So how is your Easter going?
This is really lame but I want to opt out of going to dinner. I see my inlaws almost every day. We exchange mostly minor chit chat about DD and my husband and that's it.
But there's more.
My husband worked late last night and I have been up with DD since 6:30 a.m. I ushered her out of the house since she usually lieks to bust in on Daddy sleeping. I even had to put her in the car seat so I can get dressed without her interrupting DH.
I took her out to breakfast, a park and a store. Then I came home for her nap and studied for an online class.
Inlaws live an hour away and I want time for myself.
DH said Easter was never a big deal in his house. He said it'd be OK if I opted out.
All eyes are on my daughter as she is the only grandchild in the family.
So that said, would you opt out if you got an OK from your spouse?
I feel kind of bad, but again I do see my inlaws everyday.
@Dawn. Ha! I'm a vegetarian! If anything I would go for the wine. But I can only take so much surface chit chat!
@T.F. I understand what you are saying, but I do see my inlaws 3 times a week. They are helping with childcare while I complete an accelerated online class. Believe me, I am invisible when I am at events. LOL
Thank you every body! I did go and it was just the five of us, low-key.
If it's a big deal dinner on their part, I'd say you need to suck it up and go, at least for a little while. But if it's an informal, no big thing event, hubby can call and let them know you're all a bit under the weather - cause you are - and maybe do a special dinner with them later in the week.
You all sound worn out. I think take the day off and go another time when you will all be enthusiastic and ready to have a fun visit.
Sometimes, we just need to have a down time..
Even if it falls on Easter.
Since they are helping with childcare, go and be extra sweet to them. Make a point of saying how much you appreciate them. Pretend to have a lovely time. Not going might come across as you are a thankless DIL who thinks only of herself. When they are going out of their way to help, is the time to be overly gracious and not give any opportunity for them to think otherwise.
Just make it all about treating them special and you will feel really good.
I guess the real question is, "What's for dinner?" If it's special like lamb, or honey-baked ham, and all the fixings, I would skip a few days at the inlaws this week so that you can get some time to yourself, and enjoy the food today!!
Guess that tells you that I'm having one of these dishes for my dinner, and am looking forward to it! (Leg of lamb, mmm!!!) (I already had my ONE Cadbury egg for the year, ha ha!)
Do you mean that hubby would go and take your daughter? If so, I think it's fine. If they are expecting to see their granddaughter for the holiday, then I think it would be unkind to change that part of the plan, but if hubby and DD will still go, I don't think it would be terrible for you to stay home and have some rest/downtime.
I think it's a bit late to opt out. The only grandchild is probably much anticipated on Easter, planned for, etc., regardless of how often she is seen. I hope the day worked out for you regardless.
If your husband doesn't care & its not a big deal, opt out. I'm not going to the inlaws for Easter dinner either.
I would opt out in a heartbeat unless I rarely saw them and it was a big deal. If I saw them all the time??! No brainer. You have the "all clear" from hubs-take it!
I would opt out since you see them a lot AND dad is still going to to w/DD.
So they won't miss out on seeing them.
Hope you get to relax at home.
Put your feet up & watch a movie!
Happy Easter!
We all opted out of Easter this year and went camping. It was awesome!
I would and sounds like you have cool inlaws who would understand.
My DIL had to work today. My family went to breakfast and my son came. I am sure he was thinking about her the whole time. It is what it is. And I hope I am always an understanding mother in law.
Happy Easter!
you bet. sometimes you need some solitary time, your dh is fine with it, you're not missing the ubiquitous quality time if you see them a lot, there's just no reason not to roll with it.
khairete
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I think it is ok to opt out once in awhile, but don't make a habit of it. If you do it a lot then feelings will get hurt.
I would call your MIL and explain. Tell her you hope she understands.... just as a courtesy.
