Potty Training - Sierra Vista,AZ

what i did on both my kids (my daughter is 22 months)is put her in the panties, and put sweat pants over (so if she pee's a lot it gets absorbed in the pants). Have you tried the child sized cushion that goes on the toilet? i had more success with that with my daugher & son. It's hard for them to get up. With my son we lived in the bathroom every 30 minutes, my daugher cault on real fast. i only put a pull up on her at night, and i put her underwear on underneith so that she can feal that she's wet. It takes time, just don't give up. Maybe give her a book or a favorite toy to hold on the toilet? My daugher is very independent (unlike my son) and we have to make her think that it's her idea to go on the potty. that's what's worked with me, i hope it helps!

Hi T.!

Potty training! It is all about patience, patience and more patience! Babies..well Toddlers love to be naked! They love to take off the diaper. I went through the same thing with my girl! They do eventually "Get It" and it is in their own timing and with lots of encouragement. The daycare teacher that my daughter used to have would take a book into the bathroom while my daughter sat on the potty. My girlfriend who is a doula told me you just have to take them to the potty every couple of hours because they are busy and still don't have the concept of peeing, or feeling like they have to pee. Mine is now 26 months old and will keep the pull ups on. Will do pretty good when I suggest to go to the potty. But sometimes she is just not interested! Just keep encouraging her. Oh, I did buy her the Elmo Potty video...which is what started her using the potty in the first time. She loves Elmo and figured...if Elmo does it..so can I!
Sorry I can't tell you what to say to your husband about the carpet...it happens and patience from daddy's and encouragement from them is also a must. Accidents happen and then OxyClean in a spray bottle cleans it up!

I hope this helps you, and yes...you are doing it right! Each child is different. I have a friend who has a 17 month old that is already potty trained...but it was months of panties, endless accidents, broken sleep patterns for the parents and TONS OF PATIENCE to get her to the point where she no longer wears diapers. I was discouraged when I heard this, but then thought...you know what...she is only 2! Give her a break! We have to remember...they are just learning and it is only through repetition and as much positive reinforcement as we can muster that they feel "comfortable" and trust that what they are doing is natural and accepted.

Have a great day!

M. H

Hi T., I haven't been on this website very long, but read your question, and I have a 5 yr old daughter...potty trained of course (hahaha) o.k. I get advice from my sister-in-law who is an expert in this area...What I did with my daughter was have her drink soda...it goes right through the kids systems and they have to pee within a hour or less. So, what I did was let my daughter drink and drink and drink all day, and every 1/2 hr or so put her on the toilet...don't give her the treat for just sitting there, give her one when she actually goes...if she poops, give her a bigger treat (something she loves but doesn't get very often!) My daughter was potty trained and accident free in just a few days! Oh, and it has to be a BIG deal when she goes...call mom and dad or grandparents and let them tell about their exciting trip to the toilet...this sounds weird, but your daughter will I'm sure love it...mine did. So, that is my advice. My husband is the same as yours...no accidents on the carpet, so...good luck with that!

T.,

Potty training is not the easiest. Only a few are turely blessed with kids that potty train easy. Most of the time it is one step forward, several steps back. I found that stickers helped. Make the experience a fun one. Don't dicipline for accidents, just explain that is the reason we need to go sit on the potty. Set a time each day to sit on the potty and read books or sing songs. Go to the store and have her pick out her very own potty seat. When she is in a diaper make changing her a long drawn out experience so that she start to realize that if she goes on the potty, she gets back to playing sooner. These are all things that I did when I potty trained my little girl, who is now a successfully potty trained 3 yr old. Hang in there. It will happen. Good luck.

If she's not ready, she's not ready. You can't push these things. None of my kids were potty trained until about 3 years old, they just weren't ready. So for me the trick was keeping the diapers on them. Putting the diaper on backwards worked for one of mine, you know, so the tabs are in the back? Overalls or pants with belts are harder to take off, as are those full body outfits, especially if you can find some that fasten in the back. Also, if you use onesies that snap at the crotch, use a diaper safety pin to fasten them closed, or get the kind where the snaps are at the front of the crotch (Gerber, I think) and put them on backwards, perhaps with a safety pin. Have fun and remember, this too shall pass.

