My 4 1/2 yo son is attending a co-op preschool this Fall. I have chosen not to co-op because of our crazy schedules and also because I have been a stay at home Mom and I think my son and I need this healthy break from each other. But when I tell others that I won't be co-oping, they say I am crazy. What do you think?
Hi,
I think the time apart will be good but he may feel slighted if all the other parents are at the co-op at one time or another and he is the only one that neither mom or dad is ever around. Ask him how he might feel about that.
Dear E.,
Cut the cord. It's OK! Being a stay-at-home is tough and very rewarding but you are allowed to breathe too. Just choose the preK well, make sure of the staff, ask a lot of questions and get referrals. Tell the mommy nuts to lay off.
My son who attends preschool, loved the fact that he was out on his own and didn't have Mommy over his shoulder all the time. I enjoyed it too. You have to do what works for you. Not everyone is meant to spend every minute of every day with their kids. That is hard, this will allow you to have some space and for your son to have his space and make new friends. Remember, only you know what is best for you and your family. So do what you feel you need to do, and good luck.. I am sure you will both love it.
What is a coop preschool?
We started at our local co-op with my son and now my daughter attends. Going two days a week, we're expected to co-op once a month or so. The schedules are relatively flexible, and if I'm assigned a day that doesn't work for me, I can always find someone to trade with.
Personally, I enjoy the days in the preschool. I know my children are always thrilled when it's my turn and they'd be really sad if neither my husband nor I were ever the co-op parent. It's a really good chance to see your child in a new setting, and I know it's been a real learning experience for me.
I'm not sure what you mean about a healthy break, though. Would you be in the classroom every day that he's there? Perhaps your school works differently from ours, but here no parent co-ops more than twice a month.
M.
Hi. I think that you should not worry about what other people think and do what is best for you and your child. I understand how hard it is to be at a school with one child while you have another one at home. If you are in the same situation that I am in, you would have to hire a sitter to stay home with your youngest. You may change your mind in a few months (or never) but right now I would do what you feel is necessary. Good luck.
I have snet my daughter to a private nursery school last year and again this year. I think that it is better I'm not there she gets to be on her own and learns more than with me. I have a 14 month old son and now I will have time just with him. We all need a break and this is yours, people who talk basically have nothing better else to do. Always remember you know whats best.
Hi E.,
My advice is that every good mom needs a break. I don't see anything wrong with it, and if those mothers or other people cannot understand, then so be it! You can only do so much before you feel like you are overwhelmed with too much on your plate to handle and stay sane. Enjoy the break. It's healthy for the little one to make connections. You being there might prohibit him from making relationships with other kids by trying to stay by your side. Just a thought...
