My 2.5 year old is in the middle of potty training. She can hold her potty and goes pee and poo both at home and outside. However, she is not consistent and wants to wear panties instead of diapers, but also refuses to consistently use the toilet. She's good about using the potty if I ask her at regular intervals, but has problems with telling me in advance that she needs to pee or poo - which often results in pee on the floor. Any advice to get her to be more consistent and be proactive about telling me she needs to use the potty.
I had the same issue with my son, who is also 2.5 - we ended up putting him back in diapers for about 2 months. Then after that I put him in underwear only and stayed home for about a week and he learned that he did not want to be in wet underwear. After each accident I put him on the potty and asked him to try to go potty in the potty. He learned within four days and has been accident free for about 3 1/2 weeks.
Once my boys, now ages 6,4 and 4, were able to hold it and go places, i stopped buying diapers. I didn't want to slip back into wearing them. If they only have one choice, it makes it easier. And it helps you stay consistant.
If she is excited about wearing big girl panties then use that to your advantage. Maybe get some gold stars and make a chart everytime she goes she gets a star. If she has an accident no scolding but no star. Tell her when her chart is full she can try her big girl panties but not before. Then make a big deal about going and picking them out. I think she may get so excited about the stars she'll want to go all the time.
The big girl panties worked with my daughter who is now six.
Good Luck.
My twins are three years old (just turned three in mid May) and in vain I tried to get them to not pee in the underwear and pee in the potty. I tried for weeks, training at home, going at even 15-minute intervals when they had accidents. They knew what to do, they just didn't really want to do it. So I laid off for a while and then my daughter started going by herself a week later and then my son started about 10 days after. They finally "got it." It seems that no matter how much we try to train them, they need to be able to hold their own urine in their bladder and want to use the toilet.
My advice? be patient. It will all come in due time.
Children differ so widely in this area, so I can only offer up what worked for my 2.5 yo (who is now 4). She, like your daughter, knew what to do and was more than capable, but just didn't feel like it some of the time. We tried M&Ms and stickers, and she would only go if she wanted some. That approach totally backfired. So, I went and bought a few new outfits with Disney Princesses on them. (Usually my kids get hand-me downs, and she was totally enamored of the princesses). Anyway, I just showed them to her and told her that these clothes could only be worn with underwear. If they got wet or dirty, she had to wear other clothes. (Unless it was a true accident, and then I would give her a chance with a different outfit). I washed those outfits almost every day for a 4 or 5 days, but she wanted to wear them SO badly, that she was willing to go on the potty to keep them from getting wet. #2 took a little longer, but within a month, she came around.
I hope this helps! Good luck!
She is too young. Wait 6 months and try again. Wait until she is ready and you will not have to deal with any of these issues.