It sounds like your daughter is on her way of figuring it out. Give it time. My daughter was the SAME way. She is now 25 months. When she turned two amost to the day, she just started using the potty. She wouldn't even tell me she would just go. I made it a BIG deal. We would sing a song about her going pee pee on the potty and do a dance, we would even call the grandparents and tell them the good news and get a treat. Just be patient with her and she will do it in her own time. Just make it pos. when she trys and it will work itself out.

My little girl is 2 in June and baby is due July - so I am at the same point as you - trying to train before baby arrives!
We just started y'day in fact, and if anyone out there has also tried the "take-her-every-20-minutes-the-first-3-days-method", I would like to know their success.
I had my watch timer on to take her every 20 minutes and she did pee, some of these attempts. We had 2 accidents when I missed by 10 minutes, so that is my fault, however it is teaching me about when she goes. I don't think there will be an age that you can potty train and not have an accident on the floor, I am sorry to say, so you husband needs to deal with it now or deal with it later, and try to be understanding.
I am trying to keep her liquids up to enable potty success. For now I am doing undies at home, pull-ups for outings, and naps. She already did not want to wear a diaper again. She is very co-operative with the whole sitting on the potty and trying, so I am staying positive and motivated that we can do this with plenty of time to have a small break from diapering before July Baby comes!
If anyone knows where to get small undies from - please post, my daughter is 22 lbs, and some of the ones we are using from when 5yr-old-sister was this age, have the elastic all stretched out, we had got those one from New Zealand, where I think it might be the norm to potty train by 2 (at least more common).
It has been our philosophy all along to make changes early, taking away pacifiers, bottles, putting her in toddler bed, etc. I think they can adapt quite easily as wee ones after just a day or two of change, whereas once they can talk and start to more assert their independence, change can be more of a challenge, in our experience. But I had not tried early potty training with daughter #1.
So I will keep checking this thread too, thanks for posting T.! I say go for it, and be very consistent and on top of it in the beginning so it is easier for your little to have success with staying dry. I think it would help to sit with her the whole time she is sitting on the potty so she does not get up and pee on the floor. You can hear the pee landing too and be their to offer praise instantly. If she thinks she gets dry undies every time she wets a pair, then she might not get it that she needs to try to keep them dry, so praising for keeping them dry is key. Mine also likes to flush, but I only let her flush if she did something. For now I would also say, don't ask her if she needs to go, just take her a regular intervals, I think an hour or two is too long until you really learn when and how much she pees.

I'd suggest putting her on the potty first thing when she wakes up, both in the mornings and after naps. This way she will most likely need to go pee and she will have a high rate of success. Try this for a while and she will begin to feel proud for going in the potty.
The taking off the diaper thing might not mean she is ready for the potty. She may just not like the feeling of wearing a diaper or she may like the control she feels by taking it off. It is a tough situation. One she will soon grow out of. "Soon" being a relative term. Good luck!

Potty training is different for every child and sometimes can be difficult. When my daughter was a year and a half I gave her a little potty to play with in the living room, she loved it and she played in it. As soon as I saw that she was comfortable I moved it into the bathroom as a "bathroom toy". Throughout the day I would visit the toilet often (even if I didn't have to go) and she would follow and play with her seat, it didn't take long for her to want to start doing what I was doing and shortly after she would actually use it. I think it made her feel like it was her decision to go (she was going #1 before she turned 2). I didn't know how to get her to go #2 but one day she was not feeling well and had a loose stool so I put her on the potty and she seemed so shocked when it happened but then was fine, ever since then she wasn't as scared and was more willing to try. I tried to make it as fun as possible like singing songs, stickers, potty books and games. At maybe 26-27 months she was "potty trained" (she still had accidents here and there but that is to be expected and it didn’t last long). I hope this helps, I will be testing this theory again when my 4 month old son is ready :)

Just keep it up. If there is one thing kids like, it's consistency. If it's possible, take a few days and stay at home with her. Can be a weekend if needed. Stickers, any kind work great too. She'll get it eventually. I let my little girl come in the bathroom with me and had her watch me while I was potty training her. It was awkward, but she thought it was kinda cool. You know, a if Mom does that I can do it too thing! Just a thought.

