J.B.
hello, I understand exactly what you r going through. My 9 yr old son just got in trouble at school on friday and got in school suspension for fighting. Patience. You have to have tough love continually. They will try your patience over and over again to try and break you down. The school offers ounseling free. and they also have programs to help children who have aggression and trouble communicating their feelings. My son was in the COPE program for 3 years and it has changed him alot. They provide daily counseling. Ask the school about it. I have seen great results. But with every child, they need to know that their parent cares. Defiance is a tough one to over come, be strong and stay persistant. Their is a book "the five love languages" also helped me understand what their emotions are. My grandmother is a child psychologist and their are a lot of ways to help, 9 is a lot harder because they r set in their ways, but better now than never. Take her to the juvie center and show her where children end up who don't care about what happens to them. I did a tour and the youngest is 8. My son realized life is better on the other side. good luck.