Seeking Support- I Had a Miscarriage Today

Father God, I come to you right now, asking that you wrap Your loving arms around Bethany and her family. Please give Bethany comfort and calm, allow her to just bathe herself in the love and warmth of her family as she heals from this loss. Father, assure Bethany that her precious little baby is now safe in Your kingdom and in Your care.
In You Precious Name I ask these things.
Amen

I am so sorry for your loss. the same thing happened to me many years ago, and once in a while i still think of my baby i lost. You are right to pray, God helps me all the time in my times of trials and tribulation...i know there is a reason for everything, and the reason you feel so bad is becos you and your whole family lost a baby, living for 6 1/2 weeks! It is a great loss, and in time, if you trust the Lord, you will be ok...grief sometimes takes short time and sometimes takes more time,,, it's ok dear Bethany, how you are feeling, but i pray, you will trust God, talk to Him and your husband and your kids about it , they are hurting too. and look into your dear husband and your children's faces, and thank God you have them, becos you are blessed to have them. praying for you.

Of course I will. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. I have three wonderful children, but before having them I had two miscarriages. It was horrible! My first was the worst. I was three months along and the day after we got married, we moved the wedding up because of it, I began to bleed. i lost the baby a week later at home and actually saw my baby....I could barly function after that so I totally know what you mean when you say you want to crawl under a shell. It is going to take some time but it will get easier. It never goes away, but it does get better ......I promise. Be glad that you have your two beautiful children to help you keep going. There were times I felt so sad and alone that I didn't think I could continue on. I don't really know how to tell you to get through this other than grieve and allow yourself to go through it. Lean on your husband, love on your children, cry when you have to take it at the pace that works for you. It's going to get better. I know it's almost unbearible right now, I didn't want to get out of bed for like 2 weeks.....but i would try to go to your sons party. It's going to be hard, but I think it might upset you later that you missed it. Give it to God......know that you did nothing wrong. Unfortunatly sometimes these things just happen through no fault of anyone. Pray about it and know that it's going to get better....good luck and I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Hey, Sweetie. I've had 2 miscarriages, 1 ectopic and 1 live birth. I know *exactly* how you feel. I know the physical, emotional and mental pain you are feeling right now. It's not easy, and all I can say is ... it *does* get easier over time. When you are feeling down ... look at the 2 beautiful babies you already have. See them for the miracles they are. Yes, you had a huge loss. However .. you have even bigger wins right there with you. Lean on your husband. Let people know that you simply need time. Don't push yourself to go to school functions, family functions or anything outside of work and taking care of your living, breathing, screaming, playing, wonderful kids.

My heart goes out to you. If you want to chat with another who has been exactly where you are now ... feel free to e-mail me. ____@____.com. Unfortunately I can not offer prayers in the way you are looking for. I can offer what I have though. I have a shoulder and an ear to lend. I have the strength of my own knowledge and experience. I can also offer well wishes and heartfelt understanding.

J.

I know how you are feeling right now. I lost my baby in March at 7 weeks. But you have to try to be strong and be there for your kids events. It was hard for me cause my 2 year old daughter kept saying "sorry mommy" But I learned to live with it and do everything for my daughter. I know that is easier said then done but try to enjoy your 2 year olds event. Be there for that child tomorrow. You will regret it later if you don't go. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care and it will get easier with time. God Bless

Bethany,

It is so hard, but I hope you realize that usually miscarriages occur for a reason and it would probably happen anyway. I know it hurts. Feel free to PM me as I live in the area and if you want to get together we could do that. Let me know how you are doing... please

I completely understand. I had a miscarriage about 10 years ago. After that I was told I probably wouldn't have kids (due to some problems with my reproductive system). I felt like no one understood that empty feeling. I ended up getting pregnant and then I became very stressed I would lose her, I delivered a healthy baby girl. I understand what its like to be "the only one" in your family who has suffered a loss like this, and it seems like anything they say doesn't make it better. I would try to make the party, even if it's just for a little bit, just for your 2 y/o. Then go home and rest. Take it easy and Its completely normal and okay to mourn. You are definately in my prayers.

hi sweet Bethany. I just said a prayer for you. I prayed that God would lift you up and hold you in His mighty hands, that he will take away your pain and sorrow and allow you to heal quickly both physically and emotionally. I asked that you would find peace and comfort in His loving arms and that your physical family will provide you with the physical comfort and love you need at this time. I will continue to pray for you.

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If I were there I would give you a big hug and order you pizza. My sister had two miscarriages. It was horrible for her. She has one healthy child. I think of the the two babies I would of been the aunt to.
Your baby was not growing correctly.
I would take up mediation if I were you. Get rid of the negative feelings and replace them with positive feelings. I would rent some Wayne Dwyer from the library.
Visualize yourself becoming pregnant with the next baby being completely heatlhy.

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If I were there I would give you a big hug and order you pizza. My sister had two miscarriages. It was horrible for her. She has one healthy child. I think of the the two babies I would of been the aunt to.
Your baby was not growing correctly.
I would take up mediation if I were you. Get rid of the negative feelings and replace them with positive feelings. I would rent some Wayne Dwyer from the library.
Visualize yourself becoming pregnant with the next baby being completely heatlhy.

I have also been in your shoes. I've had 2 miscarriages, one at 6 weeks and one at 10. There really isn't anything anyone can do for you. I handled the first one in stride but it took months to get over my 2nd. I say get over it but I still think about it and wonder if it would've been a boy or a girl. The point is these things just take time. You are so right that people just don't understand because they don't. I am so sorry. You will be blessed again...just be patient. Look at your beautiful kids and be so very thankful for what you do have.

I have had 7 miscarriages. I have one healthy beautiful girl and she is what healed my heart.

You really need to hug the ones you have and look at how gorgeous they are, what a wonderful mom you are, and the greatness of your family. There was nothing you could do to save the baby. It is not your fault and don't ever think there was something you could have done differently. It is just something that happens and is harder for the mom than anyone because you bond with the baby the moment you know it's inside of you. It will be better, but right now, give yourself time to grieve.

I will pray for you and your family... May you have the warmth of love and the hope your children bring. God bless!

Hi Bethany,
You know what is so great about Mamapedia? It gives us a chance to chat with some really great ladies who can offer us advice and wisdom. I, too, have had 3 miscarriages in a row and then no pregnancy for 6 years after the last one. However, we have been blessed and now have our little angel Ariana age 4. Like you said, you are so very lucky to have a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful little ones. Enjoy them and you go to the party tomorrow. We are all thinking about you and wishing you peace. and...We'lll be there at that party with you in your heart and soul.
Here's a big hug for you.

Take care.
E.