Should I Ask My Friends to Pay Me Back?

Blame it on the restaraunt. "I think those guys made a mistake, theres a $90 charge on my account. Did they overcharge you too?"

Knowing me, I probably wouldn't mention it. Yeah, you can call me a push over if you want, I won't mind, tehehe.

However, if YOU mentioned it to ME, I would not be offended, I would gladly pay my share, and I would be a little embarrassed about whatever the mix up was that YOU got stuck with the bill.

:)

Maybe play it this way:
"Hey guys, I remember splitting the bill at xyz 3 ways but I just looked online and have a charge of $90". See what they say about that. Hopefully they'll then check theirs and offer to forward you some $$.

Eh, I'd just let it slide if it was me and my college friends. If you have another get-together you can give them a good-natured ribbing about sticking you with the bill the last time and if they're halfway decent people they'll make up for it. But I wouldn't bother trying to recoup my funds from this trip. It was all in good fun and I seriously doubt they were trying to take advantage.

Yeah I would probably say something like, "Wow, I was so blasted... I could have sworn we split dinner three ways but it seems I have a charge on my card for all of it." and hopefully they will offer. Even if they don't, you can then say, "Your part was $30, if you can pay me back that'd be great."

I might mention it to them along the lines of 'hey, I just noticed that they charged me $90', can you check your account to see what they charged you?' Both my sister and I have been victims of card theft so we're extra alert.

My coworker just told me about something that happened to her daughter. She and 3 friends went out. 3 friends paid cash, and she put her portion on her card. She signed the receipt without reading it. When she got home, the server had charged the entire $120 bill on her card and pocketed the cash as her tip. She called the restaurant and the server had already left for the night so it became she said/she said.

My sis went to dinner with friends and a server 'hijacked' all of their card numbers. Began using the cards for various purchases a week later. She found out immediately because she had used her debit card and her checking acct. became locked for possible theft because a charge in VA and a charge from MD (an hour apart) came in 5 mins apart from each other. The charge was for $300 worth of groceries. If the charges had been 2 hours apart, it wouldn't have triggered anything. She called the friends.The others had used credit cards. Sure enough 3 of the 4 other friends had charges of $300+ on their cards. It was a big mess.

I don't think it would make you look like a jerk to just call them up, or facebook them if you prefer, and ask if they remember what happened. Just explain that you were looking over your account and noticed the charge and it was a lot more than you recall spending. More than likely it was just a mistake that you guys didn't settle up and no one realized it until now you see the charge on your statement. It's an honest mistake, and if these girls are truly your friends they should have no problem acknowledging the error and sending you their share.

Just be funny about it... something along the lines of:

Hey girls!... in the alcohol fueled hazy shuffle from the table to the bar (errr, from tea to bingo, I mean, there was no bar, no dancing! Just strong tea) it appears that either we consumed $270 worth of food or the bartender forgot to split the tab from dinner. Or did we REALLY eat almost $300 worth of food? My pants still fit when I got home. Mostly.

Anyhow... just wanted to touch base, since I just got my card statement for a little over $90 from dinner... etc

Personally, I would not ask my friends for cash now. I am probably not a great source though, I get very generous after two drinks and picked up more tabs than I should have in years past :-) However, you may want to call the restaurant. Perhaps they messed up when they transferred your tab to the back and you ended up paying that portion twice. Ask them if you signed the slip or if they just ran the card with no signature.

Sometimes restaurants put a "hold" on your card...I'd wait 3-5 days and see if it goes away. No need to jump to conclusions just yet--I'd bet they paid and it's a "hold".

I don't think I would ask for the money but I would definitely ask them if they paid at the first place because you had a $90 charge on your card. If they are really your friends they should step up and give you at least their portion of the bill.

Wait a few days and see what actually goes through. I have heard that some bars and restaurants put like a holding fee or something basically so they don't get screwed. I can't remember what it's called but they are checking to make sure you actually have the money in case you run up a large tab. However if you are stuck with the whole bill I would definitely ask for their share.

I would let it go, and next time I would use one of their cards to run the tab.

If you open a tab on a CC and pay the bill on another, there is still a pending charge put on the first card.

Call your CC company first.

This is one reason I don't split bills... we put things on totally separate tabs so we each have our own receipt!

I wouldn't mention it either. But they probably found out that you covered it, they may even mention something to you. But one thing I have learned is that when going out (or trying too!) with friends we all agree to split the bill no matter how much it was. Hey, it's a tough economy and money is hard these days.

I would call your friends and just explain the situation. It's entirely possible that their cards also have "pending charges" that don't add up! If they check their online accounts, they will realize that the charge from the bar is missing and may reach out to you as well! You're not a jerk, just send them an email saying "Great seeing you girls the other night! I may have had too many cocktails b/c it looks like I either way over-tipped the waiter OR they charged our credit cards incorrectly. You may want to check your accounts and see if they put a charge on your cards too or just put it all on mine!"

If they check and they have charges as well, then call the restaurant. If they check and they don't have charges, your friends should offer to send you $$.

Did you have extra cash in your purse after the evening? If you didn't then you probably paid for everything.

Ya know your friends could be looking at their credit card statements and thinking I thought I paid for this. Maybe just call them and say hey were you as fuzzy as me....

sometimes restaraunts and bars put a "hold" on a certain amount of money and when the "pending "is over they charge the real amount. They do this to prevent people skipping tabs and such....even gas stations do it now.

Id check with the company first. maybe thats it....but if its not...yes, get that money, you were generous enough

If it was me, I would say something =] I agree not fair for you to fork out all of the cash!

I would do it in a subtle way though, like "Gosh, that place we went to was sooooo expensive! They charged me $90! How much was your bill??" Something like that if it were me...

But if you honestly need the money back and can't afford the amount, maybe be more serious. "I got my credit card bill, and it looks like they ended up charging me for everything instead of splitting it 3 ways. Can you help with your share of the bill?"

If I were in the other ladies' place I would offer to pay, and it wouldn't bother me at all that you brought it up. I would understand, because I wouldn't have had the money to pay all of that in my budget!!

i'd ask my friends if they got charged too being afraid the bar charged all three of you 90 bux. then if they didnt say oh ok did yall say you were just gonna give me cash later then cuz i'm confussed. then let it go from there.

100% agree with Nikki G!!!!

I would definitely ask them to pay their share.