Hi T. - My 30 month old just learned how to use the potty a little over a month ago and had two straight days of what you describe above. It sounds like she hasn't learned what the sensation feels like to go on the potty and how to control it. Once my daughter understood that, she was golden and hasn't had hardly any accidents. She was ready to train around 24 months but I was just about to have a baby so we decided to delay her to when we could focus solely on her.

I read the book "Toilet Training in less than a day" which had a lot of helpful information to guide you (I didn't follow it 100%). What worked for us was A TON of 1 on 1 time where I would just sit and play with her and watch her panties. When I saw them start to get wet (use a colored pair) I would grab her and RUN to the potty so she would go the rest of the way on the potty. After two days, something clicked and she got it and has been great ever since.

I had a friend who used the completely naked method and put the toilet in the kitchen. It was the same thing - once her daughter learned what it was like to control her body, she had no problem using the toilet.

Like you know it is a HUGE commitment and both parents need to be 100% supportive. It takes a ton of your time and a lot of attention. Also, it doesn't matter when you train your child, there will be accidents...and more accidents even when they are 'trained' so unfortunately hubby's need to get used to it =)

If you decide you are not ready for training, my advice is to use duct tape on the diaper. Good Luck!!

Try taking her into the potty with you every time you go. Sit her on her potty while you are on the "big girl potty". This will help her to understand the concept of going. Remember to enforce the positive and be constant. Good Luck!

M.

I started my daughter at 20 months to try and get her trained before my second came. It was a nightmare. Panties really are the way to go and you can find plastics to go over so that the mess isn't so bad. I went through months of pee and poop to clean up and I kept persisting thinking that it would get better. I should've realized that she wasn't ready and I wasn't ready either. If you can handle the stress and mess then I say go for it, but if it gets too hard and you and your little one are both suffering then I say stop until she is more ready. I learned that pushing my child into it was a complete mistake and because I kept pushing, it took a year for her to go by herself (without telling me) with no accidents. Every child is different, so maybe yours is totally ready. It's not easy either way, so GOOD LUCK!!

She does sound ready but you may want to wait a few more months. Its really up to you. My daughter was the same as far as taking her clothes and diapers off! I could not wait to potty train her! I actually started her at 2 and I do believe the panties are a huge motivation to use the potty. My daughter hated to have accidents but was trained in a few days because she was very ready. I'd potty her every few hours and make it fun:) I really like to get the diapers off and get them in underware so they can feel it. This worked well with both kids and my son who was older was very hard to train. But yeah there are messes to clean which is the not so fun part. When you first start its hard for them to really know the sensation so give her time

I don't think your daughter is ready to be out of diapers. Until they can verbalize to you that they need to use the potty, they are not ready. All you'll end up doing is cleaning up a lot of messes and being frustrated. I know many moms who bragged their kids were potty trained by 2- but really that was not true- they had accidents all the time. I would keep her in diapers right now. However, I would encourage her to use the potty- ready books and watch some DVDs (Potty Power) about using the potty. My daughter did the same thing at around 2 (showed some interest)- but wasn't really ready yet. She couldn't tell me when she had to go and wasn't old enough to go on her own. She actually didn't get potty trained till she was a little over 3. However, it was very easy then- few accidents and went smoothly. We kept her in diapers and used treats/ rewards/ praise when she used the potty. Then, we started letting her run around at home without pants on- and put the training potty in our main room so she didn't have to go far to use the potty. Then we started using training pants over underwear when out in public. When she went a couple weeks without accidents out in public, then we went to undies only during day. We still did diapers at night. Then, we gradually went with undies during nap and diapers at night. Recently, we are diaper free at night. The whole process took us about 3-4 months to no diapers at all.

Hope that helps, T.