Sleepover for Middle School Aged Girls.

I'd let her do it and offer to allow them to make a snack or pizza or do their nails or whatever. Just tell them when quiet time is and any household rules.

I never planned activities for my daughter and her friends, even when she was little. When she was old enough to ask to have friends come over, she was old enough to plan her own playtime. They decided for themselves what they wanted to do.

Feed the, and leave them! They will giggle and laugh and talk anoutmwhomthey "love" lol.

Ask your daughter what she plans to do and if she would like you to help plan anything for her. When I was that age we would watch movies, play Atari, give each other manicures and talk about boys. Moms were usually just there to provide snacks.

I usually let my daughter take the lead with planning. I was here for supervision, food, snacks, etc.

The groups that visited here regularly loved mani/Pedi's, facial's, movies, WII games, etc.

As for food, they liked taco bars, baked potato bars, top your own pizza, decorate your own cupcakes, cookies, etc.

I never had a lot of structure, I just let them take the lead.

Good luck

Just have plenty of snacks and rent a few movies, they'll figure the rest out.

I love all the ideas you got so far, TF said everything I would have said about activities and food.

I let my daughter know ahead of time that they can do things on their own, but I will definitely be around. Just walking through or repleneshing snacks, just so they know I am there. With that age, it sometimes turns into a bit of a drama fest. So I am there to shut that down if it happens. My daughter would roll her eyes a bit, but in the end she always said she was glad I did that, because if girls started being mean or talking too nasty about other girls (present or not) or other things she didn't like, she didn't always feel comfortable saying stop, so she was glad I kept things on track. Usually it went fine, they just get out of hand if they think no adult is around!

Have fun!

no tween wants mom-supervised 'activities'!
let them do their own thing.
:) khairete
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All I have provided for the past couple sleepovers for my daughter (10th and 11th birthdays) was pizza, snacks, cupcakes and movie rentals!

She has an idea of what she wants to do and I'd bet they'll take care of the plans. But ask her, she may feel overwhelmed.

Definitely ask her and encourage her to have some things planned -- any party or sleepover can fall flat and she should have some activities ready just in case. If she doesn't use them, that's fine too. Definitely they'll want to watch movies. Food is big too but see if she thinks her friends would like to participate in the food -- not just be served. When we've had MS aged girls over they have loved topping their own pizzas from a big choice of toppings and choosing what goes onto ice cream, or even making their own brownies to bake while the movie plays. Only takes moments but the girls loved it. Also ask your daughter if her friends are into jewelry (friendship bracelets, necklaces, whatever) and if it would be good to have some jewelry-making materials there and ready. Some girls will sit and make things while they all chat; some may not be interested at all; others might focus a lot on making things.

We had a sleepover a while back where the girls made spa stuff -- they made soaps (very easy to do with a microwave and soap base and molds available at any craft store; girls can add their own colors and scents, also at craft stores). They also made body scrub from sugar and essential oils -- lots of "recipes" online. Then they packed up the scrub in glass jars and decorated the jars. It was a hit with this mix of girls, but what your daughter and her friends do depends on the personalities of the girls who come. Your daughter will know best what they like to do! She might really relish planning this.

Some sleepovers are just about talking, games and movies, and that's fine too!

There have been lots of fun posts on here recently about planning sleepovers...might want to use the "search" section to read through some of the ideas from past posts.

Make sure you have plenty of snacks!

Have fun!

My 12 year old had 3 friends spend the night on her birthday. I had pizza, cake, ice cream and snacks. They spent most of the time in her room. Came out to eat and back in. The next day I took them to the mall for a few hours. I let them walk ahead of me and in stores but I would text and keep up with them.

Ha...they are so independent these day's!
Last year at my daughter's 12th birthday sleep over we did find a really fun and silly game that everyone seemed to enjoy.
We started off with "blind floded makeovers" and ended with a game.
Figure out how many girls are coming, get some gift bags or boxes and fill each one with different stuff...silly glasses, noses, hats, boa's, jewelry, boy's underwear, jock straps (whatever you find silly or fun). cover the stuff with tissue so they cant see what is inside! After the makeovers, we all got in a circle and basically played a musical bag game..while the music plays they pass the bag around, whoever has it when the music stops has to open the bag and put on everything inside. By the end of the game they are all dressed up like dorks with horrible makeup jobs....we really laughed and had a great time with that.

hey! awww....i remember my 12 & 13 yr old bday parties....that was 20 yrs ago but i still remember what kinda fun we had then.
i was in dance, so i had a bunch of costumes, we dressed up in those, did hair & makeup & made up dances, had a talent show type thing. that was maybe when i was 11 or so...idk.
when i was in 7th grade, we pretended we were on oprah. videotaped ourselves, my mom probably held the camera or something, but this one chic was the host & she had each of us out to talk about something random....it ended up being sex, lol, but how we were against doing it before marriage. anyway, we still laugh about that video. i think the next day mom made us donuts, i don't remember what we had for supper or anything. but mom was around & we just did our own thing. scary movies, truth or dare, the dressing up.....awwww....i wanna be 13 at a slumber party again! lol :) justkiddin...sorta :)

good luck mama!

Only one activity. Leigh has some great ideas. Less structured. Make taco bar and allow them to feed themselves. Pizza ready made is too common unless like she said, they get to top it.