Hi J.,
I'm an OT (not working at FMC, so I'm not familiar with their exact policies), but maybe I can help clear things up a little.
You would clearly never knowingly expose your own family members to disease or infection risks, but I'm sure you would be shocked and horrified to hear some of the things some people will do (and continue to do) even after medical staff have educated them about the risks they are exposing their loved ones (and other hospital patients) to.
People die every day from what outsiders bring into the hospital with them, and if another new Mom had another child with flu, or MRSA, or VRE, I know you would not want *your* family potentially exposed.
I would contact the OB dept. directly, and see about getting the head nurse to talk to you to clarify what the policy *IS*, then see how you can still maximize your son's participation in welcoming the new baby.
Congratulations, by the way!
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