Are you members of a church, like methodist??
If you are, go to their "national" website and start emailing a few churches in the area of interest and tell them of your situation and ask about schools and communities etc... I think for methodist, it is unitedmethodist.com, something like that.
Ask someone that your husband is going to be working with (especially if they have kids) for a referral for realtor, who usually specialize in knowing the neighborhoods and can take your interests, likes, dislikes, etc.. and come up with some suggestions.
If you don't have a church, are you members of any fraternal organizations, like Eagles, or Moose, K of C, etc.... I know the Moose has national website, and again you can email organizations in the general area of interest and they will give you suggestions as well.
I would agree with one other mother, my VERY first outing would be the San Diego Zoo. I"ve never been there, but that is my biggest dream as far as visiting a zoo.!!!!!