It took 5 months to conceive Kayleigh, she's now 2 years 3 months old. We just blew month 1 trying, which is no big deal... I got my period 3 days late, but was testing negative. So I knew I wasn't pregnant, it was just late. Sure enough, got it yesterday. :) So that's fine, I'd rather get my period and know I'm not pregnant than not get it for a month and wonder what happened!
But I've got to know, honestly, how long did it take you conceive your second child? Was it "quicker" the second time around? Or longer? Obviously everyone is different, but I have a notion that once a woman has had a child, your mama parts have been activated! :) Sure, that sounds funny, but now your body knows what to do. Maybe it's quicker the second time? Hum. Maybe not. Maybe it's just wishful thinking. :)
OK and although I appreciate the feedback coming in, I don't appreciate the feeling that I'm tightly wound or ungrateful for the month of baby making I got to experience. Totally appreciate the help, but you don't know me, I'm a bit anxious to begin with. Sure, I blew the month trying, what's wrong saying that? My cycle ended, I didn't get pregnant, so on to the next month. Sheesh. We move on! Month 2, here we go! I'm very calm, ready, and eager to get prenant, what woman who is trying isn't eager?
Thanks everyone! I didn't think there was some magic answer, but I didn't know. I'll keep you posted!
It took a few months with the first, not charting when I ovulate or anything like that, same with second. Third time now I did an ovulation test because I wanted to increase my chances for a boy. On the first try I got pregnant. I'm now 3 months along, but all the women in my family are pretty fertile.
I got pregnant with my second in 1 month. In fact, I had one period between pregnancies. It took a lot more time with my third. In fact, I have a friend that got pregnant really easily with her first two, but like happened to me, is struggling with her third. I think getting pregnant with our seconds was so easy because our 1st kids were only 12 or 13 months when we got pregnant again. Our bodies were in baby making mode. In cases like this, yes, it may be easier if the pregnancies are really close together. I do think the farther apart they are, the longer it make take to then get pregnant.
For most people, it takes an average of 6 months of trying in order to get pregnant.
Some people get pregnant very easily while others have to try longer.
There is such a thing as secondary infertility (difficulty getting pregnant the 2nd time around) for some people.
Conception can be more difficult the older you get (mid 30's) while others have no difficulties into their early 40's.
'Taking Charge of your Fertility' is an excellent book to read, and they have a site now that you should check out:
Although it's true for SOME people relaxing helps it happen, it's not true for everyone.
My husband and I tried for 4 years before we went to a fertility specialist who determined we had multiple problems to overcome and helped us have our son through IVF with ICSI.
We could NOT get pregnant without medical intervention.
At least we stopped wasting money on birth control - we didn't need it.
With #1 and #2, we got pregnant the 2nd cycle after stopping the pill. #3 took 4 cycles and I wasn't on birth control at all.
You've only been trying for 1 month, but you're already talking in terms of blowing the month trying? I think you need to relax and remember that these things take time and patience.
Good luck!
It took me just around a year...but I had the mirena for 4 years also. My kids are almost 6 years apart
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It took me just around a year...but I had the mirena for 4 years also. My kids are almost 6 years apart
All my pregnancies have taken the same amount of time to conceive.
Well, it took us 9 months to get the first one started and 5 months for the second. So yes, it was a shorter time the second time, however I know a couple who conceived their first child on the honeymoon and then it took almost 6 years for Baby #2 to appear. So while the second one usually takes less time, it doesn't always--and more than one month is certainly normal. Best wishes!
It tooks us about two weeks. Literally... went off the Pill at the end of June... preggers by the end of July. HOWEVER... I have always been super "regular" on or off the Pill, so we had a pretty good shot of getting pregnant within the first few months.
Read up on the "signs" of fertility and be conscious of where your body is in the "cycle". If you pay attention to your body's signs, you will increase your chances.
Good luck and I didn't get the impression that you are tightly wound... maybe misinformed (mama parts "activated"?), but not tightly wound.
I would agree that you need to relax. Our second was an opps. We weren't trying but we were starting to talk about having a second. I wouldn't stress about it as this may also affect you getting pregnant. The good thing is you know you can get pregnant and already have a healthy baby.
I think you will find it differs for a lot of women.
I can see your logic but I think there's no good answer. My first was pretty easy and then my 2nd was the result of failed birth control! I know people who had so much trouble conceiving their first and then got pregnant with their 2nd by accident. Flip side, know people who had no trouble with #1 but unfortunately, a lot of trouble with #2. So I'd try to not get anxious and maybe prepare for a little while wait. Hopefully not though and good luck!
