Seek for Advice How to Discilpine My 2 Year Old Son

Well it seems this place is full of clever women ... the suggestions that I would have given have already been given!! LOL ... but I can sympathize, my two year old gets a little wild here and there, too. Good luck honey ...

I am having the same problem i have a 2 1/2 year old and a 4 month old. To help you older child get over the jelousy give him task to help you with the baby. He can bring you a diaper at changes or help feed the new baby. I always let my child know he is my big helper and i appreciate his help. He really enjoys the encouragement. Make sure to spend alone time with just you and your older child. Example: while the baby is napping read a book or play with his toys with him. He still needs atttention and may be trying to get it by hitting and being ugly. Let him know that hitting hurts people and if he feels angry give him a pillow or stuffed animal that he can hit on instead of him hitting someone. I have bought my son one of those punching bags that pops back up at him when he hits it. He can use that to take out frustrations instead of wanting to hit me or be ugly towards his brother. Offer your child a special dessert or his favorite food for acting apropriate in the resteraunt. It is hard for a 2 year old to sit still while eating. Take along one of his favorite books or some crayons and coloring book to keep him ocupied while you enjoy your meal.

I highly recommend the book, "Shepherding A Child's Heart", by Tedd Tripp. It is the best parenting book I have ever read and it will help you understand why he is acting this way and help you with parenting. I have a almost eight-year-old daughter, a 6 year-old son, and a two year old daughter. This book has really worked for me. I have also taught a class based on this book and have gotten very positive feedback from other moms too, especially those of us who struggle with anger.

Blessings to you and your sweet babies.

D.

This is the stage for this type of behavior. Hitting and temper tantrums are all normal. Try redirecting him - getting his attention on something else instead of what he's mad about. Keep telling him 'no.' You will have months until he out grows this stage so just be patience.
I would not expect a two year to behave at restaurants. For the sake of the other dinners, don't take him there until he's older and able to behave him self more.

I have a three year old who acts the same way. I started taking away his favorite toy for a few days or taking away a special thing he likes to do. If we were to go to mamaws and he acted up he didnt get to go with me and his brother. he stayed at home with daddy. Now we use the santa is watching thing and it seems to help. bottom line, children that age are hard to control regaurdless. I think they are born with the genes to act up!My pediatrician told me that when my son throws a fit at home, ignore it. that works too. But as far as jealousy, include him in the things you do with the baby. my boys are 16 months apart and there was alot of jealousy, but including him makes him feel like a special helper and a big brother too.

i have a question for you, when you were pregnant how did your son react to the new belly, new baby? I have noticed that most children are jealous of new siblings when it seems like a surprise to them. Mys on is 3 and my "new baby" is one. as soon as i found out I was preg. i told my son, even if there were times i didn't thnk he understood I still informed him. kept him in the loop. Now he and his baby sister are the best of friends. he teaches her how to be tough and she kisses him all hte time. Have mommy and me with the three of you. let him help with the baby, help him understand he will be needed to help and protect. My son thinks he's his sisters' super hero.
Anari and Asariah's mom

I have found that when one of my children lashes out with jealousy, it helps to give that child a little extra attention (outside and independent of the negative behavior) and one-on-one time. When I need to discipline, I begin with taking away priveledges (dessert, video time, extra time at bedtime, etc.), then time outs and then spanking. Hope this helps.

I can empathize with you. I have 4 children and went through some similar problems when they were younger. My advice to you is to be consistent with your discipline. The hardest part is to be patient and wait to see the results. Your son will eventually get that you won't tolerate his behavior but it will take time. Hang in there. If you have a close friend, talk with them when you are feeling frustrated and at your wits end. It helps. Prayer also helps during this time. I pray this helps you.