Seeking a Quick, One-sentence, to Let an Adult Know to Stop Correcting Your Kid.

Thanks but I'll handle my own child. You can do the same.

Short to the point and if they think you are rude oh well so be it. .

I would not zing a one liner at her, I would very clearly tell her that if she has concerns she is to come to me only, and never my child, end of discussion.

Thanks, but I can handle it from here.

Thanks for your help (or input), but I can handle it from here.

I appreciate your directness, so I will return the favor.
Do not be directly correcting my child. I will be taking care of that at my discretion.

Look into their eyes and make a believer out of them.

If another kid did something unkind to my child in front of me and the other mother, I wouldn't say anything to her child UNLESS she said nothing. If she said nothing, I WOULD say something to her and her child together. If she walked away without saying anything, I'd say something to the child.

You might not appreciate my feelings there, but there it is.

That being said, I think that a terse "I'll handle this..." with piercing eyes is probably what you're looking for...

You want to tell her nicely to shut up and butt out.
You're not going to find a nice way to do this.
She's not going to listen to 'nice'.
She's looking to deflect blame and desperate to make her kid look innocent.
Seems to me that this zero tolerance policy isn't working so well if the other kid did the shoving and it's being tolerated.

If my kids are corrected for doing something that I allow them to do I would simply tell the other parent that I allow that behaviour. For instance, my boys like to roughhouse with one another. If they are wrestling with each other at the playground and a well meaning parent steps in to break it up I would just explain that they are allowed to wrestle with each other, and assure the parent that they will not wrestle with her child if she disapproves. However, if another parent wishes to correct my children when they are misbehaving, breaking rules, or causing trouble to someone else I would welcome it. The more people correcting behaviour the better!

Let the teacher/school deal with it.
Why would the parents of this other child have contact with your child anyway, are they in the classroom volunteering or something?
And how are YOU there, to be a part of this, witnessing someone else, non teacher/school related, saying ANYTHING to your child?
Just trying to get my head around this scenario.
My kids are only three places, home, school or under the care and supervision of adults I trust.

For your child to the other child "Stop _____ me. You're bullying, " very loudly in order to draw attention to the situation especially by adults. And then go to the teacher or principal or school nurse immediately.

If another parent (aka not the teacher or principal or other school official) approaches your child, your child can say, "My mom told me to tell you to talk to her. I have to go now."

There was a SAHM at church who once went to the Sunday school classroom in order to talk to my child during church. Luckily I had the heeby jeebies in church and went to check on her. His kid was being cruel so we sat in the van. He came to talk to her and told me he had been looking for her. I said "Excuse me?" Then I made it clear to him, the teacher, and the director NO ONE better be talking to my child without me. He certainly shouldn't be trying to get my kid outside the class and how dangerous this is. Plus, his brat was the one that hit mine and followed her trying to make her cry.

"I've got it. Thank-you."

Be the mature one and remove yourself and your child from the situation. Trying to get a quick one liner in might be more satisfactory for you, but you will most likely just make it worse the next time. Walk away and ignore it.

I'm confused...has this person even talked to your kid...or do you assume she will?

Either way a like Kaseyirv said "I can handle it from here" should do the trick.

i'm not sure whether you're asking what YOU should say to them, or something your child can say. if it's happening at school, i'm not quite getting why you and the other parents would all be there together often enough for you to be dealing directly with them regularly.
if it's you, i think 'thanks, i'll take care of this' should do the trick, with a back-up of 'perhaps i wasn't clear. i'll take care of discussing this with my child while you deal with yours' should make it crystal.
i'm glad the teacher is handling it.
khairete
S.

"You've got your hands full already. I can handle ________ (your kid's name), thanks."

How about "Stop trying to parent my kid."

Or if you feel the need to be a little more forceful, "I'll parent my own damn kid, thanks. "

I truly can't think of any. I like it when I know lots of mom's are keeping an eye on all the kiddos. I'm not perfect by any means and don't see everything so I often say "Thanks! I didn't see them doing that!"

So, I understand where you are coming from. My son has had some incidents with a classmate this year. While I do volunteer at the school, the ONLY time I have mentioned correction of behavior to the other boy was in the moment, while he was hurting my kid after school. ("Stop that. We don't hit people with our coats.") Otherwise, unless my child is being hurt RIGHT at the moment I am with him, I do not address that other child about his behavior. This keeps my relationship with the kid professional-- I know that if there is an issue, the teacher needs to know about it and my son will tell her what happened.

It's also the problem that teachers are put in a he said/he said position. They can only discipline problems they are seeing in the moment, otherwise, they have to do as much conflict resolution after the fact as they can--and hope for the best.

I think you got some good suggestions for limiting the interaction between the other parents and your own child. I do know of situations where parents have really crossed the line and quizzed their child's schoolmates or spoken to a child directly in (their) effort to solve the problem. The teachers take this sort of interaction pretty seriously and do deem it inappropriate. The protocol for that sort of interaction should be that the affected child reports what happened to the teacher and the teacher takes care of helping the kids find a resolution. This is why, when I interact with this one particular child, I am sure to stay within the realm of ONLY what I am there at the school to do.

So, have your 'one line' and if it continues that the parents are addressing your son about his behavior, talk to a school counselor or administrator. I suggest this because when we have a situation like this one, contact with the other parent should be very, very limited, for everyone's sake. I don't believe that the school needs to solve every problem, but in this case I'd keep referring it back to 'I hear from Mrs. Teacher that they are handling it in class and I would prefer to keep those conversations about his behavior with the teacher."

Sorry you are going through this. What a PITA, huh?

Well there is of course STFU but if you don't want to go there then,
" I will deal with my own child, thanks".

I think neighbors, friends, teachers should be able to correct kids. Our society was a much better place when that was the norm.

Are you asking for something for YOU to say, or something for your KID to say?

School is handling it. Why would this parent even be near your child. Not quite understanding. Seems like a s hoop issue that is being handled.

"that's enough already. Drop it."