Can the father of the baby go back with his girl for the papsmear?
J.,
id like to give you a big thumbs up for wanting to be involved..
i dont think there is a problem with you going back there..but want to wish you good luck!!
Yes, you can be present at everything with her. My husband went with me for every single appointment with every doctor I had to see. The only thing he couldn't do was go to the bathroom with me while I did my urine specimen! He even went with me to the labs for bloodwork and all.
Good luck and congratulations! I think it's great that you want to be there. It helps for you to know how much she has to endure during the pregnancy (and childbirth). Sometimes it gives you a renewed respect for her.
If you are going to be supportive I think she would want you there. My husband has been through 2 pregnancies with me and I do appreciate his presence with me even during the humiliating moments. Also, some of the women that have responded to you seem to be confused. If you aren't current on your pap smear you DO have one at one of your first visits. They may just not explain to you that that is what they are doing, but they definitely are. Wish you both all the best!
I say yes and IF your ob refuses or has a problem with that then you need to find a different one.
Only if she wants you to. I didn't think they did pap smears while you were pregnant.
Hi J.,
I think it would totally be up to the patient. The doctor will probably ensure it is ok with her, and I would think it would be fine.
J
yes if you want too...
When I was pregnant, my husband was welcome to go to any and all visits. However, it is possible that policy may vary by doctor, though I wouldn't see why it would matter as long as the patient doesn't mind.
Well, if the two of you are okay with it, then the OB shouldn't have a problem with it. However, I should warn you, my husband came back with me for my first visit and I was horrified when my doctor popped out my breast for a mamogram while my bare butt was hanging down for everyone to see(and see they did, those gowns are not meant for the shy). While I have no problem with him being around while I get dressed and such, the feeling is totally different when there are others in the room and someone is sticking something cold into you. DH said that he was a bit embaressed also. He didn't come back with me until I was 20 weeks to avoid another incident like that one. So, my advice is to make sure it's okay with her, and even then, enter at your own risk.
Any patient should be able to have any support person they want with them. If her doctor or midwife says no then FIND A NEW ONE right away. It is up to the patient NOT the health care provider.
That said there probably will be a point where they will need to talk to her alone. This is to ask any private or sensitive information that some people are not comfortable talking about in front of others.
Not everyone needs a pap smear in pregnancy, so it may not be done. There should be a complete head to toe physical exam including a pelvic exam and gonorrhea/chlamydia test. Depending on how far along the pregnancy is it is possible to hear the baby's heart rate at about 10-12 weeks on a thin person. Some offices also do ultrasounds at the first visit so it may be possible to see the baby as well.
If the mother wants you, you should be able to be with her during doctor's visits. The nurses at my OB just asked for my husband to remain in the waiting room while I had my blood pressures, weight, urinalysis done. (because of lack of space) Then the nurse would get my husband and bring him to the exam room with me.
Keep in mind that many women aren't too hip on some of these procedures at all - it's hard to look dignified on your back with your feet up in "stirrups" and you're dressed only in paper towels. It might be comparable to your girlfriend being in the room while you're getting a protological exam. So don't be offended if she asks you not to be present - it's kind of embarrassing.
Also, I think a "papsmear" is done at the routine gynocological visits - I'm not sure it's done during pregnancy. (Although there are some OB visits that require some kind of "manual examination" (in other words, paper towels, lying on the back in stirrups, etc.)
It's up to her. My husband came to all but one appointment with me. It was great to have him so supportive an involved. I think it gave him a better idea of what I was dealing with.
it is up to the mother.
If your "girl" gives her permission, the doctor may allow you to go back but I don't know why you would want to. It isn't like an ultrasound where you would find out anything about the baby. I personally wouldn't want my husband there when I was having a procedure like that so you may want to consider her feelings on this.
