Preschool Aged Daugther Says No One in Her Class Will Play with Her.

I know it just sounds awful and you are feeling bad, but keep this in mind.. A teacher told us this advice in Kindergarten "You believe 50% of what your child tells you goes on in school, and I will believe 50% of what your child tells me goes on at home. "

Just speak with the teacher.
My guess is that maybe once the children did not play with her.. or they did not play the way she wanted or something else.. But I would really, really doubt that NO child would play with your daughter.. It just does not sound like pre school kids.

Just breath and continue to advise your child to be kind, to ask to share, to ask to join in and then to remember to allow others to join her when they ask..

This is all part of preschool.. They are just learning social rules..

Just talk to the teacher. It is totally normal for kids that age to get things mixed up or exaggerate - they don't want to lie to you, but that just the way their memory works...
My DD often tells me about something that happened in school that bothered her. Sometimes is kids not wanting to play, sometimes it's another kid hurting her. I always check back with the teacher (whom I trust) and it often turns out a bit different than what she tells. Sometimes it's kids not wanting to play her way or her not wanting to play another way, sometimes it's a spin on something that happened weeks ago, sometimes it's something that happened to someone else...
It's good to stay alert and concerned about what you DD tells you, but you also have to take everything with a grain of salt. Again, she is probably not "making this up" - but they get confused easily.

Good luck.

Try to talk to the teacher every day when picking her up. Not a full on conference but just a little, how was my daughter's day, what did you notice, who did she play with, etc.
Your child's teacher should be able to give you some insight into what's going on. Maybe your daughter is coming across too strong, or maybe not strong enough? If she is in a quality program the teachers will work with her and guide her along the way. Try not to worry about it too much, the whole purpose of preschool is to learn social skills and that's exactly what she's doing :)

I would agree with speaking the teacher first and finding out what is reallygoing on, then maybe spend a day in the classroom just helping out and observing from a distance. I know the teachers in my daughter's preschool class are really good about reminding everyone how to be a good friend and making sure everyone is included. There is always a "snack and stay" parent for each class and from what I've seen, there are some kids who are better at "being nice" than others, and some of those other kids need to have their behavior pointed out to them and be reminded of what's okay and what isn't. There is one little girl in my daughter's class that sometimes decides to share an item when she's done with it, but will say that anyone can have it except "Billy" or whatever other little game she decides to play. So I've said something to her myself and the teachers are good about noticing and calling her out on it. My daughter sometimes will say things about this girl, about how she's not nice, or does not listen, etc. but I know that's not the case ALL of the time.

Unfortunately your daughter, because of her shyness, may be having some social anxiety issues and have a hard time standing up for herself when other kids treat her badly. Her reluctance to share may also be a factor if the other kids are sensing that she is not "playing nice", so they exclude her. You can try role playing with her and teach her what she should say the next time something like this happens, or she can at least be able to bring it to the attention of the teacher. I have also noticed that sometimes paying another kid a compliment seems to go a long way too, like saying, "Hey, that's a nice shirt!" or "I like your dress - it's very pretty!" (or at least, that's what works for my daughter!).

I suggest, if at all possible, to visit the classroom and see for yourself what is happening. I also suggest that you ask the teacher specifically about what Alaina is telling you and ask her what you can do to lessen your daughter's anxiety.

Kids don't really understand how to have friendships at this age -- they are just learning about friendship and are learning how to play together.

Get the teacher involved in working with Alaina & the other kids to help bridge that gap. If she had trouble sharing before, the other kids probably remember that, but may not be able to articulate their fears that she's still "that kid who doesn't share." They may also be afraid that whatever game they are playing, having another person will upset the play (ie, they are just figuring out how to play together as a two- or three-some and can't articulate that they think adding another person will "break" the play).

Definitely talk to the teacher. The teacher may not be aware that this is going on. It's the teacher's job to help the kids work through these social learning experiences. Ask the teacher, also, what you can do at home to help her with this.

My daughter will come home from preschool saying something similar. I am pretty sure that she is either a) exaggerating a small slight that happened during the day, or b) doing her preschooler-mix-fantasy-with-reality thing, because when she gets to school her friends greet her at the door with smiles and hugs and invitations to play, or else when I pick her up I see her playing with others. I'm not saying that is necessarily the case with yours, but my advice to you is to get a reality check from the teacher about the things your daughter is saying and how she and others are playing.

Things change daily in preschool so it could be a very isolated issue but it's on her mind for that day. It's all in how you respond to it that shows her how big of a deal to make of it. You could give her an example of how to join a group of friends who are playing. My daughter is in preschool and is very social, but still often stands outside the action where kids are playing to look from a distance. The teacher prompts her to bring a toy over and ask another child to play and slowly she's getting more brave. It takes time and reassurance.

I think it sounds like you are her best resource to overcome this shyness. If you were so shy as a kid and know what she feels like then talk about it with her, role play and teach her how to not take it so personally.

Maybe if you talk with her teacher one day before/after school you can ask her to help intervene a little bit by saying, "Come on everyone, let's share the crayons/baby dolls/trucks with everyone." That way your daughter will get included without the teacher directly talking about her.

I never was shy, so I kind of never "got it". I never understood how people could be "afraid" to speak up, but then cry about being left out. Even as an adult, I have a hard time myself "sticking up" for those kids because I think kids need to learn to work things out for themselves and LEARN to speak up. That being said, I too am a parent and it breaks my heart to see ANY KID feel left out or sad.

Just remember at this age everything is about drama - he yelled at me, she wouldn't play with me, etc. Maybe it only happened for 2 minutes, but it can dominate the whole day in their minds.

I agree, she may be blowing this up out of proportion. My son did that.