We have been trying to potty train my 3 year old son for a few months now. I am very big on letting him let me know when he's ready and with going pee pee, he does. We've got the pee pee thing down kind of. He refuses to go poo poo on the potty and always wants to do it in a pull up. So, when I put him in underwear, he'll have a poo poo accident and I'll have him watch me as I clean the poo poo out into the toilet and tell him that this is where poo poo goes and he'll agree with me, but still won't do it on the potty. Then, since he got transfered to a pull up to finish going poo poo, he starts to pee in the pull up too so when I put him back in underwear, he pees his underwear too. We tried the whole " no more diaper thing" and I've tried taking him to the potty every hour on the hour. He'll pee pee, but no poo poo. I'm beginning to loose my mind!!!!
We left him alone for a while, letting him go pee pee on the toilet and do his other business in his pull ups... but that got expensive, so we put him back in underwear and he kept using his underwear as a toilet, with a few attempts on the potty, pee pee and poo poo songs with a dance were made up untill he just decided one day, "mommy, I have to go poo poo" and he ran to the potty!! And of course he asked for the poo poo dance when he was done. :)
i taught my 3 year old cousin to poo poo in the potty by bribing him. halloween was coming up and he REALLY wanted to be Buzz Lightyear. i kept him the weekend before halloween and told him that if he didn't poop in the potty i would not buy him the costume. it worked immediately. he pooped in the potty that day and never needed a diaper again. good luck!
Hi M.,
I had a little trouble in this area too. My son would do the same. I tell everyone I meet and online to get this DVD called, "Potty Power." My son loved watching it because it's all about kids his age learning to use the potty. They use lots of songs and actually show the kids using the potty (nothing gross of course!), how to wash your hands after using the potty, and even how to wipe yourself using a teddy bear. I think it's really a great DVD to reinforce using the potty.
My son still remembers the songs too!
You can purchase it online or try searching for it at your local library. If you decide to buy, it'll come in handy for your other children in the future! Happy potty training!
I'm going to attempt potty training on Saturday. I have a book called "Potty Train Your Child in Just One Day" by Teri Crane. It's incredibly loving and child-centered. We'll see how it goes!
Don't worry about it. Poo Poo is the hardest to get kids to do in the toilet. We started telling our son that we would give him a quarter for his piggy bank every time he went in it. We bought him a potty chair of his own. I notied he didn't like using the big toilet to go poop in. He then went with us to pick out his superhero underwear. I told him he could only wear them if he was going to be a big boy and not poop in his pants. Within a week he was #2 trained.
Hi M.! :)
It sounds like you're having a really hard time with this! I would highly recommend trying the "doll method" for one day.
I trained my son using a "Potty Scotty" doll. Not sure if you've heard of it--but basically--you toilet train your child in 1 day by having them teach the doll to use the toilet. In teaching the doll, they teach themselves. It worked like a charm for my son, who was 2 year, 2 months, but he did have problems with the pooping thing (some kids just do I guess) until one time he went in his pants and i backed him up to the toilet and "flipped" the poop in his undies into his toilet. He was shocked and said, "No!! Make messy!!" I thought--ah ha! So i took him around and showed him how dishes go in the cupboard, clothes in the closet, toys in the toy box and then explained that poopoo belongs in the toilet. You could see the little lightbulb go on in his head as he understood. I've had no problems with him since. :) He caught on REALLY fast and we both had a really pleasant experience with the method.
Anyway, Everyone I know who've used it had great results (my mom even trained ME on it hehe) and it's a lot of fun too! I recommend doing a search for Potty Patty on google to see a list of stores or using Ebay. (I'm a fan of ebay lol)
Also--was thinking it might be a good idea to start fresh? Maybe put him back in diapers for one week prior to trying the method? Just a thought. :)
Best of luck to you!
~M.
M.,
Hopefully you have had some luck by now if not. Here is another trick you might want to try. My son was 3 and it was time to potty train as he was going into pre school soon. We were with our best friends in the desert in a camper when he was potty training and he had an accident in his underware. He just didn't get that poo poo was to go in the toilet. My best friend told me what to do and i laughed my head off and thought it was a joke. She said next time he goes #1 or #2 we have to do the potty dance and give a treat. (more if it is #2). So later that day he went to the bathroom and when we got out we did the potty dance which was silly but not to him because he thought it was the coolest thing you being funny and excited for him. My son wanted to see what we were going to do next if he went #2. I tell you what my best friend was right and I was wrong and in less then a week he was going to the bathroom doing both. Good luck- Just thought I would put my two cents in as well. :o)
Hi,M.
I totally understand what you are talking about. I myself have a 3 years boy. I have been ther and we are finally done with his potty training. Aftet we got the pee pee down it took another few months to get the poo poo down
what also helped him was the teacher in preschool. does your son go to preschool?
Don't give up, hang in there it will happend sooner than what you think. For some reason children take them longer to go #2 in the potty. I think they get scare going # 2 in th potty.
MY newphew had the same problem he would always go #1 in the potty and #2 in his pullup even in his underwear. hee. hee.
Hang in there
Don't worry! My son did the same thing for about 8 months. He was over 4 the day he realized that he wanted to go #2 on the potty. It was harder on my husband, who really got frustrated with the whole thing because my son would do it once, then not for months. We created a chart of good behaviors, pee pee and #2 on the potty. At the end of each time he did the behavior 10 times, he got a small reward (one hour at the park with his friend Sammy, a cookie, and for #2, a new DVD of a Disney movie. When he completed doing all 40 things (4 behaviors times 10) we took him to Disneyland. For months, he did not connect poo poo on potty to Disneyland, but the SECOND he did, he pooped 8 days in a row on the potty and has not had an accident since. They truly do have to get there on their own schedule and boys are later than girls. Just stay positive and try not to punish accidents and he'll work it out. As I said to my husband, I don't know any grown men who don't use the potty, so it is only a matter of time!
My little boy did the same thing! Right at 3 years old, we let him choose his undies, then he would only pee in the toilet but couldn't go poop. At all. He would be backed up for days if I enforced keeping him in just underpants.
So when he needed to and he could tell me, we would put the pull up on him but have him stand in the bathroom, after a while he decided that it was way more fun to sit on his cushy little toilet seat with handles then to have to lay down each time to have us clean him up.
Your's will too, follow his lead. He is learning to use the potty and all about listening to his body. I bet you probebly have had a few times where he had done every thing in the toilet. He will do it! I promise, right now it seems as thought he is choosing, in a way he is. Mine finally was fully using the potty at 3 years and 4 months.
I can bet you won't have to buy pull ups for him when he is four, just let him train him self and you won't have the battle. He is almost there!! good luck, every thing is going as it is supposed to for him.
Maybe if your not to squeamish or embarrassed about it, bring him in when youre doing it and make it seem like your excited when you "go in the potty" then maybe he may feel the enthusiasm and want to do it too. Make a big celebratory fuss when he goes in the potty and he will hopefully feel good about it.
