I have a 7 year old girl who seems to have a crush on a boy in her classroom. She really gets her feelings hurt when she doesn't feel he pays enough attention to her, is this normal? Any advise how to handle this.
At what age do girls / boys generally become interested in each other or begin to have "crushes." This seems young.
Hi A.. I have a 6 yr.old son who develops crushes on older girls , he swears he's going to marry the neighbor girl is 10 yrs.old. :)))
I'm sure its all normal. Don't worry.
Check out a post on Sept. 30th, 2008. Same subject same age, but different sex.
My niece always had crushes or "boyfriends" even in preschool. Some kids just have very strong feelings. I would just talk to her about really liking someone and why we love other people.
Let her know that families will always love other family members, but sometimes, other people will like us, but not really be old enough or ready to love someone outside of their family. I am going to guess she will have lots of crushes on nice boys, kind boys and of course the ones we all love, the "bad boy". But let her know, there is nothing wrong with her if they do not return the same feelings.
My dad used to say "it is their loss" if we had a crush and they did not care about us.
A.,
I just had to laugh at your delimia....I have a son who first fell "inlove" at age 3- if you can believe that....he was so love sick....he would sit on the curb an wait for this little girl (she was about 12) to come home from school.....he would write her litle "love notes" and he displayed such love sickness I did not know what was wrong- would not eat- etc- I actually took him to the dr because I knew something was terribly wrong with him- dr. said- "he is just in love" what a shock to me- he was only 3- but we were moving so I thought that would solve the issue---but when he started school- rode the school bus and again- he fell in love with a girl on the bus (she was 14 and he was 6) and again I had to go thru the love sickness stuff- it was not easy for him and he really got his heart broken- what I did was just try to keep his attention someplace else- kept him off the school bus-took him to school, kept him really busy with other stuff and alerted his teachers and ask them to be sure he did not come in contact with this girl at school- we lived in the country and it was a very small school and all the kids were kinda lumped up-- they helped me there- but for you I would suggest talking to the teacher and maybe separating them as much as possible so she does not have to be in contact with this little boy- she will get over it and I would not make too much of an issue - this to will pass and she will be fine. you will look back on this and laugh- good luck and blessings
I can actually remember crushing on this boy in my kindergarten class and getting really upset that he did not like me and liked this other little girl. Wow, that brings back memories, so sounds normal to me.
7 is not to young to be curious about the opposite sex and have crushes. It is to young though to base your happiness on the opposite sex. I have a seven year old daughter too and she has boys that she thinks are cute. Her best friend is a boy. When she was five she came home and said that she had a "boyfriend" and my husband and I explained to her that having a boyfriend at her young age is not appropriate but having boys as friends is. There is no kissing boys or being alone with them.
I do think you definitely need to address the issue of her not being happy unless he pays attention to her. Ask her the reason she needs him to like her so much. Not to be too nosey but does she have a strong close relationship with her dad? she could be trying to replace that feeling? I would sit down with her and have a good bonding talk. Hope this helps and good luck!
Yep. My daughter had her first "boyfriend" in preschool. (2 yrs old) They held hands, hugged each other hello and good-bye, and sat next to each other all the time. They would make gifts for one another and they would be hurt when the other wanted to play with someone else.
My first "boyfriend" was in kindergarten. Same thing our parents were good friends too, so we would have "dates" which were just play dates, but the parents thought it was funny to play along.
It is usually just a good friend that happens to be of the opposite sex. Their feelings are hurt just as they would be if a girl friend were to shun them. It is a rite of passage. Though my cousin's little girl started crushing on my sister's boyfriend (20yrs) when she was 2 yrs old. She would hide and blush any time he would talk to her and she would sneak up on him from behind to kiss him and make cards for him.
You could have him over for a play date if you wanted to. You could invite the whole family and make friends with the whole family. It could help to work through other "is this normal" questions and it is generally a good idea to have a good relationship with your children’s friends at any age. On the other hand, you could just support her in it, talk to her about it, and open the lines of communications now. It will be much easier to do now than it will be in another 3-5 years.
It is cute and natural. I wouldn't fret.
Your daughter seems a few years early for a crush, but kids grow up faster and faster these days. As the mother of a 7 year old boy, I'd say that if a girl "liked" my son she'd do better to just be herself and be a friend. He has buddies of both sexes and plays happily with both boys and girls depending on the personality of the friend more than anything else. The "Hannah Montana" crowd makes my son roll his eyes, but then again they probably do the same for his talk of Star Wars or legos, you know? The girls he likes are the ones who climb trees and play tag and talk about the same books/movies and stuff that he is into. I hope he doesn't "like" girls until he's 25!!!! ;)
Talk to your daughter about being friends with kids (both boys & girls) who enjoy her company and she has common interests with. You may let her know it's okay to admire someone even if they don't hang out with you or whatever, but to look for true friendship elsewhere.
This is normal and it will not last long, they will both find someone else in a short time. However this will almost surly last til married. You went through this, this is one way of finding the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with as a partner. They will meet some that are good and some that they will tell to take a hike. But it is they way that they will learn what they want to have in life. Have fun been there.
She's actually right at that age. My son has talked about girlfriends since kindergarten. He's now 7 and every now and then will tell me that his gfriend was --- but she now likes == so now his gfriend is [[[ so trust me this is normal. I tell him that he doesn't need to have a gfriend until he's much older and has gone through the majority of his education. Of course this doesn't mean anything to him right now but I've been told to basically let it takes it's course but stick to the age that I will allow him to have a real gfriend. So far my son has only gotten upset a couple of times and I tell him that she just wasn't the one God has in store for him and one day God will bring that person to him probably when he's in college. He seems to get a kick out of that bc I keep pushing for gfriends after he's at least in college for a little while. At this age they don't really understand 10 to 15 years from now so you best bet is to let her know that he's not the one for her and that it's his loss. You'll probably have that conversation many times. My son has even written notes,"Do you love me? Yes or No" They are learning how to express their emotions and getting feelings towards the opposite sex but not real sure what to do with it but they see how their parents react towards each other and basically acting the same way. She's right on track with age but explaining it best for her that's the hard one.
pretty normal...I would just try the approach that her heart belongs to her husband and she should try to protect it until she finds him. Hopefully she will learn over the next decade to make friends and get to know people before she lets their behavior hurt her heart. Hard lesson for us all! Good luck, this is only the beginning.
Normal. Just keep reminding her that our joy shouldn't come from other people because other people will always disappoint us at some point. Joy comes from God and from within. Keep working with her with practical ways to not get so hurt. Tell her maybe he just had a bad day that day, etc. Boys will be boys, etc. It's not personal, etc.
As a first grade teacher and mother of three I would say it is not a good thing. She sounds needy. She should just be concentrating on being a kid and having alot of friends. I tell any kids in my class that start that sort of thing "are you ready to get married and have a job?" of course they say no, "then you are not ready to have a boyfriend/girlfriend. You only need that when you are ready to get married." That is usually the end. Does her dad pay attention to her, does she have brothers? Also I would get her involved in sports soon, like soccer of softball and that usually helps their self esteem and makes them feel like they are strong on their own.
Yes, I remember my own crushes in elemntery school. Let her know now no kissing, not dateing till she is what ever age and no boyfriends or what ever your rules are. she can crush on a boy but she can only be friends. Oh and do remember the we dont show other people our private parts. All kids are courious about the opposite sex and want a look. Good luck.
