areas and I'd be concerned if the boys were 6, 7 or 8 and then showing off their pee pees.
AND, I'm sure your friend understood what he said but tried to play it off by saying he asked about the baby because she was so embarrassed about what he just said.
I wouldn't let this incident keep you from seeing your friend anymore but if it bothers you that bad then let her know and even though your son hasn't done this yet, he very well might now because of seeing the other boys doing the same thing.
However, don't freak out and think your child will be ruined if he picks up that habit, he will grow out of it and be just fire! There's a lot more behaviors I'd be concerned about my kids picking up.
Take care.

Some boys do love to show off their pee-pees. Unfortunately this seems to continue into adulthood in some cases! :-) The fact that the boys told the your daughter not to tell anyone shows that they know they are not to do it. I would definitely tell your neghbor about them showing off in private. Be completely open about how it worried you a bit. It seems like a borderline thing to me. It could be a completely innocent and normal boy thing to do, and it could not be. If there is a deeper issue, you would feel horrible for not doing your best to bring it to your neighbor's attention. If you do go over there, I would be careful for a while to not leave the boys alone with your daughter. It is better to be safe than sorry! Also really drill it in your daughter's head that no matter who does something like that and tells her not to tell, that she should ALWAYS tell you things like that.

Well I have a 4 yr old boy he will be 5 in Oct and a 3 yr old girl. If that happened to my kids I would of been shocked and worried about my daughter. My son has never done that to friends or even family. I would be watchful with my daughter.

Y.,
To an extent it is a boy thing. I do childcare and it seems like I only get boys for some reason, and if I hear the word weiner or pee pee I have to stop what I am doing and address the situation. I don't think you should stop going to play, just tell your daughter that she needs to come tell you when they say that or try to show her. If the little boys says he is going to get into trouble it is probably because the mom can't stop his behavior, and he does get into trouble. I am sorry to say, but if they laughed or thought it was funny in any way your son too may try this. They are future men...they will always admire what God gave them!!!....:) Remember to tell your daughter they only mommy, daddy and the doctor,with mom's permission, can touch or look at her private parts. If these little boys ask or try to do that then you may have reason to be concerned.
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This is definitely not normal. At the very least you need to tell your friend. Also, I agree with the other mom regarding possible/potential molestation. You have no idea what that little boy was exposed to. An older man could have asked to see it and rewarded him. It doesn't even have to be a family member. I heard the other day that a strange man walked into a church and molested a little girl in the bathroom. You really should take this incident very seriously. The number one thing we protect is the innocence of our children. Little boys don't normally do this so that means there is a good chance that he has learned it somewhere. Keep your daughter away from this child at least until you can get to the bottom of this situation. If the mother keeps saying "boys will be boys" then I wouldn't let me daughter around him. That may sound harsh, but what is more important? your daughter's innocence or saving face with an acquaintance?

i would talk to the parents...also i know kids are curious about each other and thats normal but they should be teaching these boys that their privates are not to be shown to anyone except the parents and doctors if needed.

If the boys parents do not take this serious when you talk to them, I would stop going over there. It has to be addressed. Your kids are too young to understand those possible issues. They are being told not to tell you things. That is a negative influence right there. Good luck.