Potty Training - Franklin,MI

from your description it does sound like the behavior is intentional, yes kids at her age can be totally trained and they can also be very stubborn. I agree with taking something away, when I was trying to train my stubborn DD the only thing that ended up working was to take the TV and computer away until she went on the pot that day. Maybe she wants the attention back like when she was training, try being excited when she goes on the pot again.

I am in the same boat as you and here are some things that seem to be working for us. My daughter has been potty trained since September and was doing great, but for the past few weeks has been constantly wetting and even pooping in her panties. We also tried punishments like taking things away, but what has worked the most is incentives. For example. In the morning I will say to her, "If you can keep your panties dry until nap time I will let you stay up a half hour after your sister goes to bed to play with your doll house." I have also used food sometimes. She was having a lot of accidents at church, so I told her if her panties were dry on Sunday after we picked her up I would let her have a "smoothie" (a frozen coke). Or sometimes I have said, "If you keep your panties dry until lunch time we can watch a movie after lunch." I am sure you get the point, but this has really seemed to work the best. Incentives help her remember and honestly I think sometimes she really just does it intentionally as well. We also started a reward chart. We did this in the beginning of potty training. She would get stickers for each time she pottied. When the chart is full she got to pick a fun place to go. Since we have been giving incentives and doing stickers she has had much less accidents. I also took her to the ped thinking she may have an infection. She did not, so as long as your little one is clear in that respect I would say to try giving rewards and incentives for staying dry. Hope it works out! Best wishes.

L.; first of all to potty train dont use pull ups, ive heard many people say they dont work and i found it out too, and usually peeing on floor might just mean she wants your attention, when she does this grab her up quick and put her on the toilet, the rush of taking her may make her stop, also time her when she does have to go, and find out how long between times, most the time we do pee on reg basis and poo, so time her when she does go and then when that time is up put her on the toilet, some say too, to put a little potty chair in the kitchen , cause its where you are, they are not used to the bathroom, with others there, she may just want to be where you are,and say see i can pee, so have patience, and keep up the good work, all three of my kids did not get it totally down till age 4 so hang in there, and pull ups are not helping, buy her big girl panies, let her feel the real wetness, she just needs a bit of guidance, and patience, D. s

I think the dr. appt may be unnecessary. There is ALOT going on!! The holidays are very dysregulating for adults, let alone children! All the hustle and bustle, activities, lights, etc. Give it time. There will be regression, but the more you push, the more she may regress. Give her empathy for her "accidents" and you may see improvement.
P.S. Have you read anything on attachment issues (RAD)? Given the age of your daughter at adoption, you might want to read up on this. We adopted our son at age 2 and wish I knew more then. More enlightened now and enjoying life.

Most kids are not fully trained until they are 3 1/2 or older. It is also VERY common for them to regress over ANY change in the routine of their little life.

My son regressed over not having a steady teacher at school... My nephew regressed when my in-laws redid their kitchen. Children stress out and this is what can occur.

I feel your daughter is too young to do anything intentional at this age. Most children are just not wired that way.

I would recommend positive reactions and do not make a big deal out of the accidents. The negative totally affects the behavior either way as our children read into that energy radiation off of us as parents.

Stay calm, patient and reassuring. And I would examine any recent changes in your routine with her (or her surroundings if she is at a daycare facility) as this may be the underlying cause.