Pregnant and Overprotective of Food - Overreacting?

Yeah. You're overreacting a bit. But pregnancy, hormones, not feeling great and company are bound to cause overreactions to something! Hang in there mama. In a few months you'll probably laugh over this.

You are probably hormonal, as other posters have stated. However, I just have to commend you for having the healthiest pregnancy craving I have ever heard of, asparagus!

I would guess it is hormones unless you are normally prone to over reacting. He wanted to treat his sister to something special, that is a good thing and in no way puts you in second place. Let it go.

Wow, I am sooo not trying to be mean...but you are married to a freaking saint!! He cooked asparagus, he didn't skin a puppy!

You are acting obsessed and irrational, and I think it's lame you blame it on pregnancy. I get really irritated when women are complete jerks, and justify it with pregnancy or PMS. We are not animals or cave women, we CAN control ourselves and not act like rude, spoiled children.

Just my opinion, leave it in the dust if you want..

-Oh, and your husband still caring. He wasn't uncaring, here. This is about you and not him.

Yep, way overreacting. And if you don't react like this normally when you are not pregnant, then you are letting your hormones hijack your emotions. Let yourself have a good cry, step back. It's asparagus. Yes, they were special in a way, but it's a plant that will grow again. When you start calling food "precious", you're kinda going into 'over the top' land.

Oh, dear. A couple of ladies on here, while I am sure really believe this, are completely wrong. They have said women "blame" hormones on irrational emotions and that's false because they never acted that way. Well, it's fortunate these women did not have these emotions, but not all women are that lucky. Pregnancy CAN make SOME women irrational. It's scientific, and I thought common knowledge. :/ How do you explain the same hormones rising in two women and one has NO morning sickness and the other is hospitalized for severe vomiting. It all has to do with how our individual body chemistry react to hormone levels and also different women can have different levels - and be off balance, as well. It's like saying, "I feel sad but I get over it, so therefore there's no such thing as depression." Certainly not true at all. Do not feel bad about this, but recognize that you hormones are making you more irrational than normal. Talk with your husband and explain how you feel and that you know it's hormones but you can't help feeling this way. My guess is he will smile, wrap his arms around you and tell you he loves you, even if you are crazy at the moment. ;) Also, brainstorm together how you can get some more asparagus you will like. ;)

Unless you sat down with him after picking them and saying these are mine!! you are totally overreacting and that ain't the pregnancy talking! Sorry I have four kids and never did I blame my irrational behavior on being pregnant. Trust me, pregnancy only makes you emotional, not irrational.

I could be like that during my pregnancies too. I was way over protective of food. I think the fact that you know you're doing it is step 1. You talked to hubby about it and that's all you can really do. I would say have a talk with him about how you're feeling weird about food right now and could he please ask you before he eats or prepares certain foods (like I would give him a top 5 list or something because otherwise it could get out of control) this way you can have a little bit of control but not go overboard.

During my second pregnancy I craved ice cream hard core. It was ugly. Anyway, we were in the line in the drive through at DQ and they told my husband they were out of chocolate soft serve (which is what I ordered), I freaked out, burst into tears and yelled at him to just get out of the drive through because I didn't want anything! I was clearly moved at that time, but even now I'm laughing at how crazy it sounds! Bless his heart though he was willing to drive someplace else or stop at the gas station for anything to please me but all I wanted was that damn DQ soft serve! LOL!

Try to take it slowly and prepare yourself when you feel crazy coming on.

Yes, you're over-reacting, and hormones or not, you're going to have to tamp it down and move on. No one was deliberately trying to deprive you of your asparagus, it was just one of those, "OK, let's make an omelet for our guest. What do we have that would be good in an omelet? Ah - asparagus is good in omelets!" moments.

I totally know how you feel.
It's ridiculous, right?
I remember sitting down for dinner one night and the person that had prepared it had made curry. I HATE curry. Besides the fact that I think it tastes awful I was having bad heartburn so I didn't even want to try to eat it.
I cried the WHOLE TIME I ate my peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
Just so you know....I look back and laugh now. But it DID feel pretty awful when it happened.
L.

Oh honey. I once threw a pregnancy tantrum in a zoo because the people I was with wanted to leave to go out to dinner but I wanted a sweet corn RIGHT THEN DARN IT and refused to go eat until I had something to eat.

