Sexond Baby... Another Shower?

I personally think that a shower for a second baby is not necessary, and definitely not appropriate to hint. The only exception might be if she did not receive all the necessities for her first for some reason or it's several years later, which in her case it's not. If she is having a girl, maybe some close friends would want to bring clothes, but a lot of friends do that anyway without a gathering. Don't feel guilty if you don't host anything!

I'll be the odd woman out on the opinions and suggest that it's completely appropriate but may not be nessesary for a traditional shower. We don't celebrate enough in my mind. There's nothing more precious than a little one coming into the world and it's more than worth celebrating. You could do a book shower where everyone just brings a book or a Blessing Way (check that concept out - actually I have a book on it of you want to borrow it - VERY cool idea)! I think your SIL, probably more than stuff, wants people to celebrate and rejoice with her. I would encourage you to help celebrate your new little niece or nephew and do something inexpensive to help give others the opportunity to share in the fun!

I also think it's inappropriate to have another shower. At least that's what I've always heard.

No, I don't think a second shower is appropriate. If people want to bring gifts (and most will) they will bring somethign when they come to visit. My second (4 years after my son) was a girl and most people brought me cute girlie clothes. I had all of the big stuff. It should be everyone's choice.

Honestly, no it isn't appropriate since her first child is only 17months. It would be appropriate if there was a HUGE gap in the childs ages or if this was from a new marriage and it was her or her husbands 1st child. I could see taking her out to lunch to celebrate if any family members after the baby is born want to visit and see the new addition, then by all means bring a gift. JMHOP... Somtimes I think people are just looking to get gifts, and it's very tacky. Again this is JMHOP.
Good Luck!
J. in Macomb

I agree with Laurie. If her first baby is only 17 month's old she shouldn't need anything. The only exception should be if several years go by. Her friends and family will bring the baby a gift at the hospital or at home and she should apreciate that.