Potty Training Question - Fort Worth, TX

She seems to be ready, I wouldn't put the pull ups back on. It seems like a control issue. My daughter has been going through this for months. If it is my idea, she will refuse. If you backed off for a while will she go by herself or just wet her pants? What I started doing was m&ms to bribe her. I also tried to say "potty time" and not ask her. When those stopped working I set the alarm on the microwave and told her when it beeped it was time to potty. She liked that. It seemed like these ideas worked for a few weeks until I have to come up with something new. I really had to lay off asking her all the time if she had to potty. It seems like a continous struggle but just keep trying new things that make her think it is her idea. Today I had to ask my daughter to sit here(potty) so I can put her shoes on. It worked, she went.

Sounds like she's not quite ready. Wait a few months and try again. Especially if you are getting frustrated. You don't want this to be a negative experience for her. I tried with my daughter at 30 months at one point and then realized she wasn't ready and waited a couple more months and presto! It was a few days and she was trained. She NEVER wore pullups, and even at night only had a couple of accidents. Try 'Toilet Training in Less Than a Day'. It works!Good luck!

The best advice i can give you is be patient but also you might try putting her panties on but putting her pull up over them.Fir me this worked great because they feel the wettness but without the mess.I wasnt a fan of the wet furniture and cloths.LOL!Anyway it is such a simple sugesstion but if you are anything like me I had never thought of it.Good luck it will happen every mom has issues with this and every child does too so dont think for a second you are alone.Just be patient and give lots of praise when she goes and try not to get too upset when she doesnt.You want to make it fun for her not upseting.I always turned on the water and made up silly songs like tinkle tinkle little star.Good luck!!

When I was potty training I just took my girls to the bathroom with me. If they told me they didn't have to go I just told them that I did and I wanted company and that they were big girls and needed to try. It didn't take long before they were just telling me they needed to go. I did get the mom don't you need to go you're a big girl and should try but eventually they were fine with mom just standing at the door. When she tells you she doesn't need to go tell her to just sit if she goes great if not that's fine too and just reward her for doing that much. I would definately cover the mattress and let her sleep in panties at night too. Just so there is no confusion that it's okay to be baby at night and big girl during the day. Just be prepared for changing the sheets.
Good Luck!

It sounds like a control issue to me. I'd keep on with the potty training, but instead of telling your daughter when she needs to sit on the potty give her the control and let her decide when she needs to go. I've trained two stubborn girls and the more I forced the issue, the less cooperation I got. Good luck!

This is only a suggestion, but she may be cold. Her pull-ups are nice and warm in the morning and she doesn't want to take them off. The potty seat is pretty cold right now too. So maybe some warmer bottoms to put on with her underwear and lay a towel or something across the potty seat until she has to go. Sometimes with kids that age it's the simplest and strangest thing. Good luck!

I started trying to potty train at 2 with my first daughter also, and I can tell that she was not really ready until almost 3 years old. For 8 to 12 months, we had accidents often, and then it was like as soon as she turned 3,it just clicked. So..........with my second daughter, I did not push her as hard and the same thing happened with her, but not until 3 1/2. My advice would be to work at it, watch potty videos, and read books, but let her do it when she is really ready!

I say stick with it. My son started training at 20 months, and everyone told me I was crazy. I thought so, too, but he acted ready. After a couple of months, we had about 5 days of accidents. We had one day where he didn't make it to the bathroom at all. He would pull his pants off and poop on the floor, then come get me. He peed in the carseat (every day for a week!). I just didn't have too many diapers in the house, so I stuck with it. And that week finished and he's doing great now!
BTW, I had him in cotton training pants in the day and diapers at night.

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My advice; keep going. I started potty training my daughter on her second birthday. There were about six months of ups and downs. I took a gift bag and cut the front side off and hung it on the bathroom door - so it was like a little hanging picture. Everytime she went potty we made a super big deal about how great it was and she got a sticker to decorate her little picture. The positive reinforcement was great! The funny thing was, when her cousin (of the same age) came over, she always wanted to go potty so she could put a sticker up! Of course, we did have those challenging times when she didn't want to go potty and had accidents, but overall I tried not to make a big deal about the mistake, I just tried to focus on the stickers and when she did well.

