I don't get a lot of "kid free" time, but I'm also not twitchin for more. I have a demanding major in college full time and when I get home I honestly feel guilty leaving my daughter after being at school all day. So I guess that's where mine stems from. My parents are almost always happy to watch my little O. whenever I want. I think some people may think your judging her harshly (the single 31 yr old mom) but I do see that and it is pretty sad. I had a friend with 4 girls and she had her oldest watch the others (16, 10, 7, and 3) and she would ALWAYS go out. She wasn't a very good mom at home either, but the fact is she never thought being home with her kids was "fun". So I understand what your referring to when you describe her. It's sad.
When I first left me ex I went out a lot, I got new friends and needed to just cope my own way and it was a bit selfish but my daughter was safe with my parents. Looking back, wish I would've stayed home more.
Right now, I go out maybe every other weekend and occasionally I will go grocery shopping by myself. I'm actually canceling my gym membership b/c I don't go enough to justify the expense. I'm realistic in why I don't go to the gym, b/c my gym trips last 1 1/2 hrs and I can do it at home AND not feel guilty. So instead I'm buying the equipment here. I don't really date, but that's a personal choice. When I worked full time it was okay, but that's only because I worked from 4am to 12 or 1pm so I had the rest of the day. My mom used to watch her then b/c it was so early I didn't want to wake her up. If I want some me time I get it when she naps or goes to sleep. I guess I'm not "high maintenance" for lack of better terms, but it satisfies me. I enjoy my daughter in the time we have and sometimes she'll be chilling in the playroom and I get to do my thing (cleaning, internet, etc)
I haven't been on an overnight trip without my daughter in 2 years. My daughte
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I don't get a lot of "kid free" time. I have a demanding major in college full time and when I get home I honestly feel guilty leaving my daughter after being at school all day. So I guess that's where mine stems from. My parents are almost always happy to watch my little O. whenever I want. I think some people may think your judging her harshly (the single 31 yr old mom) but I do see that and it is pretty sad. I had a friend with 4 girls and she had her oldest watch the others (16, 10, 7, and 3) and she would ALWAYS go out. She wasn't a very good mom at home either, but the fact is she never thought being home with her kids was "fun". So I understand what your referring to when you describe her. It's sad.
When I first left me ex I went out a lot, I got new friends and needed to just cope my own way and it was a bit selfish but my daughter was safe with my parents. Looking back, wish I would've stayed home more.
Right now, I go out maybe every other weekend and occasionally I will go grocery shopping by myself. I'm actually canceling my gym membership b/c I don't go enough to justify the expense. I'm realistic in why I don't go to the gym, b/c my gym trips last 1 1/2 hrs and I can do it at home AND not feel guilty. So instead I'm buying the equipment here. I don't really date, but that's a personal choice. When I worked full time it was okay, but that's only because I worked from 4am to 12 or 1pm so I had the rest of the day. My mom used to watch her then b/c it was so early I didn't want to wake her up. If I want some me time I get it when she naps or goes to sleep. I guess I'm not "high maintenance" for lack of better terms, but it satisfies me. I enjoy my daughter in the time we have and sometimes she'll be chilling in the playroom and I get to do my thing (cleaning, internet, etc)
I haven't been on an overnight trip without my daughter in 2 years. My daughter goes with me, I love her company, but I'm a kid myself sometimes haha.
****Can anyone tell me why it does this update thing and repeats the same message? That is super annoying!