i dont believe in letting a child cry it out. we co sleep, our 4 month old sleeps thru the night pretty good, as did our 3 yr old who now sleeps great in her own bed, and thats without ever letting her cry to sleep. it takes alot work to not let your child cry, but i think its worth it. here are some links to read. also, i have been reading on several sites parents referring to ferberizing while describing letting there child cry for long periods of time. although i completely disagree with the idea of a baby crying, the ferber method is not just putting the baby down and leaving the room. it involves very short periods of time(starts at only 3 mins) before parental comfort gradually increasing over time, increasing over several days. it does not include in anyway just letting the baby 30+mins or esp hours. i keep reading people saying the baby cried for (blank) and fell asleep. in these cases, the only thing that is accomplished is a baby crying for long periods, with no comfort from his parents, only to pass out of exhaustion. please read the links below, but if you decide you want to use a crying method, please do not just leave your baby crying, rather follow this http://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-training-cry-it-ou...
good luck
Crying it out: Why it is NOT good for your baby!
Imagine you are this tiny person. You wake up in the middle of the night in a quite, dark room. You are scared and start to cry, but no one comes to comfort you. Finally you give up, not because you are now sleep trained, but because you figure no one cares enough to tend to your needs...
Babies under the age of 6 months CAN NOT manipulate, they cry for a reason. Part of our job as parents is to respond to them, building a lifetime of trust!
Children Need Touching and Attention, Harvard Researchers Say By Alvin Powell http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNe...
Science Says: Excessive Crying Could Be Harmful to Babies Dr Sears http://askdrsears.com/html/10/handout2.asp
EARLY BRAIN DEVELOPMENT What parents and caregivers need to know! by Phyllis Porter, M.A. http://www.educarer.com/brain.htm
Crying for comfort: distressed babies need to be held - Art of Mothering Mothering, Jan-Feb, 2004 by Aletha Solter http://www.mothering.com/articles/new_baby/bonding/connec...
The Dangers of Leaving Your Baby to Cry By Margaret Chuong-Kim, M.A. http://drbenkim.com/articles-attachment-parenting.html
The Science of Attachment: The Biological Roots of Love by Lauren Lindsey Porter http://www.naturalchild.com/guest/lauren_lindsey_porter.html
The Emotional Infant Brain Part 1: The developing emotional subsystems of the brain process various information, including how to relate the state of the world with xpectations. http://www.fresnofamily.com/articles/aa040100a.htm
Stress in Infancy by Linda Folden Palmer, D.C. http://www.naturalchild.com/guest/linda_folden_palmer2.html
The Science of Attachment By Kelley Shirazi http://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/5-ap/312-responsive-pa...
Mistaken Approaches to Night Waking: Excerpt from Sweet Dreams: A pediatrician's secrets for your child's good night sleep, Lowell House, 22-28 By Paul M. Fleiss, M.D., M.P.H., F.A.A.P., 2000 http://www.nospank.net/fleiss2.htm
8 INFANT SLEEP FACTS EVERY PARENT SHOULD KNOW Dr Sears http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070200.asp
CONTROLLED CRYING: AAIMHI POSITION PAPER The Australian Association for Infant Mental Health: http://www.gymealily.org/resources_paperva7.htm
Loving Responces to a baby's cries Copyright (c) 2001 By Ingrid Bauer: http://www.natural-wisdom.com/lovingresponse.htm
Fatherhood Basic Instinc A dad can do so much more than defend the cave. New research shows that he too has the biological goods to nurture baby By John Hoffman http://www.todaysparent.com/lifeasparent/fatherhood/artic...
A MENTAL HEALTH EXPERT WARNS THAT POPULAR ADVICE TO IGNORE YOUR CHILD'S TEARS MAY CAUSE LIFE-LONG HARM Amelia Hill http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/content/excerpts/cioarti...
Why babies should never sleep alone: A review of the co-sleeping controversy in relation to SIDS, bedsharing and breast feeding James J. McKenna* and Thomas McDade http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles/McKenna_why%20ba...
CIO? No! The case for not using "cry-it-out" with your children By Gale E.Ward http://www.storknet.com/cubbies/attachmentparenting/cio.htm
The con of controlled crying By Pinky McKay http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/pinky_mckay.html