My 8-month old finally began sleeping well at 6 1/2 months to the point where I can put her in her crib, leave the room and she falls asleep by herself (and finally stays asleep!). However, two days ago, she began pulling herself up and standing in her crib and now she just screams and won't lay down and go to sleep, so I can't really use the "let her cry" approach because I have to lay her back down. She does this for both naps and bed time. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
She will lay down and fall asleep when she is tired. If you go in there, you will in for a long road of her getting you up in the night.Good luck!
I agree with all the other mothers. My son just turned 8 months on Monday. He stands up and crys but I just let him cry it out and he sits down and then lays down and then just goes to sleep. I do try several times to calm him down (I hate to hear him cry) but after the 2nd time I let him cry and he falls asleep. I would just make sure her crib is free from a lot of toys so when she finally falls down she doesn't hurt herself hitting anything.
N., this just happened to our 8.5 month old last month as well. One night I would stand outside her room so she couldn't see me and every time she stood up I went in and while I laid her down talked in a calm voice saying I love her and everything is fine, etc. We did this almost 10 (!) times until she just passed out but hasn't done it since. And if she does I see on the monitor she lays back down. But laying her back down does show her how to do it (Kathryn didn't know how to bend her knees yet)and that she can lay back down and everything will be alright. Good luck!
I like the first post....now that she's up, she can't figure out how to get down. Good answer. And, once you are confident in her ability to "sit down after standing"....don't rush into the room so that you can use the approach to let her cry a bit. Good luck.
My twin daughter just started this too at 8 months and I realized after the first day that she didn't know how to get back down, hence the furious scream/crying when she stood up. So I practiced with her during wake times (she immediately started pulling up and standing all over the house) and would show her how to sit down - awkwardly - after she stood up. After 3 days from when she first stood, she can now sit and lay back down in her crib. Doesn't mean she always does this automatically, but it helps to know that she can!
Have you lowered the crib mattress? If so, then at least give her some time to try and figure out how to sit back down and go back to sleep. If you rush in there at the first sound then she'll continue to scream for you. Let her try to figure it out. Also, let her practice during the day. Let her pull up on your fingers or the furniture (or whatever) and help guide her back to the floor.
What I do is just go in and matter-of-factly put her down don't talk to her a lot or engage her or she will get confused as to whether you are coming in to pick her up or not. Do this again and again. I sit outside the door with a book or somethng to do. If she's not getting down because she hasn't learned how to do that yet in her crib, then hold he hands and show her how to grasp the rail to let herself down. This is all you can do but this phase is very short.
Hey there - yeah - that's going to keep happening from time to time. So far, you're on the right track! The best things are to try not to take her out of the crib, and also really not talk to her too much - they say it'll wake them up more & "reward" them. So... I usually just hug my kids (twins - they'll be 2 yrs old next week!) as they're standing up in the crib. Rub their heads or backs, "shhh" them, etc. Hopefully she'll calm down a little, and then you can lay her back down. At first, you may have to do this a bunch of times in a row, but after a while (a few days at the most), when she sees that it isn't getting her out of her crib, then she'll quit doing it - unless of course she doesn't feel good or has a bad dream, or whatever. Sometimes they just want to know that you'll come if you need them, and a little hug & laying them back down is it.
Good luck!
We went through this with our son at about the same age and with a similar situation. The "crying it out" didn't work for us. We tried for several days. Sometimes for minutes, sometimes for hours, but the more he cried the more upset and "awake" he got. We would try to go in and lay him down and he'd just get right back up. We would finally just have to pick him up and he'd fall asleep in our arms in about 2 seconds. He is now 9 1/2 months and falls asleep on his own. So, even though we did things we "weren't supposed to", like pick him up, he grew out of it and has learned! Good luck!