Also, a few times I let her sit bare bottom on her potty while watching a special program on TV - I think that helped make the potty a fun time!

Hi V.!
This is just one phase in the potty training chapter of your life!! chances are you will have a repeat of this stage again w/your second...don't beat yourself up...it takes months (sometimes!!). I remember my oldest doing amazingly the first couple of weeks...we had one week where I thought to myself, "this is ALL? seriously? this was cake! I don't know why so many mamas complain about this," then the very next week she decided to do exactly what your daughter is doing lol (i can laugh NOW b/c she's almost 7) we had all hard woods and she would tell me she didn't have to go, walk over to the one spot in the room that was NOT hardwood flooring (our brand-new rug) and pee in her panties...she even got to the point of saying "look mommy!! pee!!"
the glammer of potty training wears off for them...my daughter became completely potty trained months later when the brand new baby was home and getting attention...when she noticed how much attn it brought her to go to the bathroom (ie mommy had to set the nursing baby down and carry her as fast as possible upstairs to the bathrm the minute she said she had to go potty).
Anyhow, it takes alot of consistency on your part...don't listen to people when they tell you "really? that's strange...my child was potty trained by the time she was 18months," b/c realistically we all forget the potty training battles that were fought and the amount of time we had to put into it...not to mention all of the pee that we cleaned up!! haha...anyhow, it takes ALOT of time...don't give up, and seriously don't take it personally!

I say don't give up- you pick your battles and this is one you can win! Add rewards... M&M's, stickers to earn big rewards... whatever works for your child. I know it isn't what any parent WANTS- but just to help her get over this small defiant spurt, it won't be needed forever.

Be careful not to make it a control issue in her eyes. Developmentally ready or not, if she thinks you REALLY want it, then she won't do it. My son is 25 months and I didn'tthink he was ready for even the idea of going on the potty. But, I brought one in for him to just see and get used to. He was almost immediately using it! However, as I started trying to work it into our routine and take him after night, before lunch, etc, he started saying no potty. He would even run the opposite direction from me screaming NO POTTY! SOOO, I realized that he had labelled it as something that I wanted him to do, so something that he didn't have to do if he didn't want to. I have stopped with the routine and now just ask him if he needs to make pee pee. If he says yes, then okay. If not, I don't ask anymore.

Today, he started pee peeing in it again after he realized I wasn't making him go to it.

I think you have to just leave her in panties all the time no pull ups or diapers. It could be confusing to her because if she is in a pull up she can go potty in it, so when she is in panties she might just figure well I can go in them as well. You will have lots of accidents it part of the training just hang in there it will get better. I would not stop the training she is so close and seems like she is just testing her bounderies don't give up.

I must concur with Claire. I give one treat (M&M) for sitting on the potty and two if she goes potty. I set the timer on the microwave for every 30 minutes, more as a reminder for me than for her. She wears panties while at home. I continue to use pull-ups for outings and night time. I do my best to take her to the toilet frequently while in public.

Hi V.
It sounds like what me and my daughter went through not too long ago. She was doing the same thing your daughter was doing, she was holding it until night time then she would just pee in her pull up. I asked the doctor and she said to take off the diaper/pull ups and just leave her in her underwear day and night (she is going to have accidents, make sure you protect your mattress) and give her a lot of fluids throught out the day that way she won't be able to hold it too long. She had accidents the first 3 days and after that she's been going to the bathroom without a problem. Good luck and don't give up, she will get it.

Definaltey stick with it. She will have accidents. It is part of it. My daughter just turned 3 and has been potty trained since May. She still will have accidents. Don't feel homebound. They have plastic pants that you can put over her panties. I think I found them at Walmart. Good Luck. I know it is frustrating. I used jelly beans as rewards. I tried stickers but she got bored of those real fast.