My son who is 6 just started the first grade and he went 2 days last week and did fine accept he said he missed me. Well this morning I tried to put him on the bus and he started crying and would not get on the bus. So I had to drive him to school and he didn't even want to get out of the car. Well finally I got him in the school and had to leave him crying. I called the school and they said that he calmed down and is fine. My question is how do I get my son to like going to school . I don't really know what to do. I really want him to like it and have fun learning. He also went to the summer program they had and did great. I'm just confused on why he doesn't like it now. I've also asked him if he had been picked on or anything like that and he said no that he just misses me.
My son loves school now thank the Lord!! Thursday and friday he got up, got dressed, ate breakfast and walked right on to the school bus. And with no tears or sad faces. He was acually excited about going. I"m so glad this makes our mornings so much easier and pleasent. I think he really needed time to adjust. Thanks sooooo much for everyones' advice.
If the teachers are saying he did fine, trust them. He'll get over his tears. Tell him you missed him too.
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I'm sure now that school is in full swing it's a big change for him. BUT YOU are the parent and you need to tell him that going to school is what big boys do and that you'll be there waiting for him with a special treat (maybe his favorite snack or a special dvd or playing a game with him) when he gets home . I'd also take advantage of a play time activity to get him to talk and while you're playing with playdoh or leggos say, "So sweetie, what's your favorite thing about school so far? then ask him What don't you like about school far?" That will open the communication and maybe give you some insight to his apprehension - whether it's just him or there IS in fact something going on in the classroom that you don't know about. Ask him about the kids in his class - who's the nicest kids, has he made friends, are there any kids that aren't so nice. I'm hoping this helps.
He is probably feeling the pressure.......kindergarten is fun....this is REALLY school..........at least maybe that is how he feels..........Talk to him........talk about how big he is getting, how proud you are of him.......the new friends he will make, the great new things he will learn..........tell him you miss him too, but you have to let him go because he is going to do so many great things in his life and you have to let him go so that he can become the great person he is meant to be..........You will know what to say..........
Tell him that this is his job now, just like you and Daddy have a job, raising him, working to bring in money to pay bills etc........
He'll be just fine.........hang in there and be sure to tell him what a great job he is doing......
Take care and good luck.
Spend a little extra time with him if you can. It sounds like he may feel like he isn't getting enough mommy time...especially if he was in summer program.
Just talk about first grade with excitement. Focus on the fun of learning new things and discuss what he can do with the new skills he is learning. In example, my 6 year old a few weeks ago:
My son loves to cook. He has never been keen on reading, unfortunately, despite my best efforts. So, I walked him through the steps of making a box of scalloped potatoes. We read the directions, and he put them together and we enjoyed them. I mentioned that without reading the directions, we would not have known how to make the scalloped potatoes. Imagine the things he could cook, if he learned how to read! He was quite motivated by it.
My grandmother used to have tea and cookies (you could do juice or milk and toast or any snack) every day after my mother came home from school. They would spend the time talking about what she learned at school. It was something she could look forward too before having to hit the books in the afternoon. If you have the time, this might be somethign you could do...use it as something to motivate him (we cannot have our tea and talk about all the neat things you learned if you don't get to school!)
Hang in there, keep positive, find things you know he likes and motivate him with it. Then be sure to balance some special time with him too.
It will be ok.
Awwww...poor little guy. He will be just fine. He'll adjust. My son is starting 2nd grade next week, so I can relate. My son was pretty tight lipped about school but I found he would open up more if we chatted while we were doing something else (a game, bath time, etc.) Although it's hard--TRY not to grill him with a million questions when he gets home.
I like the advice about telling him that while he's a kid, school is his "job" kind of.
I'll never forget my son's face, on the day (walking to the bus stop O. morning) when my son, in first grade, came to the realization that Grade 12 was the end of high school! It must seem like a monumental task to a 6 year old! Priceless.
I would really encourage him to ride the bus. I started driving my son he two days I was going to work and it was a HUGE mistake! I ended up driving him every day the last part of the year. That's not happening this year.
Just make sure to stay positive and don't let him see you are upset.
Try this: put a little letter from you, a treat, a small toy on his bed for when he gets home. Soon he'll be racing home to see if there is a small surprise.
maybe you could have a boy from school over on a saturday to play. maybe if he forms a friendship on his home turf he will be glad to go to school to see his friend. don't let him stay home when he gets up set. he will begin to do it more and more. good luck and god bless, R.
talk to his teacher it sounds like something happened in the classroom. maybe the teacher yelled at him or a kid is picking on him. start with asking him and if he wont tell you why then talk to the teacher
You need to help your son see how wonderful school is. If you are happy and upbeat about it, he'll adopt your enthusiasm. You may want to volunteer for an hour a day in the classroom, or maybe twice a week, maybe? I know it's hard to let go, but you need to be brave and give him that loving push he needs to be successful! God bless!
