I have 4 boys and 1 girl. Potty training takes a great deal of patience. It is something we can't force our toddler to do. It's on all their turf and time. :) Well, with that being said, we as parents can encourage, guide, negotiate, bribe or anything else to convince then that going in the toilet is best for them and us. So, as I'm currently at the tail end of getting my 3 1/2 yr old to poop on the potty, I turned to desperation! He's had the pee thing down for a while; however, the pooping part was not going well at all. We started promising him anything and everything, but he still kept pooping in his pants. So, I went out and bought a regular size candy bar and brought it home. When I notice him getting antsy (like he's was about to poop in his pants) I handed him the candy bar and said "Peter, if you poop on the potty then you will get this whole candy bar". I let him even hold it. Well, a few moments later he said "mommy, I gotta go poop." He ran into the bathroom and pooped on the potty!!! It was a grand moment and I've had to buy several more candy bars. Now we keep a bag of fun size candy bars in the freezer. I'm sure there are some mom's out there who think this is not the best approach, but it worked and now he's having more BM's on the potty. It's building his confidence to go in the toilet at the same time. I hope you find what works for you. I know this is a difficult time of parenting. I personally hate this stage!!! Good Luck.