My 10 month old son has been wanting to go to my husband all the time and not me... I know it might sound immature or childish but I'm getting my feelings hurt. I'm with my son all day and the time that my husband is home (weekends and mornings), my son wants nothing to do with me. If my husband is holding him and I'm reaching out for him to come to me, he'll turn away everytime.. If I'm holding my son though and my husband reaches out for him, he'll put his hands out to go to my husband. My husband gets up with him in the morning and when I come down he'll look over at me and turn around continue playing.. Is this all normal or is my son a "daddy's boy" already? I just thought that I'm with him all day, he would want me because he knows me but it doesn't seem to be the case. My friends babies want there mommies over there daddies but not my son. Has this happened to anyone else, will he continue to do this or will he eventually want to come to me when daddy is holding him?
Thank you all so much for your advice. I'm happy to hear I'm not the only one that has gone through this phase.... It eases my mind now..
Don't worry about it. It's probably just a phase that will be over before you know it. My daughter is 3 now and would play favorites once in a while. Now, I can honestly say that she doesn't prefer me or my husband, but gives plenty of love and hugs to each of us.
I say, try to enjoy the freedom while you can. Before you know it, he'll want only mommy... and you'll be going crazy needing a break.
This is completely normal. My 11 month old son is the same way. If my husband is in the room, he will go to him in an instant. It is just a phase, they tend to prefer one parent over the other at some point & time and then switch back.
Dont worry! Take your time and rest go do things that you cant when you have the baby. This wont last forever. Remeber that you are the one that is at home with him all day. And the child looks forward to his father coming home. And if you were the one that was at work then you would be looking forward to seeing you in the agternoon. Dont worry it is normal.
Hope this helps some
T. d
Both of my sons do the same thing, especially the big boy. He is the ultimate daddy's boy. I am a stay at home mom too, so when daddy comes home, it's all daddy. Until he gets hurt, then he's a mama's boy for a few minutes. He is in Kindergarten now and it is not as bad because he doesn't get to see me all day.
My son was just like that. He had his "Daddy only" stage for a few months then it switched to "Mommy only". He is now 4 and he still does it. I have learned to get use to it. My 2nd son (5 months old) wants nothing to do with my husband. I tell him it is payback for our oldest.
When I was on maternity leave, my son did the same thing. I attributed it to the fact that I was with him all day, Monday to Friday. Daddies provide a different type of loving and care than Mommies and that is a very good thing. You can find an article about this in the recent issue of Parenting magazine.
Don't have hurt feelings, encourage your son to build a strong bond with his daddy. I am in favor of having things that are just for them, my husband does bath time. It is their special ritual. Also, then you can have time to do something for yourself - like take a bubble bath, go to the store ALONE, read, talk on the phone to a friend, etc.
My husband also gets up early with my son on Saturdays and lets me sleep in while they go for a long walk and play in the playground of a local park. Robbie can't wait to go!
My son turned 17 months yesterday and now he differentiates between mommy and daddy depending on what he needs. It gets more interesting all the time:) C.
My son is 6 months old and LOVES Daddy. I take it in stride though. The way I see it is since he sees Mommy all day, Daddy becomes different and fun. He has his times though...Mommy is who he goes to when he's tired or not feeling well. Mommy's for nurturing and Daddy's for fun. Not to say I don't have fun with him too but he gets more excited with Daddy time. They go through phases...you're phase is coming though!
WOW! I am also a stay at home mom and 8 moths preg with daughter #2 and when my hubby has his days off, my 2 year old STILL clings to me and wants me to bathe her and put her to sleep. It is very exhausting! I think your son is going through a phase b/c he sees you so much during the day. I wish I had more of a break like that!
K.
I had this same problem and the same feelings. All I could figure out was that he was tired of being with me and wanted to be with his daddy. Don't get your feelings hurt. He will come back to you. Anytime my son (who is 2) gets hurt or something happens to him, he comes to me instead of daddy. It's just a faze and you will get him back, even though it may not feel like it. And then there will come a time when all he wants is you and you will want him to want daddy.
Good luck! And remember, your son still loves you!
Count yourself as lucky! Your son has a daddy who loves him and is there for him. My daughter is 7 months and wants to spend more and more time with daddy. Daddies wait so patiently for their turn to be with the baby. For the first months, baby wants little to do with daddy. When this all changes, it is hard at first, but mommy and daddy serve different roles. When he needs you - he will come to you rather than daddy.
Happens to all of us. Both of my kids want there Daddy all day long. When my husband gets home from work my son will even tell me goodbye and try to kick me out of the house. But Daddy says that when I am gone they do ask for me too.
D.
Hi M.,
Totally normal. They go through stages where they prefer one parent over the other. Enjoy this time when he is with your husband as it gives you some free time. He will eventually want you only or decide to want both of you equally. My son did the same thing for a while. Daddy is someone he doesn't see as often as mommy if daddy works and that makes him fun. Mommy is always with him and that makes mommy not as much fun, especially at that age. Even now my almost 2 year old son prefers his daddy for some things, such as putting him to sleep or getting him out of bed. I know it can stink a bit because you do so much for your son but the beautiful thing about it is that your husband is bonding with your son and taking some of the responsibility and learning a little more about being a male through his time spent with daddy.
And take heart... you get to witness all the little things first and that makes your role so special.
Sincerely,
M. :)
M., I went through the same exact thing. It is heartbreaking but believe me, it will change. I was the one that breastfed my son, did EVERYTHING for him, and then as soon as Daddy came home it was all DADDY DADDY DADDY! It really would bother me for awhile. I tried just to be thankful that my husband was such a great dad that his son loved him so much. I finally figured out that for my son, his father was the one who would participate in PHYSICAL play. Throwing him up in the air and wrestling with him. My son is all boy and that is what he responded to. Just make sure you are always there for your son, keep trying, even if he continues to turn away, keep trying. And believe me, it takes awhile, but it did change. Everything is a stage. This too will pass!
Instead of trying to get him to come to you from Daddy, try a family hug, my daughter loves them and I think it helps her see that Mommy and Daddy both love her and each other. It's not all bad that your son is attached to his Daddy. Enjoy the breaks and take some time for yourself!
M.,
More than likely it is a phase. With my youngest son he did the same thing right around that age. From time to time he still does it. Don't take it personally. But as you say, he sees you all day long and it is nice for him to see his daddy and it is good for him to have that interaction with daddy. Enjoy the time you do have with him and let daddy enjoy the time he has with him, because the older he gets the less time there will be believe me.
S.
SAHM of 3 boys
I know it stinks because I've been there. It actually was the opposite for a while too where our daughter wanted nothing to do with Tim (my fiance). They go back and forth and it's totallly normal and not indicitive of them loving one parent more than the other. For us, it was that she is with me all day long so the days when she wants him more than me, it's becuase she's with me all day and is sick of me (LOL) and the days when she's clinging to me and wants nothing to do with daddy, she's just feeling extra loving and clingy toward me because we spent the whole day together. It will go back and forth like that forever I'm sure. I know it stinks, but just know you are not alone and it is normal.
Girl dont be jeolouse:))) I know we as mom want all the attention! But but it this way! Take atvantage to take care of you!!! Like nice long bath with oils and flowers:)) Do you manucure! It you time when you child is with daddy!
best wishes
A.
