Potty Training a 3 Year Old Girl - Waite Park,MN

Well, I think she has you just where she wants you! Kids are good at that too.....put her back in diapers if she wets her underwear. You might tell her too, that she will be going to school soon and if she wants to do that, she needs to go to the potty like a big girl. If she screams and screams, put her in her room or somewhere until she calms down. This is a test, and you have to win. Not necessarily on the potty training, but on her getting her way. And she is finding that if she screams she gets her way. Be strong Mom, this is only the beginning, wait until she gets to be about 12! She is going to be just fine and so are you! She may not be ready yet, but on the other hand, you need to stand strong and not let her teach you to do what she wants. Honestly, if you take her pull ups away and tell her she's just not ready yet, she might just change her mind! Good Luck, hand in there and take care!

Don't know if this will work but try making a chart and put in on the fridge. Everyday she stays dry she gets to put a sticker on the chart. Make the goal small at first and get larger as she progresses. Give her a big treat at the end of it like take her to the toy store to pick something out or take her somewhere she really likes. Maybe start off with a chart for her to stay dry for 2 days and increase it. On the chart put a picture of what her incentive is so she can see it all the time. If she doesn't make it to the goal, start all over again till the goal is reached.
I know as long as I was using pull ups my kids would know it was ok to use the bathroom in them. I had to get rid of the pull ups for them to use the toliet all the time.

I know my answer is so different from most of the others but take a break for a few days. say okay, you don't want to go potty yet we can go back to diapers (or pull up whatever works for you) and just don't even mention going potty. then in a couple days ask if she wants to try wearing underpants again. we went through this a lot with my daughter, I knew if I got frustrated it would make us all miserable, (cause we had done it that way! and it wasn't working! lol) its her body I decided to let her be in control of it. we got lots of books like everyone poops, where's the poop, the princess and the potty, zoo poo, Go Potty Go the video--there are more lol. anyway we would read them when she wants and at story time and at bedtime, and we got some rewards and put them in a basket and at first any time she used the potty she got a reward. then we moved it to stickers which is where we are now, she puts one sticker on the chart for going potty and 2 if she goes poop. if we go shopping etc. she gets one for going while we are out, and one for being dry when we get home. when her chart is full she gets a my little pony video (her choice) there are 25 potties on her chart, I found it at a store, I love it--they are toilets and she puts a sticker on the toilet--anyway we still have accidents now and then because that is just part of the process, but they are truly accidents now and not her just being lazy or not caring. she likes to wear her underwear and go potty and even sings "there's a feeling in my tum" from the video--as she runs to the potty. we wear lots of skirts and dresses because they are easier to maneuver at her age, but YAY! have started to be able to move to pants, I just don't tighten them as much as we normally do--I wanted her potty trained 2 years ago--lol. but she turned four this past Jan. and now she has done it as she was ready. and we don't have the fighting which is the part I just couldn't stand the most. its hard to be patient with the process sometimes but the end rewards are worth it whatever route you decide to go I wish you the best!

Have you tried incentives? Like stickers (sticker chart) little toys from the dollar store, or even M&M's for each time she goes. It also gives her something to look forward to for the next time she needs to go. And give her LOTS and LOTS of praise when she does go on the potty! When my daughter would stay dry for a whole day or even a couple days in a row, we would take her out for ice cream or go do something really exciting with her to show her how proud we were of her.
Another thing to consider is she may just not be ready. My daughter (now almost 4) didn't take potty training seriously until after about 3 serious tries. I'd get so frustrated I'd start to take it out on her, and potty training should never involve punishment! So I'd have to quit for a while, and put her back into a diaper/pull-up and try again in a few weeks. Eventually we were both ready at the same time and she's never had a problem since! She didn't even need a pull-up at night anymore at that point. I also read the book "Potty Train Your Child in Just One Day" By Teri Crane. It was great! And offered lots of advice on the different ways of approaching potty training with your child! I strongly recommend reading it! I got my copy at Wal-Mart.
Potty Training just takes a lot of time and PATIENCE! Hang in there and good luck!

She's playing you like a fiddle! As I see it you have 2 choices but neither one of them involve a pull up. You either have her in panties all of the time and explain she will be put in time out if she wets them (time out with the wet panties on) or let her go with nothing and refuse to give in when she screams. Just stay calm and take her to the bathroom and tell her that the toilet is her only option. Either way, you've got to get tough! At 3 going on herself is a choice, and she understands she needs to go in the potty, she just doesn't want to. You need to take that choice and make the toilet the only option. Good luck! And yes, there will be messes, but not for long :)

I don't think she's ready yet. Maybe she can go on the potty once or twice and then have pull ups for the rest of the day. Have you asked her when she'll be ready to go on the potty? Healthy kids all learn to go on the potty before kindergarten. If it's a daily battle, perhaps postpone trying for a couple months, particularly if it's making you lose your cool. My last two kids (I have 4) didn't potty train until a couple weeks before turning 4. That was their "time," we were respectful of it, and they never ever had an accident. Yea. Hang in there!

You need to try rewards with her. Many people try stickers/tattoes/$toys/ etc. Some create a progress chart nd when they fill out a section like staying dry for one week, they get a big toy. I guess I lucked out with my daughter, but I did use treats.

HI J.: Our daughter just turned 3 last week, and we have a similar problem. I am told this is something THEY control and will go on the potty on THEIR terms. As frustrating as this is for the parents. Have you tried a potty chart? Every month I make her a chart with cartoon characters of her choice and for each day there is space for stickers. She gets to pick out a sticker each time she uses her potty. This works well. Although we are still "battling" going #2 on the potty......
Hang in there!!!

My 3 yr old wouldn't even sit on the pot. I put markers, books, bubbles and stickers in a box. I showed her and told her she could only look at it in the pot. It worked. The first few days she spent lots of time in the bathroom but the newness wore off and the potty became normal.

J.,

My name is J. and I have four children and realize that they all have different ways of potty training. I also have a three year old about to turn 4 but at a slow pace they will go. Simple reminders are helpful but don't stress. As parents we have to remember that they are "trainning". Praise and small rewards work too. If she does wet herself or the bed, think of silly ways to say how icky it is as you are doing.

Cutting off liquids at night (7pm) and go potty helps the midnight wetting but they are still learning how to hold that muscle. Good luck. The entire age 3 can be the entire training process.

let her sit on her pot when you do and she will hear and see the sound effects of you going then clap, sing and dance when you finish. also if she wants to use the big pot (tolet) turn her around backwards so she can hold onto the tank of the tolet.(she cant fall in that way). most kids like to use the big one so they can be big kids. mine actually used their pot as a step stool

My suggestion is to try if you haven't already a potty training video for kids. Maybe since it's been such an ongoing ordeal it has become a negative thing. She might just need a new positive perspective to motivate her. Every kid is different so maybe its just a matter of finding what works for your daughter. Also be sure and give the new strategy a good go at it. Stay consistent long enough to give it a chance to really work. Hope you find the answer that helps your situation.