I sent this out to some friends a few weeks ago.. maybe it will help.
I'm sooo sorry the poor little boy has had to go thru so much :-(
i'm starting my two little ones in two weeks to get them both potty trained this summer:-) wish me luck..and good luck to you and your son.
you could even call the institute i mention below for ideas maybe.
**even though this class was basically about potty training,,, the Institute-that put on the class- also deals with many different children issues-listed below- so they may be a place anyone could keep in their memory banks incase it's needed.. but some good information on potty training.. Or you can pass this along to others you may know who could use the information as well.
we went to this toilet training and sleep issue class a few weeks ago..and I emailed this to a friend after her and I got talking about it for her son who just turned 3..so I sent this to her and realized that others may benefit from the information as well.
so here ya go..
this class was thru the Munroe-Meyer Institute pediatric psychology thru children's. Brett Kuhn phd did the class.
contact numbers ###-###-#### 800-696-3937
munroe-meyer deals with academic/school problems,,, adjustment(death/divorce), anxiety/fears, attention & behavior problems, feeding/eating problems,, habits(thumb sucking example),,, sleep problems, toileting.
Toilet training readiness skills:
at least 20 months old or preferably 24 mo
pick up objects, lower and raise paints, and walk from room to room
staying dry for several hours at a time.
urinating only 4-6 times a day
completely emptying the bladder each time.
toilet training:
bladder and bowel awareness-making a face or assuming a special posture like squatting, or going to a certain location
language readiness-understands toileting words like 'wet' 'dry' 'pants' 'bathroom'
instructional readiness-understands simple instructions, such as come hear please, and sit down
-complies with 6-10 instructions
-likes to imitate
toilet training:
procedures-
make sure both you and your child are ready
get rid of diapers during day- don't go back to them even if you go on errands. prepare for accidents, bring along a change of clothes.
increase fluids(eating salty food will make them thirsty and a little caffeine will make them go,, both good things for this)
scheduled/prompted toilet sits(set goals low to ensure success)
(atleast 5 sits a day no less than 3 a day, 15-20 mins after major meals, schedule during high frequency likely times)
dry pants check every 15 mins with high praises when dry(this is done with out diapers on. with underpants - kind of hard if naked..lol)
expect accidents
use positive practice procedure after every accident(this is after each accident , have them go sit on the potty at least 10 times as a 'practice run' from where the accident happened to the potty)
praises/reinforce every time any part completed correctly. (4 positive reinforcements to 1 negative)
the class also went over sleep issues.. but that's too long to type up..lol
but here are a few links to the sleep t hings if you want to take a look at them in the event you have any problems with that..
resources they listed to us:
http://www.aasmnet.org/
http://www.sleepfoundation.org/site/c.huIXKjM0IxF/b.24171...
http://www.sleepeducation.com/
http://www.babycenter.com/
Munroe-meyer assessed Bella when she was about 6 months to see if she needed any therapy for being premature but she didn't.
they also referenced this book Toddler owners manual by Brett Kuhn and Joe Borgenicht
book
a few other potty things they talked about was starting the boys sitting to urinate instead of sitting because that can lead to issues with not wanting to or being able to sit to have a bowel movement. the dad should also sit to urinate in front of the child.
if there has been past issues with constipation and the child is afraid to sit on the potty to go,, you may have to take very small baby steps with getting them back comfortable with the potty. like just having them sit on the potty with a diaper on with a timer for only 5 seconds at a time at first.. then increase it a few seconds etc. very small baby steps. lol
it was a very informative and good class
T.