Second Pregnancy

You are not feeling anything out of the ordinary. You are going to feel differently this time because you already know what lies ahead. You aren't going to carry that initial thrill with you this time. This doesn't mean you aren't going to get excited about the baby. It is just going to take a little longer. I am pregnant with #3, and my feelings have been completely different with all 3 babies. It isn't that I love any one of them more or was happier to have one more than another. They just each came with their own set of feelings and circumstances.

Don't worry, time and nature will take it's course. Obviously, it is a little different having been through this before but the fatigue and sick feelings also play a part in your feelings. Nature has a way of giving you enough time to develop stronger feelings and a warm heart once time gets closer for the new addition in your life to arrive. If you do not wish to lie, say you have no time to feel excited or mention it is a big adjustment to the family.....you are getting there. Good luck with everything and enjoy your son while you have time!

The second is sooooo different! Also, hard to be excited when you are sick! I was very happy about my second pregnancy, but I wouldn't say excited. Even after I found out it was a girl and that I would have one of each, I was still wasn't overly excited about it. I felt badly about it too. I think I was too nervous about how it would affect our lives and our family balance. When she was born, OMG! I was immediately bonded to her and fell in love with her immediately. That didn't happen with my son. Of course right at birth there was the happy crying, but holding him in the hopital room and bringing him home, I was so scared about taking care of him, that it actually took awhile before I just loved him and enjoyed him. With my daughter it was immediate. I couldn't believe how strongly I fell in love with her so quickly. My husband says the same thing. I think we just weren't so scared and I could just let my mommy skills take over while I truely enjoyed her. Don't worry, things come together at some point. Everyone will ask you if you are excited and I would just keep saying what you are saying. If you tell them the truth, they will just make you feel badly even though it happens with almost everyone. Good luck and I hope the second delivery is as easy for you as it was for me!

I am pregnant with my 3rd, which was a big surprise, and am just getting to the point of being excited/happy. We didn't want another baby for 4 or 5 years but got pregnant when my youngest was 6 months old. I think a lot of my feelings came from my 2nd being a VERY colicky baby for 5 months, and me having post partum depression. I had just come out of the depression and my daughter had just come out of the colic when I found out I was pregnant. Then, at 12 weeks, I went to hear the heartbeat and they couldn't find it. They sent me for an ultrasound right away, and thankfully there was the heartbeat. But that totally put the whole thing in perspective for me. As much as this baby was unplanned and I was freaked out about it, I wanted this baby. I wanted there to be a heartbeat. I am 16 weeks now, and still not as excited as my first 2, but I know I want this baby! And I hear you about being tired, I have never been so exhausted!!!!

Me too. My 2nd is 1 now, but I was no where near being as excited as with my 1st. I was dealing w/ a death in the family so I was depressed b/c of that and didn't know how to handle the good news I think. And I was tired and felt yucky the whole time. I was so excited and happy with the first.
It'll be alright, I'm pretty sure the excitement with the 2nd goes down for most people.
(And my friends weren't as excited for me even though they're 2yrs apart, I was younger than my friends w/o kids.)