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I just wanted to respond to the "So What Happened" update that was posted by Renae aka L. (I see you changed your username from L. to Renae - why is that by the way?) I'm very confused. Did you really want our advice or not, or did you just want someone to tell you what you wanted to hear? You requested our advice as to whether or not you should tell your children that they were switching daycares. We all took time out of our busy schedules to provide you with our best advice. It seems to me that you DID in fact follow the advice we all offered, or at least partially, because you did mention that your seven year old knew about the switch (so either you told him or he found out on his on), you also mentioned that the four year old understood based upon the going-away gift that your family gave to the provider. You also mentioned that you took them to meet the new provider ahead of time, wasn't that based upon my advice? I had mentioned in my advice to you that you should arrange a visit ahead of time. I'm just shocked that you took our advice, labeled it as your own (stating that you 'went with your own instint', umm..no, you didn't...your instint was not to tell them, remember?, and then instead of thanking us for the advice you decided to pose that odd question which I'm not even going to bother addressing because I'll just let you go with "your own instint" on that one, okay.
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I would definitely let the children know that this will be their last week at that day care. Can you set up a visit for them to meet with their new day care provider/center? It would help them transition better if they can meet their new provider ahead of time and see where they will be going during the day. This is what I did with my oldest when she switched day cares at 3 years of age. I also had an open discussion with her as well and allowed her the opportunity to ask questions. And she did have some questions such as ... what do I call her (the new provider)?, What happens if I have to go to the bathroom?, etc.
Another thing to consider is that most day care providers/centers will usually have a going away party for the children. What would happen if they had the going away party for your children who didn't even know that they were going away?
They should definitely be allowed the chance to say goodbye to their friends and the providers. After all this was their home-away-from-home and they have built those relationships.
Also, have you told the daycare that you are switching your children? Most daycare have it in their legally binding contracts that you either have to give them a two week notice or you have to pay them for two weeks worth of care. Be sure to check your contract and abide by it. And future daycares sometimes want to know where your children were at before so that they can call and talk to your previous provider to see if they had any issues with you such as late payments, no payments, etc. So please don't burn any bridges with the old provider.
Another tip is that I would always ask my former provider (provided that I wasn't pulling my child out due to poor performance on their parts) if they would be willing in the future to provide back-up care for my children if my current provider was out sick. They all said "yes, of course". And that is just what they did.
Hope this info helps.