Normally, I don't have fights with people, I don't yell when I argue, and I don't like drama. But those pregnancy hormones made me irrationally crazy.

You know who else lost her mind over food cravings in pregnancy? Rapunzel's mother. Look how that ended up. Try to find the humor in it so you can let it go.

Don't let people make you feel bad for how you feel. You're not lashing out or crying in front of your SIL, so you've behaved very well and are not making excuses for anything.

Oh yes, you're hormonal. It's okay dear, there will be another asparagus season. You can buy lovely flash frozen asparagus at the grocery until next season.

Your husband is CLEARLY very caring. He made a lovely breakfast for his family! Don't hang onto this silly grudge. Let it go. It's just asparagus.

Aaaaw, don't worry, there'll be more wild asparagus next year, I promise!

:(

In the scheme of life this is not something to be that upset over. If you do not want people eating your food, then I guess you should write on the bag before you freeze it. You can't wait for her to leave, because your husband made her asparagus. This sounds more than "hormones."

Honey, you're pregnant and you're hormonal. I think it's highly possible that you are protective over food because you can't help being protective over your body and the things you really crave.

Sharing asparagus with another family member who never gets to enjoy it is a nice thing to do, and yet you feel slighted in some way.
It doesn't make you crazy or anything.

With my second pregnancy, I ate a dozen oranges a day. I HAD to have them. I also HAD to have hard and crunchy sour plums. In fact, my market would call me when they got in a new shipment and gave me first pick. Fortunately my husband and daughter didn't like hard, sour, crunchy plums so I didn't have to worry about them getting into my "stash". I also liked hard, crunchy, and sour nectarines. Go figure, but that was my thing. I gladly would have shared, but no one else liked fruit in the state that I liked it.

It's asparagus and I can understand how important it is to you, but surely you can get more. Try to think about what a treat it was for your sister in law and feel good about sharing even though you really didn't want to.

Your husband seems like a generous guy and I don't think he meant to be generous to your detriment.

How to calm down?
Lay down in a quiet space, elevate your legs, have a nice cup of herbal tea, have your husband help you with your other child and just take a nice break.

I advise a bubble bath after your sister in law is gone so that you can just relax and rinse the anxiety away. I wouldn't be too mad at your husband over this.

Best wishes.

aw sweetie.
DRASTICALLY over-reacting.
go ahead and cry, and laugh at yourself while you're at it.
your husband is STILL very caring, you know. and how nice that he was also thoughtful of his sister.
cry it out, and if he sees you and worries, just tell him that your hormones are demanding a good long cry.
then move on.
khairete
S.

have to respectfully disagree with all the "hormones are bs" answers.

otherwise why did i sit on my couch at 5 months pregnant bawling my eyes out at America's Funniest Home Videos??

trust me - that was not something i could control. it's called HORMONES. as someone else mentioned, bully for those women who have never had to deal with the emotional upheavals of being pregnant. i was not one of those. give yourself time to calm down, and apologize even if you don't feel like it. that always does a lot to fix things. love your husband, realize he was being a nice guy not the devil, and try to let it go. it IS the pregnancy. you DO realize this isn't that big of a deal and you overreacted. you know that.

don't listen to anyone giving you a hard time. how awful i would have felt sitting there sobbing hysterically if someone had come up and told me to get over it, quit using the pregnancy as an excuse - "no, you really ARE psycho! don't blame the hormones!" lmao! hang in there girlie. you'll be ok.

I might be the only one here but I don't think this has much to do with the dang asparagus. It sounds like you're hurt because he didn't think of you first. You're pregnant, hormonal, not feeling like yourself, and your body is being highjacked. Chances are like a lot of women you are a little more needy and want to know you're still just as important as you were when you you made this little bundle.

Yes it would have been awesome if he apologized. If he hugged you and said how sorry he was for not thinking about it first, or checking with you. But most men don't think that way. It sounds like you heard him making excuses, and blowing you off, which I'm sure is not what he really meant, but it's still how you feel and that's valid.

Talk to him. Tell him that you know you may be over reacting but that it really hurt, then hug him and go shopping for the next best thing.

