Potty Training Expertise Requested!!

You are making him clean his undies and making him stay in the bathroom 5 minutes after he has already had a bowel movement? If this is a form of punishment, I wouldn't recommend it. Positive rewards are always the best. As a mom of three, I have found that children learn to figure out their bodily functions and the feelings associated with them at different rates. One of our daughters actually had a bladder emptying study done on her and we found that she couldn't feel that she needed to go to the bathroom until her bladder was extremely full. This problem resolved as she got older. So, please, be patient with your child. Encourage him. Children don't normally wet or soil themselves to be defiant. It is an accident and a learning process and should be treated as such. Best of luck.

I dont feel you should punish him for his behavior. Instead, over reward the good behavior. Praise works wonders. Having him clean his own panties, could make him start holding it, and that would be another set of problems. Does he like books? There are books that help teach and show. Good luck and God Bless.

What I did when my daughters were potty training: they had a potty in the living room and 1 i he bathroom, when we went to the store we looked for potties, if they had an accident they had to clean it up. I never punished them by making them sit in the bathroom. I don't like sitting in there longer than I need to so it's not a fair punishment. Also, I never used pull ups. I just brought extra clothes and a bag to put them in in their bag of course. I would also wake themtwie a night to pee. They were potty trained within 2 weeks. I also let them run naked ( I potty train in the summer), if someone was coming over I put a long shirt on them and noone knew they were naked underneath. They learned that wetting thir pants felt nasty. Also when they went on the potty they got 1 m&m for peeing and 2 for pooping.

I can only offer encouragement and not advice as I am doing the same thing with my little boy right now. He is great when we are away from home but forgetful at home. Just keep encouraging him, and letting him know his successes matter

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Some kids are not ready as soon as others. Yes it is very frustrationg but if we are not careful the message can be taken by the child as this is something thast is dirty instead of natural. Trust me I speak from a long....line of experience. Boys seem to be hareer to train because they have to stand to pee and sit to poopy. And at 2 years old they can get to playing and not think about stopping to go potty cause their short mind spans are on playing. Patience is a vertue. But I really feel making a 2 year old wash their own undies is going a little far. Is it working for you? That is what you ask yourself. If not then an alternative is due. Have you tried using the Award poster where when he goes to the bathroom he gets to pick a sticker of his choice to put on the board and at the end of the week he gets a small toy for doing a good job. And make a really BIG deal out of it with alot of praise when he successfully goes to potty. Put the Awards board on the bathroom door. And let him pick out the stickers he likes so her will be excited about getting one to put on his board. Just a suggestion....it worked NUMEROUS times for us..

Granny G G

Sounds pretty harsh for a kid who just turned 3. Give him time. It will happen. Show him love and patience with positive encouragement. It will work out sooner than you think. Try not to stress about it.

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Don't push him. My middle child had a lot of difficulty being potty-trained. We eventually found out that he had a learning disorder.
Reward him for positive behaviors. He is currently getting a lot of your time/energy/attention for negative behaviors which reinforces his negative behavior.
Good Luck!!

According to my mother-in-law, she had all three of her boys potty trained by the time they were one. My two were 16 months apart so when it came to potty training my son my husband tried to help out It was easy to get him to sit down for number 2, but he would not sit for urinating, but I noticed that he would go in everytime my husband did and he would try to stand up to our commode to go, but he would miss finally my dad suggested that we should leave a box to stand on. Once we made it easy for him to stand at the toilet like his daddy. When I was out with him without his daddy he would fuss about going in the ladies' with me. The most embarassing moment for me was when we were having lunch at MacDonalds when he was 2 and he was standing to pee. I thought he was through and pulling up his pants when he informed me in a loud voice that I forgot to flipped "it"
Once my saw how Daddy did it it took only a couple of weeks