Please Help!!!! My 3 Year Old Is Out of Control

I have a good idea of what you are going through. I have a 6 year old son and we just had our 2nd child in November. He likes being a big brother and he really seems to love his little brother a lot. Ever since I was pregnant my older son has been out of control. I know with a smaller child it is harder for them to understand a lot so it might be a little bit harder. What we do is a star chart. Every time my son does something good he gets a star and every time he does something bad he gets one taken away. At the end of the week he gets a quarter for each good star on the chart. For your little one that probably doesn't understand money, maybe it could be points to get something at the dollar store or maybe a treat that she doesn't get very often. Its something to make them stop and think about their actions. It seems to really be working for me. Also another thing to try is counting to 3. When 3 is reached and she is still doing what shes not supposed to, than take away the star. If she gets a negative amount of stars just remind her that shes got to work extra hard to earn them back. If that doesn't work there is always time out. You just have to make one spot the time out spot and every time they need to be put in that spot. Either way you must be consistant for it to work.

Thanks,
L. Scupien

Watch Nanny 911 - she has tons of ideas for out of control children.

OK... I think that she is acting out because she thinks she's not your baby anymore... She sees the attention that you are paying to the new baby & she's jealous... You have to reassure her that she's still important to you... And just because you have another baby, you still love her the same... Good Luck and Congrats on your new addition...

It seems like she's rebelling against you personally! Your oldest one you probably lean on a little more than Haillee so since she sees that, she's upset and now with the little one ..... She most likely feels like she's been replaced.
I would spend some extra ALONE time with her AND REALLY GET ON HER LEVEL WHEN SPEAKING TO HER. A child acts out for reasons.
Get to the bottom of it!

my 3yr old son briefly went thru this when we brought his sister home. he was very loving and caring toward her however with us he was a mess. i noticed it was a bit of protecting his sister and being overwhelmed. so i made sure when she slept to do things just with him. read a book, color, sing, whatever..just something he and i can enjoy. it is a hard age for them to completely express themselves so making sure you are patent helps a lot.

I think that she might be feeling less attention from you and everyone else, because let's face it, the baby is the shining star now, and she's not anymore. But I also feel that it is also age appropriate. I have a 3yr old and 9 month old and my 3 year old acted out alot when my son was born. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. I hated it but I had to be consistant with time outs and taking toys way and having him earn them back. At first he wouldn't stay in the time out chair, so I put him on a time out step and even then he would come off, but I took suppernanny's advice and just kept putting him back on, no talking to him while I was doing that and eventually it worked. I set my kitchen timer for 2 minutes and then I made him apologize and hugged and kissed him. It really worked, it is frustrating, but in the long run she will improve everywhere and with everyone. My son is even doing sooooo much better in school as well. He is only 3 1/2, but he has made so much progress! Good luck!

Shes at an age where expresssing herself can be difficult, and she may not fully understand why shes doing it. Shes probably being agressive twords you and her sister because she is loosing some of the attention she always had from the 2 of you. Being consistant with rules and letting her know that everyone still loves her the same will hopefully make the agression stop. It can be a difficult transistion but know it will get better!