This has to be hormones. You are totally over-reacting! He was being a good host. Please don't be one of those people who acts like a primadonna when they are pregnant! It's not that big of a deal. Now go out and get yourself another delicious food you crave!

Hormones, for sure.
I can see why you'd be upset, of course, I have gotten upset/irritated when my family has eaten the last of something I was looking forward to. But crying over it? That's definitely the hormones! Especially when you say your husband is a caring guy.
Take a deep breath, and try to move on, these bad feelings are not worth it, and not good for you or your baby.

Awww, don't feel bad! Granted, it may have been a little bit of an overreaction, you're just hormonal. It's easy to get disjointed when you're pregnant. I think between the pregnancy and the flu, you're probably just tired and that makes even the smallest thing seem huge. Give it a couple of days and if you feel up to it, make an exquisite dish with the asparagus you have left. Make it something fit for royalty and savor it with your husband.
Hope you feel better soon!

Each one of us is responsible for how we feel. You can choose to let this go or you can choose to make yourself miserable with your extreme thinking. We have feelings based on what we think and say to ourselves. We can change or let go of our feelings by talking in a more rational way.

I too suggest this isn't so much about the asparagus. What happened has perhaps made you feel less loved or appreciated or ----? Deal with that feeling.

It's not good to hide your feelings unless you're doing that so you can work thru them and come to a different conclusion. You think they're hidden but your body and attitude will reveal that you're hiding something. Talk about his with your husband. Tell him how you feel. I suggest you also tell him you know you're being irrational and ask for comfort.

Take a deep breath. While I can understand your disappointment, you yourself state that the breakfast wasn't for just your SIL. You yourself enjoyed it. So, while hubby may have used more than he should have, it's not like only your SIL got the treat.

I think you are holding on to this because you feel duped, but what if there hadn't been the fresh ones in the fridge. Should hubby have not used it at all? What if SIL said something, would you have said, it couldn't be used because you were saving it for when you have a craving next month? That seems a bit rude.

Yes you are overreacting but it isn't your fault. It is the hormones. Just acknowledge that it is the hormones and know that this will pass.

Yep, you are way overreacting on this. It's not as if you won't be able to ever get asparagus again. You can always buy the frozen stuff at the store...although I know that it is not as good as the fresh.

This is hormones plain and simple...no one was trying to slight you by this gesture...

Adoption was beautiful!!!! (With the exception of crazy birth parents).

Yep, it's the hormones and possibly feeling extra moody due to having the stomach flu....it's just asparagus afterall. Let it go! Be thankful you have a loving, caring husband and forgive him for this one thing.

I am always amazed at the kind of "tone" people use to answer questions. M. did not come on here to get talked down to. Calm down!

Yes, it is highly likely that it is hormones that caused your outburst, but like a few others have suggested, there is probably another issue hiding underneath the asparagus. Perhaps you could try through meditation or prayer, or whatever works for you to find out what that could be?

You did mention that you did not explicitly tell him to leave it alone. In my house if I don't say "leave it be", it is fair game. Perhaps because of your flu and the pregnancy, it just didn't occur to you to say something.

During your disappointment and anger, did you say something to your husband that you regret (i.e., yelled, made a cutting remark, etc)? If so, perhaps you could apologize to him and then voice your feelings.

Your feelings belong to YOU. NO ONE can tell you if you overreacted. You reacted the way you did because you were upset. Would it have been different if you weren't pregnant? Maybe, maybe not. Don't discount your feelings. They are important.

If your hubby is hurting, talk it out and apologize if you wronged him. But allow yourself to feel what you will feel and don't worry about what anyone thinks. That is between you, your husband, and God.

:)

Yep, hormones are making you go way overboard.

When food is brought into a home and you're married or have kids, it should be for all. No matter who gets to it first, it shouldn't matter. It's totally different when it's a roommate situation. My husband has gotten totally mad at me for eating donuts (1 when he had 3 left)! I thought that was nuts. He said it's 'cause I don't buy them, but he eats foods I buy. It sounds almost too ridiculous to discuss.
Anyway, I think you know your feelings weren't very rational. Hope you feel better soon!

I think you are over reacting. You don't know that you will crave that later in your pregnancy. I say blame it on the hormones. Shake it off, indulge in a long nap and wake up and enjoy your SOL.