We did call CPS last night, and unless we feel the child is in danger, they could not help. They suggested that we call the local animal shelter and see what the guidelines were for how many pets in a home. Then she said they could help if its over the limit. Cant do nothing until later today they are not open yet. Also the babies dad did take her to a doctor for her mental problems and they just prescribed meds, in which she refuses to take. She is dating someone on the side and I believe the daddy knows, but he is at the point he does not care. I have to say he is a good dad. Oh CPS also said, that the dad could take the baby to the doctor and get a note that the cats are not healty for the baby and then the shelter would have to remove them. She is just wanting to go out and party and have the life she had prior to making to choice to have a baby. She wanted to get pg and this boy guy had no clue what he was in for. I hate feeling the way I do about my husband daughter, but he too sees it now and it is all about her and what she can get or have and not about the baby. This is so sad. Thanks, for all your help.
So sorry to hear that you have tried the "official" avenues with no help!
Good luck and I really hope she gets help- it sounds like she really needs it.
Help that dad get custody! Tell him you will be there to help with childcare and whatever else he needs. Tell him you will testify for him, but he needs to have full custody so he can take care of his son regardless of what the mother does.
Julie,
Sorry for this stressful situation. Maybe the solution is right by your side, maybe you are the solution. Step in and be her mother, talk to her the way you would talk to your biological daughter, do not call her "my husband daughter, call her our daughter", this change in wording can make a huge impact in her life. Sometimes people just want to feel love and in this case, it might just be that. I grew up in a household of steps parents, steps children and steps mothers, I remember some sort of frustrations that I also felt for being "someone's child" and still remember how my friend's mom just introduced me as "my daughter". it changed my life and I promised myself to never be unfriendly to a child, never. As a mother today, I kept my promise and treat every child the same way I treat mine, if my children bring their friends for dinner, a sleepover, they have, all of them have the same privileges, if I am shopping a friend's child is visiting, he gets the same gifs, no other way.
Please do it for the love of her daddy, do it because she need guidance, step in, talk to her, reassure her and sho your love and understanding, you might be surprise to see a new her. It might not be on the spot, but you do need on the spot love, you need to help he be strong, make ggod choices, be responsible. The issues might not be cat and pregnancy, she is resenting something else and this might be her way of protesting, unfortunately an unhealthy way.
Be strong for her and change someone's life, yes Julie, you can do it.
Regards,
It sounds to me like she has a mental disorder and a substance issue. Many people with mental issues prefer to self-medicate with drugs or alcohol because it makes them feel more "normal" and without the side effects of some drugs that they are prescribed.
I've seen this movie a time or two in my life, so I'll fast forward to the best plan without the years of heartache and agony. Support the father in getting sole custody of that baby. Help him if you can.
If she is using drugs, drinking, partying and you know she is under the influence and/or has drugs on her/in her, call the police.
Once the baby is safe and away from her it will be up to HER to seek and receive help. Do not support her lifestyle in any way.
If you believe alcohol/drugs are involved, please attend a few Alanon meeting so you learn the healthy way to deal with someone with an addiction.
Good luck!
I am shocked that they wouldnt even investigate. This makes me so angry. It sounds like the mother is very unstable and violent. Also the home sounds unfit. The system is really failing this baby. I would keep calling. Maybe, hopefully she will give up her rights to the baby and the dad could raise the baby. Ugh! This makes me so sad!
