My son is 8 1/2 and he asked me about his testicles. I told him what they were and of course the next question was "what are they for?" So, I said to help make babies. That is where we left the conversation. I am a big one for facts but does anyone know of a resource that I can use with him? I am in school to become a nurse and don't want to get to technical.
I spoke to my husband about it and he talked with my son. Hopefully he knows that he can ask us anything. We are also going with the book "What is Happening to Me" Thanks for the input.
I let my husband deal with the boys when it came to the sex talk. He went into detail and was very open and honest. I think as long as you don't use jargon and just talk freely its better so that way there are no misconceptions or unanswered questions.
Hi K.. Responding to your post, I noticed that you said that your 8 1/2 son asked you about his testicles, not where do babies come from. Just like any other part of our bodies, testicles have a function and it should be explained just like any other part of the body. Go to the library or the internet and search information about testicles with illustrations that explains exactly why boys and men need testicle. If then he asks about sexual relations, don't hold back without been explicit. Unfortunately, kids now a day are exposed to the wrong information about sex thru TV, movies and music. Also, kids talk among eachother about sex and if at this age they have not been explained about the purpose of sexual relations and the proper way of going about it, they will experiment. I have 2 girls age 14 and 11 and my husband and I have been having conversation about sex, marriage, dating, consequenses, etc with them from an early age (of course, explanations were according to their age) We have never treated the subject of sex as a secret. Another advice, don't wait until they come to you and ask, initiate the conversation. Doing it like that, will avoid your son going to peers or other sources to get the wrong information. We are Christians and God's Word the Bible as well as Bible based publication about the subject has helped us. I'm be very happy to share, let me know.
Sounds like you are a great resource for your son. Don't be afraid of the topic. Your son will let you know when he needs to know more. Just keep it simple. Too many people are freaked out about something that is intended to be normal and beautiful. Good luck!
S.
K., I remember a book called "Where Do I Come From?" from when I was a child. Cute drawings and they show how to pronounce the terms and explain the mechanics without getting too technical.
Available in paperback from Amazon for $9.95. You can also get "What's happening to Me?" to discuss puberty (I've never read that one).
Dr james Dobson has a series on this that was recomended to me by my pastor. We will be doing it this summer with our son also.
L.
Hi K.,
I am A grandmother of 5 boys. MY 11 YR old has spent alot of time with me and he has always been able to ask me anything. I belive just be as open and honest with your 8 yr old as you can be. Do you mind if I ask why your hubsand isn;t the one helping you with this? I know boy's some time are closer with mom so let him know that he can come to you with any question he ever has.. and I belive you will do just fine... lighten up mom you can do this
smiles,
D.
K.,
My situation is similar-we have girls though, and we've decided that if the general answer didn't provoke any more questions from them we'd leave it as enough said for now. We figure that they will ask questions when the information they have isn't enough (our girls have very inquisitive minds!). This helps me not to give way more info than they are ready for
M.--wife of 11 years and mom to 4 girls ages 5-10
Borders or Barnes/Noble bookstores. They should have an age appropriate book available. Ask a clerk.
Both my boys enjoyed "What's Happening to Me?" and referred to it often, even into their teens.
